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About blogger friend?

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PhilippeFlop · 16/08/2017 10:50

My friend has been blogging her TTC journey for about a year now and has been pretty successful with it (Huffington post features etc) she's a great writer and has a way with words but she has really gone for the shock factor and blogs about every detail of her life including her husbands and friends.

If she doesn't like something you say or do, she will post a brutal blog post about you so I have found myself avoiding her a bit which I feel harsh about but I sometimes feel that she is just waiting for someone to slip up so she can blog about it.

She really goes for the shock factor, think lots of swearing, intricate details about her sex life, periods and how much she wants to punch everyone in the face who doesn't share the same views as her.

This whole blogging thing has really changed her as a person, she has become really boastful about it and is forever reminding anyone and everyone how many people view her blog around the world, I'm happy for the success that she is having with it but she is beginning to lose friends due to slagging them off in the posts.

I have been a good, supportive friend in her TTC journey as I have been there myself but AIBU in distancing myself from her as I don't want to risk a bashing or my personal life posting on her blogs?

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alltouchedout · 16/08/2017 11:42

If I couldn't trust a friend not to blog about me publicly, we wouldn't be friends.

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PhilippeFlop · 16/08/2017 11:43

She hasn't blogged about me yet, a few people from our friendship group have been.

I'm very private, have no social media presence so don't want to be the subject of anyone's blog posts.

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HellonHeels · 16/08/2017 11:44

She sounds horrible.

LTB (seriously, dump her!)

Donttouchthethings · 16/08/2017 11:47

YANBU.
I would back slowly out. (Don't spook her.)

SomewhereInbetween1 · 16/08/2017 11:48

Is she thechildlessmother.blog?

RhubardGin · 16/08/2017 11:49

Link please! Grin

She sounds awful OP but you only have a few options:

  1. Tell her that she's acting like a complete twat and that she will shortly be losing a lot of her friends
  1. Distance yourself entirely from the friendship
Grace789 · 16/08/2017 11:52

Link her blog on here, that will give her something to talk about and also give her chance to reflect on seeing everyone's "complimentary" opinions of her Grin

morningconstitutional2017 · 16/08/2017 12:07

I don't blame you for wanting to avoid her. You know what they say about writers? They will always betray a confidence, their friends, etc, etc, because for them it's all about the story. An honest writer will always admit to having no shame.

AsleepAtMyDesk · 16/08/2017 12:10

I would tell her straight that if you ever see anything about yourself in any of her blogs than you will not be friends anymore. That way she knows exactly how you feel and you can have an honest conversation about it.

tribpot · 16/08/2017 12:16

How dreadful. The only way you could do that - a real warts-and-all blog - would be anonymously. It does sound as if the attention has gone to her head.

I would quietly drop her and never read her blog.

flashheartscanoe · 16/08/2017 12:19

It would be totally fine to message her and say that you have noticed she writes about her friends and that you just want to remind her that you value your privacy and have chosen not to have an online presence and you don't give your permission to appear in her blog anonymously or otherwise. If she takes offence at that then you have your answer.

Bluewithblueeyes · 16/08/2017 12:28

My DH's estranged daughter has a blog. It's full of half truths and half the story and some completely inaccurate details which my DH is really upset about. She likes to link it to all her social media stuff so anyone can read it, including his family. Horrible.

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PhilippeFlop · 16/08/2017 12:28

I'm due to see her this weekend for some drinks and a catch up, I'm totally torn as to weather to bring it up with her and ask her not to mention me in her blogs and seen how she reacts then go from there or just to bow out quietly from the friendship.

She would hit the roof if I posted a link to her blog here as tempting as it is

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PhilippeFlop · 16/08/2017 12:30

See not seen!

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Bluewithblueeyes · 16/08/2017 12:30

Why would she hit the roof?

Live by the sword......

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PhilippeFlop · 16/08/2017 12:41

I think she would feel that I'm being unsupportive

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 16/08/2017 12:43

Yes, you are unsupportive of bitching blogs that use real life relationships to get attention and money.

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 16/08/2017 12:48

She knows everyone who knows her reads it

Which means it wouldn't out you if you posted a link so we can judge her Grin

teaandtoast · 16/08/2017 12:52

You must be on your guard all the time, trying not to say 'blog-worthy' stuff to her. How do you manage a catch up?

4691IrradiatedHaggis · 16/08/2017 12:53

I blog, and I now need to know whether it's one I follow at all Grin
Word of warning though - if you did post a link to it on here, depending on what blog host she uses it'll link her to where all the sudden spike in traffic is coming from and this thread!
Seeing as you've said you're due to meet her this weekend she'll no doubt put two and two together and you'll have totally outed yourself... so not a good idea!

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PhilippeFlop · 16/08/2017 12:58

teaandtoast it's not enjoyable anymore, Im thinking I'm just going to tell her all this when I see her. We've been friends for a long time and been through a lot together so I would like to think she will take my feelings on board. If she doesn't, I will likely be the subject of her next blog post.

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Bluewithblueeyes · 16/08/2017 13:10

Surely people have privacy rights?

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 16/08/2017 13:23

Ah if it will show it up as linking from here then just the name will do gwan gwan Op we need to see it

heron98 · 16/08/2017 13:37

YANBU. She sounds awful.

I have an acquaintance who has a successful mummy blog. It's full of photos and videos of her kids. I think it's a bit....unethical as they haven't exactly given her their permission.

Groovee · 16/08/2017 13:40

She'll lose friends if she blogs about them.