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I've just been fat shamed by a 4 year old

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Mooey89 · 15/08/2017 18:24

'Why do mummies have to have such huge massive fat tummies?'

Along with helpful cunt exMIL this morning chirpily 'I am a bit worried about how much you want another baby, are you sure you aren't too fat to conceive now?'

Luckily last week I had an epiphany and I have been back to my diet 100% this week, but I do have 4 stone to lose.

Please can you cheer me up with similar tales of child honesty???

I'm just focusing on the time aged 6 that I told DM that she smelt like wet dog... 🙈

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Dilligaf81 · 16/08/2017 22:36

I think when kids say things like this we don't have to 'deal with hem' as someone earlier said. If they are only pointing out the truth maybe we just work on the volume of it instead.
My kids often tell people I'm not a fat money but i do have giant boobs and a really wobbly bum that when you touch just keeps wobbling. Can't tell them off at its all true. Grin

stronglizzie · 16/08/2017 22:41

My ds when he was 3 asked a woman why she had smashed bits in her eyes. At the same age he also asked a friend's mother whether her very expensive blouse with pearl buttons had been made in China (I'ld been drumming in the fact that he shouldn't put toys in his mouth)

DaemonPantalaemon · 16/08/2017 22:50

If they are only pointing out the truth maybe we just work on the volume of it instead

How is it truthful to say a black man is a gorilla and to make monkey noises? And I see MNHQ has not responded at all to my complaint about that post.

Nice to see what you people find funny. And truthful. And you wonder where Britain First nationalists come from!

AtSea1979 · 16/08/2017 22:50

My DS said give them to "that fat man" when putting my clothes on the counter to be bought. I ignored him so he said really loud "mummy I said give them to that fat man". Poor cashier bloke looked mortified. I blame the fat controller
When out one day DS also said, really loudly (deaf, so speaks too loud) "Mum I think a bird has poo'd on your head, bend down a min, yes yes I think it has there's a big white patch" my grey roots Blush

Sashkin · 16/08/2017 22:52

Lizzie Why did she have smashed bits in her eyes? I don't understand....

stronglizzie · 16/08/2017 22:56

Burst blood vessels....

Bananamama1213 · 16/08/2017 22:57

Neighbours 6yr old said "my mummy not like you, she's not as wide" to my friend who is on the larger side 🙈

Luckily she found it funny! When I told neighbour, she was mortified

AtSea1979 · 16/08/2017 23:03

Out with my friend L (in her 30s). DS commented about friend not being married. I said to DS when you are same age you can marry L. Waiting for the usual "eewwww girls" and to see if he could work out that my friend would also age too. He did. He say "no way. When I am L's age, she will be dead"

Bluesrunthegame · 16/08/2017 23:05

In the queue in the post office, 2 year old DS1, who had been very quiet since a hospital stay, turned to the man behind us and said, in the loudest, clearest voice: "My mummy's got red pants on."

namechanger2735 · 16/08/2017 23:52

She didn't say it. But it's always a kick in the teeth when your 10 month old baby is laying the low down changing table while you're getting dressed after swimming, she frowns and grabs your nipple as if to say "what are these doing down here??"
She almost 1 now and I'm 12 weeks pregnant, she pokes my belly as if to say bloody hell where did that come from whilst giving it the occasional smack. I think she senses competition

Wally1983 · 17/08/2017 00:19

Out with my then 3yo we pass a man in a wheelchair who only has 1 leg...cue the loudest voice I've ever heard him speak in, he pipes up "that man is legless"!!! I've never been so embarrassed in all my life 😮. The man even answered "I know I am" while laughing! I laugh now but really didn't find it funny at the time!

Avonandice · 17/08/2017 01:08

My beloved son informed our local policeman that "mummy walks round the streets and people pay her money"

I'm the local Avon lady.

squoosh · 17/08/2017 01:22

How is it truthful to say a black man is a gorilla and to make monkey noises? And I see MNHQ has not responded at all to my complaint about that post.

Christ, someone proudly told a 'funny' anecdote about their child calling a black person a gorilla? And someone else said the child is just being truthful?

Wow. Your kid says something like that, you put a stop to it there and then. Permanently.

squoosh · 17/08/2017 01:25

Ok, it seems the 'deal with it' post is more a response to rude/blunt comments on appearance in general. Yeah, that still needs to be dealt with. Kids comments can hurt even if there's no malice behind them.

RaqsMax · 17/08/2017 05:47

Queuing up in a busy bank with my daughter. A young man came in on crutches; he was wearing shorts and had a high amputation so no stump was visible at all. My daughter started shouting 'Mister! Mister! You've dropped your leg!'

Very embarrassing, but very funny. The guy was creased up, as were the entire queue of customers!

OwlinaTree · 17/08/2017 07:45

I think the little child said look a gorilla and the man made the monkey noises. That's how I read it.

Believeitornot · 17/08/2017 07:50

When my dcs comment on appearances, I make sure to tell them that it isn't very nice (if they make unwittingly rude comments) and they've been taught to whisper it to me quietly if they see something.

I was impressed that they'd paid attention because we had some furniture delivered recently. Dd pulled me to one side and whispered that she could see the mans hairy bum 😂😂😂😂 and I struggled to maintain composure until he'd left.

BrutusMcDogface · 17/08/2017 08:56

I see the gorilla comment has been removed but yes, it was the man, and not the child, making the oo oo noises. Not saying it's acceptable of course; it should have provided a good learning opportunity for the kid in question, but Ffs it's a little kid. No social filter; they say what they see and think.

BrutusMcDogface · 17/08/2017 08:59

My little brother once shouted out "why has that man got a chocolate face?" My mum was mortified and shushed him, but I remember thinking at the time (aged about 12) that she should have just explained different coloured skin to him. I still agree now, and this is the approach I always take with my kids when they notice differences.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 17/08/2017 09:03

they've been taught to whisper it to me quietly if they see something.

I know children don't have the same social filter as adults and their loud comments can hurt people but I don't think it's a good idea to teach them to whisper about people either. That isn't kind either and you wouldn't want them carrying that on later. They would get into trouble at school.

PerfectlyPosed · 17/08/2017 09:05

My 2 year old DD is constantly pointing out that MIL has a "bogey" under her nose and gives her a tissue. Said "bogey" is actually a mole 😬

Peanutbuttercheese · 17/08/2017 09:06

When DS was 3 and sat in the shopping trolley he asked every loudly 'why does that man have a baby in his tummy'

The guy had an enormous beer belly.

whatsthepointinwasps · 17/08/2017 09:23

My 4 year DGS was visiting me for my birthday, the conversation went like this:

DGS - "Nana how many numbers actually are you?"
Me - "I'm 47."
DGS - "Oh Nana that's a lot!"
Me - "Well I suppose it's a lot more than you."
DGS - "You do know what happens when you get old don't you?"
Me - "What do you think happens?"
DGS - "You get closer to dying."

In toilet cubicle in local large supermarket with younger DGS who was 3. The toilets had appeared empty when we when in so very quiet.

DGS - "Are you doing a wee or a poo?"
Me - "Eh that's a bit private."
DGS - " But are you Nana?"
Me - "It doesn't matter because this is a toilet and people just do what they need to in toilets."
DGS - "Well a poo might be stinky like your farts."
Once finished we left the cubicle, I opened the door to see one of my work colleagues washing her hands at the sink......not sure if she heard! Blush

Wassock · 17/08/2017 09:51

Children speak from the heart don't they when they embarrass us most publicly? 😂 But they can also be incredibly sweet when WE are beating ourselves up about our perceived flaws! My daughter's responses to certain things:

Dieting: don't diet mummy, I like you cuddly, not hard like (inserts name of very thin mother of her friend). Nobody likes cuddling hard people!

Stretch marks: don't worry about them mummy, they're your baby stripes. If you didn't have them, you wouldn't have us...and then you'd be sad!

Ever increasing wrinkles...and my horror when looking at hands and realising how old they looked!!: but they are so soft now mummy, like grandad's(!!) hands and I will always hold them!

So you see...whilst they LOVE to embarrass us, when it comes down to it, they really love us no matter what.

Teddy7878 · 17/08/2017 09:57

My then 3 year old niece one said to me 'you should put makeup on to make yourself pretty'
She's also told me I have a fat bum

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