Aibu? It's a mil one... nursery photo

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It was Ds first day at nursery today. For a specific reason I've deactivated facebook this week with the aim of going back next week to share pics of first day etc. It's a really emotional day for me for various reasons.
I sent a couple of pics to grandparents which were not for public view as they have the name of ds nursery in them.
Dh has just told me his mum has shared on fb. I'm pretty annoyed because a, it's our first and right to share and b, nursery name thing.
I've messaged her and (politely) asked her to remove it. Dh thinks I'm massively unreasonable and she'll now be upset.
Àibu to be upset and have emailed her?

Ah ok pale and nomore, missed that!
Ds had a great time and can't wait to go back tomorrow, thank you.

Another Grandmother here, I always ask permission before I post my own DGC or any children for that matter.

I'm pretty relaxed about family sharing photos of ds, but they all ask me beforehand every single time without fail so I think yanbu.

Jesus peace. Why does anyone think that other people care that their child has started nursery

This

I would never post a picture of somebody else's child without asking for permission first. And I expect everyone to do the same, family included.

What the fuck? Can't believe all the posters assuming she has the right to post it on fb unless specifically told not to.

She should NOT post it unlese specifically given permission.

Fucking hate fb

So grandchildren are other people's children now

Well yes, it's obvious isn't it?

YANBU OP, whatever your reason, she should not have posted your photos. They were not hers to post

Why does anyone think that other people care that their child has started nursery

There are a few good reasons why a parent would care that a child's start in nursery had been broadcast by another party whose security settings might not be up to scratch.

An example is a case of a child whose parent has fled domestic violence and started fresh somewhere else.

It is not unknown for stalking of the ex partner to occur in a case like this, nor is it unknown that kidnap attempts or contact attempts or false reports to social services about the children's welfare could be made by the perpetrator of the DV. It is not unknown for DV perpetrators to check former ILs' FB and other social media to get information on their former partner or children.

This is why the inclusion of the nursery name could be problematic as could photos with school uniforms, recognisable or traceable landmarks in the background, or names of pubs, train stations, buses with number and destination visible, etc..