About blogger friend?

[PhilippeFlop]

My friend has been blogging her TTC journey for about a year now and has been pretty successful with it (Huffington post features etc) she's a great writer and has a way with words but she has really gone for the shock factor and blogs about every detail of her life including her husbands and friends.

If she doesn't like something you say or do, she will post a brutal blog post about you so I have found myself avoiding her a bit which I feel harsh about but I sometimes feel that she is just waiting for someone to slip up so she can blog about it.

She really goes for the shock factor, think lots of swearing, intricate details about her sex life, periods and how much she wants to punch everyone in the face who doesn't share the same views as her.

This whole blogging thing has really changed her as a person, she has become really boastful about it and is forever reminding anyone and everyone how many people view her blog around the world, I'm happy for the success that she is having with it but she is beginning to lose friends due to slagging them off in the posts.

I have been a good, supportive friend in her TTC journey as I have been there myself but AIBU in distancing myself from her as I don't want to risk a bashing or my personal life posting on her blogs?

Not a hope would I spend time with any of my friends if they were liable to blog about me. The whole blogging thing would put me off them anyway. I find mummy blogs and similar cringeworthy and tedious.

I agree that people will be wary of being friends for fear of being negatively portrayed online. I'd be distancing myself from someone doing this.

I'm also really interested in reading this blog now.

I'm another one who wants to read the blog now!
Just don't link it as it'll link back to here. Tell us the name instead lol (as a blogger you want people to read it anyway, so probably would be rubbing her hands at all the extra hits..... )

Although no doubt some troll would grass you up and link on the blog itself (cynical, moi?) so maybe not the best idea to name as it'll out you.
We'll all just have to guess instead.....

I'd say off the record every other sentence if I had to spend time with her.

I also want to read this blog now! Any chance of a PM of the name?

I think when you meet up with her after a bit of general chit chat I would say " I've been a bit worried about meeting up you, it's great that your blog is doing well but I'm conscious that anything I might say today is going to end up on there and to be honest although some of your friends might not mind the things you say about them it's not something I would want you to do to me"

Then sit back and see what sort of response you get. I suspect you will always feel guarded with her now even if she reassures you she won't post about you. Over the years I've noticed that one of my closest friends is a real gossip and pretty critical with it too. We still see each other but I'm realistic that she probably talks about me behind my back and has plenty of "opinions" about my life so I don't share anything personal with her anymore just meet up for light hearted chats and a laugh

YANBFU for posting this without a link to the blog

That was meant to say YABFU! Fat fingers

scrub you are being frightfully unreasonable?

Liz Jones also sprung to my mind, too! A woman who sees everyone as fodder for her writing. She has even said in her column that she has lost friends due to writing about them. Yet still she goes on although I suspect half of it may be made up despite feeling lonely.

I would be tempted to swerve the meetup tbh.

YANBU at all!

I was friends with someone who totally changed once they got some success at blogging (not as much as in OP, like Huff post etc, but a decent following from people interested in the topic IYSWIM). Really changed them and many got sick of the ego trip and were rolling their eyes way before I did.

It is all bullshit though, what they write - huge exaggerations, melodramatics and conveniently glossing over things that didn't fit their perfect image.

It's quite sad as they paint themselves as this expert in quite a sensitive topic which has massive impact on people's lives, but it's all lies and yet people fall over themselves to admire them.

There was also a lot of jealousy and bitterness every time someone else had any little success with their own blogs (about the same subject but mostly kept to family/friends rather than promoted on twitter etc) - like getting products to test etc. Really bizarre as they had absolutely loads of this success - great for them as they put lots of effort into pursuing leads etc which really paid off - but they couldn't stand anyone else getting even a tiny piece of good luck!

Sorry for the rant it's been bugging me a while!

OP I would really be backing off if my privacy was at risk, I would never be able to relax around her again if I were you TBH. She really can't complain when there's evidence that she has done this to others. She can't have her cake and blog about eat it.

@SomewhereInbetween1 I would doubt it was thechildlessmother.blog I knew her when I was younger and she doesn't swear on her blog? And writes nothing but lovely things about her husband. I am very intrigued though!

It is all bullshit though, what they write - huge exaggerations, melodramatics and conveniently glossing over things that didn't fit their perfect image.

It's quite sad as they paint themselves as this expert in quite a sensitive topic which has massive impact on people's lives, but it's all lies and yet people fall over themselves to admire them.

Totally agree.

intricate details about her sex life, periods and how much she wants to punch everyone in the face who doesn't share the same views as her

^ this alone would make me want to walk away from the friendship

YANBU
I've distanced myself from someone for the same reason.