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About blogger friend?

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PhilippeFlop · 16/08/2017 10:50

My friend has been blogging her TTC journey for about a year now and has been pretty successful with it (Huffington post features etc) she's a great writer and has a way with words but she has really gone for the shock factor and blogs about every detail of her life including her husbands and friends.

If she doesn't like something you say or do, she will post a brutal blog post about you so I have found myself avoiding her a bit which I feel harsh about but I sometimes feel that she is just waiting for someone to slip up so she can blog about it.

She really goes for the shock factor, think lots of swearing, intricate details about her sex life, periods and how much she wants to punch everyone in the face who doesn't share the same views as her.

This whole blogging thing has really changed her as a person, she has become really boastful about it and is forever reminding anyone and everyone how many people view her blog around the world, I'm happy for the success that she is having with it but she is beginning to lose friends due to slagging them off in the posts.

I have been a good, supportive friend in her TTC journey as I have been there myself but AIBU in distancing myself from her as I don't want to risk a bashing or my personal life posting on her blogs?

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Feilin · 16/08/2017 10:53

Yanbu but you know we want the blog link right? .😄 Id do the same,if im honest. A lot of lies were spread about me on livejournal in the days before facebook thankfully but it still had a huge impact on me . Nasty. So yes steer clear.

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PhilippeFlop · 16/08/2017 10:54

If it wouldn't out me, I would post the blog link.

I avoid Facebook like the plague these days, it seems people over share far too much and it can get nasty like you say.

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KC225 · 16/08/2017 10:55

And that's why Liz Jones doesn't have any friends

Grace789 · 16/08/2017 10:56

I'm intrigued to know who! You're best steering clear you don't want her airing your dirty laundry to thousands of readers!!

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 16/08/2017 10:59

YANBU at all. I would be very wary of her for fear of appearing in a blog post.

If you want to PM me the link, that would be fine

ibbleobbleblackbubble · 16/08/2017 11:03

Is she really a great writer?
If she was wouldn't she write a book and get it published rather than giving it away for free?

Purplemac · 16/08/2017 11:03

YANBU. I blogged a bit about our infertility journey and our adoption journey, and I would never, EVER have written about my friends or husband in a negative way at all. It's bizarre. She knows they can see it right?!

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 16/08/2017 11:06

Also, excessive swearing isn't the sign of a great writer. Knowing when to use specific words to have the biggest impact makes a great writer.

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PhilippeFlop · 16/08/2017 11:09

She knows everyone who knows her reads it. Her husband is supportive of her blogging so must not mind her talking about him like she does.

I'm not sure why she says things about her friends knowing that they can see it, its puzzled me for a while.

I'm also a little worried that her colleagues read it too and due to her line of work, some of the stuff she says could get her into trouble. She's an intelligent woman so she must be aware of this.

It's kind of like she's taken on a whole new persona if that makes sense?

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PNGirl · 16/08/2017 11:09

Bloggers are minted - it may be free to read, but it's not free to advertise on blogs or get them to review your product or service!

livefornaps · 16/08/2017 11:09

I'd tell her "you ain't no Carrie Bradshaw, love" and then await a flaming.

ibbleobbleblackbubble · 16/08/2017 11:11

She may be an intelligent woman but it also sounds as if she's getting her ego stroked by a bunch of sycophants
That is often enough to make intelligent people do daft things

ibbleobbleblackbubble · 16/08/2017 11:14

Are bloggers really minted?
I've never read a blog where the writing wasn't just Dire😶

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PhilippeFlop · 16/08/2017 11:17

I think you may have hit the nail on the head there ibble

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AvoidingCallenetics · 16/08/2017 11:19

Looks like the attention has gone to her head. I've never understood why people want to share every personal detail of their lives and while it is her choice, she doesn't have the right to make that choice for her friends/family.
So I think you would be well within your rights to tell her that she isn't to use your friendship as part of her blog. If she doesn't respect that, she is no friend.

Feilin · 16/08/2017 11:20

Dooce would tell you they arent minted . They make money yes but they arent rich from it unless they get lucrative deals like pioneer woman etc. most bloggers get paid yes but not enough to retire on.

AvoidingCallenetics · 16/08/2017 11:20

As a friend though, I would warn her about risking her job.

ibbleobbleblackbubble · 16/08/2017 11:22

I think you can get a bit of an Emperor's New Clothes type situation
Because everyone is praising her no one wants to be the bad friend or the disloyal friend who points out that actually it's a bit off

ClopySow · 16/08/2017 11:22

Oooh link? PM link?

ibbleobbleblackbubble · 16/08/2017 11:24

If she wants to use your life as material for her blog shouldn't you get a cut of the profits?
If you think that argument sounds like a Longshot consider the fact that she's actually monetizing your friendship....

NannyRed · 16/08/2017 11:25

Carry on avoiding her. If she asks why just gently explain that you don't want to end up being the subject of her blog and walk away with dignity, she'll probably blog about it but hey hoe, you'll have your dignity intact.

QuimReaper · 16/08/2017 11:26

Bloggers are minted

A tiny, tiny number of them are. Not usually the best writers either.

lifeinthecountry · 16/08/2017 11:29

Are bloggers really minted?

Successful bloggers can make anything from a decent normal income to a seven figure income.

I wouldn't want to all over someone else's blog either OP, YANBU

schoolgaterebel · 16/08/2017 11:30

Has she actually blogged about you?

If she has l'd probably end the friendship (actually i'd probably just silently distance myself from her, any drama will obviously be blogged about) I'm extremely private and I would hate the thought of being mentioned (even anonymously) online.

PNGirl · 16/08/2017 11:32

I was simply responding to the post about giving writing away "for free". If she's "pretty successful" then she's earning money.