It's different because she's a girl!!

[Emboo19]

My cousins wife is expecting their first baby, they found out the gender at the scan today (boy) my auntie is super excited and she's a Fb fan so I knew she'd post, which she had. I went on to post a congratulations and read her announcement. She's obviously put they've found out and she's having a grandson etc, then she's tagged my grandparents and put 'another generation of Jones (not our real surname) to carry on the family name' then some '#my sons, son', #first baby jones....
Only problem, my DD who is 10 months is a Jones and it was my aunt I spoke in length to about that the decision to give my name and not dp's. My dad replied, quite lightheartedly, congrats and some other stuff......but then, sorry though, he's not the first, I beat you to it #my daughters, daughter (laughing faces so it was done jokingly)
She's replied with the thread title!! I read the first comment and my dad's earlier and was a bit hurt, but honestly thought in her excitement she'd just forgotten and she text to apologise. But then she's just posted the last comment and I'm not sure what to say to that!

Whats worse my aunt changed my cousins name to her maiden name when she left her husband, 'as she's a girl' her son wouldn't traditionally have her name anyway.
And we are really close, she was really supportive when I found out I was pregnant with DD, often calls to see us and vice versa.

Should I say something and if so what? Or am I being a bit silly to be bothered by it at all?

I would reply with 'Well, then by this logic I guess your opinion doesn't count either since your 'Just' a woman...'

Well that makes her comments even more bizarre! Obviously not that important for the man's name to run through the family, then.

I suspect that most of the family will know that your baby is the first baby Jones. When our DD was born one of the great-grandparents put a birth notice in a national newspaper saying it was a great-grandaughter for them (it did mention us as well, I think) but actually she is not the first great-grandchild so I would have expected it to say another great-grandchild ... some people just lose all sense of reason and perspective!

I doubt your Aunt will back down on FB but I'm sure your baby Jones will pop a post up looking forward to meeting their cousin shortly

'I'll let DD know she doesn't count, thanks!!'

oinourclub you have misunderstood the issue. The issue is not that the aunt considers her first grandchild more important than OPs baby, that is normal and fine. The issue is that she incorrectly stated it was the first jones baby when a jones baby already exists.

Yes, yes I know that. My point is still that when she said 'first jones baby' she just didn't think about Emboos baby, not because she was a girl, but because she isn't her grandchild. That sort of awkward for her to admit to so she just gave a jokey reply of 'Haha she's a girl lol' rather than 'oh yeah I forgot, but that's only Emboos baby not my darling sons' . Cos she really just meant her own little branch on the old jones tree.

Overcompensating for gender disappointment sounds like a pretty plausible explanation all things considered.

Yes, WhatWould she does always make a fuss of my dd and did me as a child. I feel a bit bad now.
Glad I didn't say anything!

It's misogyny OP, and I would be naffed off too. It would be an interesting one for the Feminism Board.

But now dp will be disappointed when I say no football kit for DD tomorrow. Especially seen as they won tonight and he quite likes annoying my dad with it (support different teams)