To expect 4/5 year old boys to attend/enjoy DD's Frozen themed Birthday party?

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DD soon to be 4 adores Frozen and would like a full on Frozen themed Birthday party. Approximately 3 of the nine or so invited will be boys. I know their parents well enough to comfortably ask whether their boys will want to attend, however, AIBU to NOT provide 'alternative' junk for the boys?

Party bags etc would be along the lines of tiaras, junk jewellery, bubbles, sweets etc, but I've tangled my brain into knots thinking maybe I should offer an alternative to the boys, ie. Spider-Man/Paw Patrol, but then what if some of the girls would prefer Spider Man/Paw Patrol and upset is caused and it all ends up in a case of party bags at dawn? (and more cost incurred on what is essentially utter crap which will be landfill within the fortnight). But will the boys be disappointed by traditional 'girl stuff'?

DD is gloriously, utterly feral, but also has a very girly side which I am happy to indulge (encourage at times!). I want to go all out on her chosen theme but, well, help please oh wise ones. I am losing my way on a non-gender-specific/pc path I fear may be riddled with traps and potential upsets. At 4 (ish) years old are children already socially conditioned enough to really notice/care about this stuff and AIBU to cater to my DDs tastes above all else?

At one party we went to all kids were given a choice between a sword and a tiara type thing - could you do that?
Add a minibag of Haribo and they won't care

Realistically other than the sweets it will all most likely end up in the bin pretty quickly after the party anyway so I wouldn't overthink it too much!

The party is fine, but nobody (parent of boy or girl) wants party bag plastic tat hanging around their house. The party bag doesn't need to be themed. Make them all the same - sweets, a piece of cake, bubbles, pencil and small note book, that sort of thing. Consumable or actually useful.

Just have a frozen themed party but don't theme the party bags? Stick to sweets, bubbles, stickers and birthday cake? That's what I did when dd had a Frozen party.

Hmm not sure my 5 yr old would want a tiara but everything else would be worn.

Personally I probably wouldn't give boys tiaras and jewellery. Could you go for something more neutral? Stickers/ bubbles/ bouncy balls etc? I think I got a load of mini animal water squirters.

I buy party cones for my DC's parties- a lady locally does them for a pound each, filled with retro or penny mix sweets and a personalised sticker with the child's name, a thank you message and pic of your choice.
Would that not be a decent alternative and means no plastic landfill tat?

Frozen bubbles, sweets and cake. Job done and everyone is happy.

DD always loved her party bag tat and it would get a pretty long shelf life in our house. So I would just do what you want and keep everything the same.

We had one boy at DD's Frozen party and his very creative mum made him a Kristoff costume, he looked as cute as a button.

DS (4) would be delighted to get a Frozen tiara

We went to a frozen themed party recently (3yr olds so a bit younger) and in the party bags were:
Frozen pencil
Tiny notebook
Bouncy ball
Smarties
Frozen stickers

My DS was happy with that, despite having never seen the film!

Oh yes, and frozen bubbles.

I would not give anyone else's child a sword.

What about some of those wind up monkeys that flip over?

Agree with the above. Cake, sweets, pencil, notebook & bubbles or stickers in the party bag. Will they play pin the carrot on the Olaf?

The majority of boys will have no interest in tiaras and jewellery. Of course most 4 yo boys are socially conditioned to have no use for such things.

Simplest thing to do is just put bubbles and sweets into the party bags.

I hate plastic party bag yay. It just goes in the bin (recycling bin!). Much better just to give a big bag of sweets to each child. Or something that will actually be eaten or used b

DS2 (8) would be quite happy with jewellery, wands etc. But tbh you are doing the environment a massive favour by leaving the plastic crap aside and sticking to sweets!

I have boys and they love all party bags, they'd love a tiara and would wear it. I don't think you should have seperate party bags for different genders.

I wouldn't give anyone else's child a sword

I don't suppose it would be a real one my ds (4) would live a sword, not so much a tiara though!

I'd just stick to sweets and some pencils/notebook, something quite neutral or do the boys something a bit less girly girl.

I did a frozen party to include boys. I'm v minimal with party bags they usually get one item and sweets and cake. The girls got a snowflake bracelet I bought in bulk from eBay and the 3 boys got minions playing cards that were reduced to pence in the entertainer I think. Everyone was happy.

Little bit older, but DD2 and her best friend shared a Frozen themed party in October. They were 6

For the girls we ordered Frozen sequin pictures from the £ shop and the boys had a blind bag pack some were super heroes and a couple if younger boys had Horrid Henry ones (I couldn't get all matching) then a pack f Haribo, a pack of chocolate animal biscuits and a frozen themed chocolate bar (7 in a pack from £shop)

By three year old would LOVE a frozen themed party but he is just starting to hit the age where he might be a bit meh about tiaras (or he would love them could go either way on the day). If you are going frozen themed could you go for something like coloring pens, bouncy ball (my primary had amazing Disney princess bouncy balls that flash when you bounce them all hd the were like a pound). All kids would like thos (parents possibly not so much )

And agree it's social conditioning but it is what it is. My son has a pink hat he loves, but he got furious when I referred to it as pink because "pink is for girls mummy". Cognitive dissonance.

I wouldn't do separate for different genders

how about some colouring sheets (Elsa Olaf Anna Sven) small pack of pencil crayons, stickers, bubbles cake

Gender neutral

My son would be happy and pleased to attend a frozen party he would like the 'junk' jewellery too, tbh I think you are being a bit sexist. How would you feel if your daughter attended a party and received a little car? I doubt you would care....