Go ahead and tell me IABU, I just need to vent.
I do an antenatal class. It's oversubscribed, with a booking system where you need to buy blocks in advance but can then sell them/swap them later on FB.
At the start of the last block, this woman just turned up and said something like "Oh, I don't need to book for this, do I?" I think none of us had the heart to say that actually, no you can't just turn up, so we told her to speak to the teacher. There was a sub teaching that day, who had no idea who was expected. Woman joined in the class. Very vocal, oversharing. Also asked a few of us for advice on a very personal topic literally two minutes after meeting.
Same story the following week - turned up, different sub was teaching, she just joined in. Sub didn't seem to notice that room was now a bit overcrowded for all paid attendees plus this random woman.
Since then our actual teacher has come back, and this woman just keeps bloody turning up! She'll arrive at the beginning of class, hang around, take a spot, then bugger off when paid women arrive. If the class is full, she'll hang around for the initial "how's everyone feeling?" bit, ask loads of invasive questions of the rest of us, then turn up again after class when everyone goes for a coffee.
She does odd things:
-photographing (extensively) the teacher's baby, who comes along to the class,
-saying things like, "Look, can we do this [discussion] at the end of the class, I need to leave early today?" - for a class she hasn't even bloody signed up for!
- brought her OH along at some point - again, it's a women's antenatal class, does anyone need to be told that it's a bit off for a bloke to turn up?
At the caff there's more of the same - she plays on her phone incessantly until she wants to ask something about [random topic pulled from thin air], when she'll happily interrupt the rest of us to say, "Oh, but what do people think about [random topic]?" Given that the rest of us were happily discussing local nurseries/parks the minute before, we typically just mumble something neutral about fox hunting (it really is as random as that), then change the subject. And on it goes. Plus endless requests for advice about her relationship issues, but if one of us tries to engage with her about that/offer an opinion, she snaps.
It sounds nuts, but I'm now totally on edge at other points in the week, because I feel like this shouldn't be allowed to carry on. I'm waiting for the teacher to properly turn her away instead on letting this go on. I can't take another 20 weeks of this but I really like the class and don't want to cancel just because of her.
I started off thinking that she just needed a bit of support etc, but actually now in my mind she is Antenatal Cheeky Fucker. AIBU?