DD soon to be 4 adores Frozen and would like a full on Frozen themed Birthday party. Approximately 3 of the nine or so invited will be boys. I know their parents well enough to comfortably ask whether their boys will want to attend, however, AIBU to NOT provide 'alternative' junk for the boys?
Party bags etc would be along the lines of tiaras, junk jewellery, bubbles, sweets etc, but I've tangled my brain into knots thinking maybe I should offer an alternative to the boys, ie. Spider-Man/Paw Patrol, but then what if some of the girls would prefer Spider Man/Paw Patrol and upset is caused and it all ends up in a case of party bags at dawn? (and more cost incurred on what is essentially utter crap which will be landfill within the fortnight). But will the boys be disappointed by traditional 'girl stuff'?
DD is gloriously, utterly feral, but also has a very girly side which I am happy to indulge (encourage at times!). I want to go all out on her chosen theme but, well, help please oh wise ones. I am losing my way on a non-gender-specific/pc path I fear may be riddled with traps and potential upsets. At 4 (ish) years old are children already socially conditioned enough to really notice/care about this stuff and AIBU to cater to my DDs tastes above all else?