to want my SIL to call my niece by her original name?

[peevedfrompurley]

My neice is now 9 months old and, unbeknown to me, my SIL has been calling her by her middle name`rather than her first name on a regular basis. She chose both her names, but apparently feels she had always preferred the babe's middle name rather than the first, and that she felt pressurised by db into relegating her fave name to second position. Apparently she had been expecting to have a boy so didn't have a girl's name ready at the time. She thinks she rushed the decision.

Now she point-blank refuses to call her by her first name. As db is working 16 hours a day, he hardly gets to see his dd, so she will grow up thinking her second name is her real name!

I still want to call my niece by her first name, sil thinks that's OK but I think that's v confusing for her, we don't see them that often, but still, think sil is being deliberately difficult. I think if she made the wrong decision name-wise she should just grin and bear it, I think it all a bit wierd.

Whaddya think?

Glad to hear it. I love that name. It seems you and your sister have a flair for excellent but controversial names.

I never reveal them on here hatrick for fear of the pain of MN scorn poured upon something so dear to me. My dd has the most conventional name of the four of them.

I think your sil is far more understanding than you are, its up to her what she calls her dd if your db doesnt like it I am sure he will say. I think its good of her to let you call her daughter by her first name,even though she obviously doesnt like it. when she is older your niece will probably correct you if you continue to call her a name she is not called by her parents.