to be annoyed with this topless lady?

[user3785022135267845922]

... we r on holiday in a family resort in sunny country. There is a lady who keeps ending up on the sun loungers opposite us, who seems to enjoy lying topless by the pool everyday. She has a DS who looks about 15, and a DD who looks about 5.

I think it's really inappropriate to sunbathe topless on a family resort in full view of everyone and right by the toddler pool, and with her own DS around. Am I being unreasonable in feeling uncomfortable and wishing she'd cover up??

[JessicaEccles]

I can't see most men and teenage boys trying not to stare at a topless man.

What, even they are gay? And if men are determined to ogle at women's tits, perhaps they could learn a little control.

My friend once got yelled at and harassed in Iran because she was totally covered, apart from her toes poking from underneath her dress.

[NicolasFlamel]

if you feel the need to shield your partner from the sight of breasts I'm actually sad for you. What a strange relationship.

[KinkyAfro]

Is it because your DP/DH is looking at her?

[VinoTime]

If I'm on holiday in a hot country, I always sunbathe topless. I hate tan lines. I can accept a white arse because it's hardly visible, but it drives me crackers looking down at ice white norks that don't match the rest of my torso!

My DD couldn't give two figs about it. I mean, I breastfed her as a baby, she has consistently interrupted every wee/dump/shower/bath I have ever taken since she's been, y'know, alive, and she has an infuriating knack for plonking herself down on my bed to 'talk' whenever I'm getting ready. I'd drop down dead of shock if me whipping out my boobs on holiday was suddenly an issue for her

Sorry OP, but I'm wondering what it is about a pair of boobs that offends you so much. You're not that delicate, surely? Do you need me to fetch the smelling salts?

[GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER]

Sunbathing topless has been common in many parts of Europe for ages. I well remember dd now late 30s, then about 5, saying, 'That lady's got no bra-zis on!' This was on a crowded beach in Greece - dds soon got used to it.

The only thing I found a bit off putting on that particular holiday (put me off my lunch, anyway) was getting a full frontal eyeful of a fat, geriatric German fanny - woman sitting very close by who was changing out of her swimmies - I looked up at just the wrong moment - it was not a pretty sight.

[JacquesHammer]

plus i wouldnt want my partner seeing some other womans boobs

Suggest you tell him not to look. Not any other woman's problem if your partner can't control himself around breasts

[CrossSugarman]

Whether you agree with it or not women's boobs are viewed differently to men. Why is page 3 in the Sun so popular?

All the more reason to more normalise them surely. So people will stop thinking the only context for bare breasts is in the Sun.

[GaryBarlowsTaxReturn]

I used to love sunbathing topless. Very liberating! But post breastfeeding I wouldn't do it now. Hats off to the ladies rocking it though.

[JessicaEccles]

I first went to a nudist beach on holiday- with my parents!- when I was about 13. It was in South of France and was full of families. It was actually really empowering because nobody gave a shiny shite about looking 'sexy' and well groomed. It was all different ages and different sizes.

The only concern was a man who insisted on wrestling with his Alsatian dog and we were a bit worried the dog would think 'Sausage time',

[LoniceraJaponica]

Jessica that's why I said most, not all.

I spend quite a lot of time with teenagers and I think many of you are being a little naive about what teenage boys are like.

I agree with the page 3 comment and that too many people see too many fake boobs and think that is the norm. But it is human nature for most men and teenage boys to look.

[SheWhoLivesHere]

I think uou are missing the point SheWho. Of course there is a difference. I can't see most men and teenage boys trying not to stare at a topless man.

But that is exactly the point! You (not personally you, the general you) are brining up your boys to feel entitled to stare at women. Poor men, with no self control, how can we expect them not to oggle at boobies?

Guess what? I expect men to try not to stare. No, I expect them to succeed in not staring. Fuck off with your victim blaming mentality.

[ButtHoleinOne]

Are women embarrassed to admit how insecure they are about their partners?

My god, dh might see a tit and what will happen then!

[HerOtherHalf]

This is the reason that Page 3 etc should be done away with.

It's a bit chicken and egg. I doubt page 3 would have been as popular as it was (I assume it's be consigned to the history books but never read the Sun) if topless sunbathing had been as commonplace in the UK as it is in Europe. It doesn't help that sunbathing itself isn't that commonplace due to the lack of sun obviously.

[ButtHoleinOne]

I used to relax at the English Gardens in Munich and not stare at the total sausage fest happening across the river. It's almost like women are expected to act like humans and men get a free pass

[CrossSugarman]

My god, dh might see a tit and what will happen then!

Well, before you know it you'll be dumped like a hot potato and he'll be shacked up with Juanita and her bountiful bosoms in Madrid.

[CherriesInTheSnow]

@PrimalLass erm no, it was not a ridiculous comment

It obviously wasn't meant literally, my point was clearly that I felt the OP was spending far too much time worrying about a woman having her breasts out in a setting where, as most of us agree, it is perfectly acceptable to do so. Honestly.

[ButtHoleinOne]

Juanita obviously unable to resist his pale flabby charms.

[chitofftheshovel]

Nothing at all wrong with normalising the human body. Plus it is a fabulous feeling to have air and sun on bits that society tells us to cover up.

[SheWhoLivesHere]

Saying women should cover their boobs because men shouldn't have to control their urges is no different to saying women should wear a burqua for her own safety.

Literally the same thing, just the thinner end of the wedge.

[BigGreenOlives]

I think most adults went topless in the 1970s & 1980s, we went to France & it was definitely v common in Britany & on the west coast. At some point in the 1990s I think people started expecting women to cover up, don't know why.

[mashpot]

Loads of topless women on the beaches of Menorca this year. Whole families of different generations, I was pleased to see it and it made getting changed at the end of the day loads easier because I could just whip my bikini off without wriggling about with the towel 😂

[Magic79]

Sorry Yabu. Nothing wrong with it.

[greendale17]

YANBU- I wouldn't want to see that either

[TeamCersei]

At some point in the 1990s I think people started expecting women to cover up, don't know why.

It's mainly younger women that have stopped doing it.
They value their skin too much and aren't obsessed with getting every little bit of their bodies brown.
Talking to my daughters and their friends, I get the impression they think that think topless sunbathing is a bit naff. A bit 70s/80s as it were.
I also agree with a pp that young women are possibly sick of men leering at them, which a lot do when they see toplessness.

[CrossSugarman]

I'm quite surprised that so many bosoms (well covered ones thank you very much) are being hoiked at the idea of naked breasts poolside in a European resort.