To think it's normal to hate some people

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I hate some people on this planet (no going to name names). I have a family member who declares to hate no one and verbally attacks me if I ever state that I hate a certain person. It comes across as fake and sanctimonious to me. Surely it's normal to hate certain people?

Close friend not class frudnd!!! And have not gave

Can't think of a single person I hate or have ever hated but I see the positives in most people.

DSDs mum isn't particularly delightful and put me through a really hard time a few years back, but she also adores her daughter who is my favourite person in the world.

Not a big fan of my SIL as she has made some awful comments about our infertility, but she had a tough upbringing and probably has some attachment issues that aren't her fault.

dollydaydream114 - Absolutely agree. I've no problem with people saying they don't hate anyone. I've got a major problem with someone who knows fuck-all about anyone's situation or why they might hate another person telling them that there is something wrong with them for the way they feel. There's some incredibly thoughtless, complacent, ill-informed faux-psychology stuff being said here.

I also agree with what some other posters have said about how finally giving yourself permission to feel angry or to hate someone who has harmed you can be healthy. I definitely think it can give people the courage to escape a violent partner or report an abusive family member to the police.

Class frudnd pretty much hates everyone!!! Who's right? Neither of us! We r just different and gave different experiences and views

No, your friend who hates everyone is not right. She might need some help though.

I don't hate anyone. Apart from those fuckers who can't be bothered to change their user name after registering. User19282837361 I am looking at you, you fucker.

Yep I hate hate hate hate hate my mil and bil

Hate is a strong emotion. I'm glad I don't feel that way about anyone.

The only person I hate is my violent and aggressive ex P. I'm a spiritualist and believe in forgiveness. But I can't forgive him. I could forgive him for what he's done to me, but not for what he's done to my children.

Wishing them harm, beyond the natural punishments of karma

Oh, if only this was real. Some people do really deserve it.

Doris

Karma isn't real and also doesn't mean what you think it means

I also agree with what some other posters have said about how finally giving yourself permission to feel angry or to hate someone who has harmed you can be healthy.

Ok my mind is changed. I've always tried to be a non-hater but you know what? I need to hate the person that has caused me so much pain along with my loved ones and lots of others. A truly abhorrent arsehole of a cunt and I fucking hate that person.

OP - lots of my family were murdered horrifically by the Nazis, but I wouldn't say I hate the Nazis. I wouldn't waste my emotional energy. I grieve for those who were murdered, I am deeply saddened by that, but hating the perpetrators won't bring them back or undo things.

I don't want to be consumed by hate. The best revenge is living a happy life. What makes me happy is that the oldest man in the world until last week was an 113-year-old Auschwitz survivor. He outlasted all of the Nazis.

Use your energies for good. Hate won't change the past. But it can change you.

Hate is a strong word.. you can dislike people though!

I am lucky to have not lived through a reason to hate anyone.

This for me too. I can think of good reasons to hate, but I don't have any.

I'm really pleased for you Polly and hope it helps . 💐

I am often hated, intensely, for something I am not but which they assume I am (ethnicity). It's freaking depressing and scary.

Oo!
I'd like to be Mr "love and peace" but then I think of:
David Davis
Jacob Rees-Mog
Michael Gove
Boris Johnson

At which point I'm back to feeling bloodthirsty. I've had to deal with the fact I'm no hippy... man

I feel like I hate some people, but experience has shown me that when someone horrible happens to the people I think I hate I don't hate them at all and only wish them well

Yes, there are 3 people i hate, like truly hate.
I wouldnt piss on them if they were on fire, so definitely no effort to hate them lmao

Someone i dislike i could still help in some emergency, someone i hate, no, id walk on by, screw them