The reason why many men commit violence is because they know they stand a good chance of getting away with it. It's probably not even a conscious thought.
Just this week alone. The jogger who shoved the woman in front of the bus. He actually came back past afterwards. Confident enough that nothing would happen.
The cyclist who rode an illegal bike on the road, killing a woman. He actually blamed her. And is denying responsibility in court. He sincerely thinks he can make it her fault that he killed her.
The DJ who sexually assaulted Taylor Swift. Despite the presence of witnesses and an actual photograph, he still took her to court. Confident that he would be believed.
The creep who photographed a young girl upskirt at a crowded festival, sniggering, followed by the police officer who deleted all the evidence and said there's nothing he can do.
And these only touch the surface.
Not only is male violence normalised by society and the media. Men are conditioned to think it's not really that bad.
Feminists have been trying for decades to combat it. And the number of women murdered each week is actually increasing.
Recognising it and condemning it stops the normalisation.
Every time you read your newspaper or watch the news, and there is a violent crime, gender it. Just say to yourself male violence (if it is).
As you see a pattern develop, say it out loud, to your spouse, your children, your parents and friends. Just murmer it, mmm bloody male violence.
When you read about the women, their families, their children, parents and co-workers it personalises it and contextualises it in a way that statistics on a page simply don't.
And if you find yourself thinking, in the back of your head well, maybe he had a point, for the love of God, stop. Or least recognise that you are normalising it.
When the law changed in the early 90s to make rape within marriage illegal, it took fifteen years. Fifteen years for the largely male Parliament to decide that sex on demand was wrong.
Because it was normalised. Legal rights, to sex on demand.
A mere few decades later, we are aghast that it is so recent. But it required a societal shift to change before it was considered completely wrong.
Does anyone think it would have taken 15 years, if parliament had been made up entirely of women?
Too many women are hurt by male violence. Recognising it, naming it, and condemning it is a start.