Hand hold. Please.

[MrsCK]

Husband in ambulance.

He's been in hospital for 2 weeks with gallstones. We were on holiday staying near our parents. I came back home and dh was discharged this morning. Plan was he would stay a night with his parents and back home to me tomorrow. Except now something's happened and he's been blue lighted back to hospital.

I'm panicking and need to not google

Please can someone just hug me :,(

Gallstones are really painful - chances are there's just another one in there and he's in a lot of pain again. Hoping so for you anyway.

I'd ring The hospital for information, it's the not knowing that's so hard.
(( hugs ))

Thank you. Who would I ring? A and E?

Hand hold here OP. Are his parents with him? Can you call them?

Couldn't get through to fil but he's just phoned. Not very reassuring tbh as he just told me that he's in a huge amount of pain and dr is struggling to get a line in. He sounded worried.

Can you die from gallstones?

Thank you for holding my hand.

It's been a shit shit shit 6 months for us

Oh OP try not to worry it's just the panic making you think the worst.

Give A&E reception a call. If they aren't the best place they'll redirect your call. When I was admitted in an ambulance my DM rang through to the medical assessment unit but not sure if it's the same in all hospitals

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Just seen the update - OP do still consider calling the hospital so you can get the facts and ask any questions, but maybe leave it a little bit if you can bear whilst they establish the issue.

Hand hold

Hope he is ok, google your local hospital and call the switchboard or A&E reception if you can find it.

Ok I like that idea. I do really just need facts rather than opinions which fil is giving.

I just want to know if he's going to be ok

Is there anyway you can go to the hospital or do you have DC in bed?

@MrsCK good luck my love. If you can't get to speak to the medical staff (could be busy on Fri night) ring FiL and ask specifically for him to call you when the doctor is next around, so you can speak direct

You might not be there in person but you have an equal right to be informed by the professionals

Make a sugary tea. Sip it slowly.

Thank you. No I can't get there. I don't drive, dc in bed and he's 100 miles away.

Fil likes to be the one to do everything so I often perceive I get shunted out of the way. I have to be aware that's just a perception I have and not necessarily the truth.

Tea sounds good

I was in a similar situation a couple of weeks ago, the worst thing is not knowing what's going on. I agree that you should call the hospital and make sure Fil calls you as soon as the doctors tell him anything.

@MrsCK all fingers crossed for you, as PP said I'm sure it's just pain, which is horrible but he's in the right place.

Have that tea and try not to sit and worry although I know it can't really be helped. Do your proactive things like calling the hospital and FIL but then put the tv on and try to distract yourself from googling or thinking the worst. We're all sending you good wishes xxx

I got through to a & E. They are waiting for surgeons to come and assess him

Thank you so much for talking to me whilst this is happening. I've had anxiety in the past and my mind is just wandering to the what ifs

@MrsCK okay so the good news is they have him in quickly and are making sure he's seen to. They would have made it clear if it was a very serious situation.

You've done all you can for now, remind FIL to call as soon as he's been assessed. Xx

Have you had a cuppa yet? Maybe make some toast as well to go with it. Find something mindless to watch on TV, for me it would be Friends for the hundredth time. Make sure you're warm and cosy, I always get cold when I'm worried and upset. Have you got a dog or cat to cuddle? Or maybe even a just a cushion.

Handhold op. I'm up with my teething toddler.

I know a few people with gallstones and they all say the pain was beyond horrific but they were all fine.

OP I'm in the US and up for several more hours for handholding. Gosh what a worry for you, it must be hard being so far away. Great that they have him in so quickly though. He's in the best place.

Will be thinking of you and your DH

the 'good' news is, hes being looked after, gallstones only get really dangerous if left untreated. The being so far away sucks for you. thinking of you both OP xx

A handhold from me, will share a cup of tea with you x

I'm still up for a while too

Hope your husband is ok. Just remember he's in the best place for him and in the hands of the experts!

It's horrible not being unable to be there when a loved one is hurt but you are doing something important by looking after your children.

Hope everything is ok

Thank you.
One of my church family just posted on our WhatsApp group. She's given me some comfort and is praying.

I've just made some tea