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Scribblegirl · 10/08/2017 22:26

I just had to walk out of a screening of the new Dunkirk film.

I was crying inconsolably. This happened. These were real boys. Men who actually existed. It can and will happen again.

DP is still in the cinema and I'm camping out in the local spoons, attracting attention of all the local weirdos Blush please share something that makes me feel ok? I feel a bit bereft of humanity right now

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Notevilstepmother · 10/08/2017 22:29

DP is being a dick for watching the rest of the film when you are so upset. (Just my opinion).

Trb17 · 10/08/2017 22:30

I feel your pain. I'm waiting to see this film until I can watch it at home alone and sob for what they went through. I love history and this sort of thing gets me bad every time.

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Scribblegirl · 10/08/2017 22:30

Oh no he has been wanting to see this for ages. I told him I was fine to decamp. Just looking for a way to not be totally bummed out for the next few days. He's a good 'un, don't worry!

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LoveDeathPrizes · 10/08/2017 22:31

I think that film is effecting a lot of people - that's your hope in humanity right there.

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Scribblegirl · 10/08/2017 22:31

Thanks trb. I know it's sad but I can watch any sort of tragic fiction - the fact it's real is killing me Sad

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horridhenrysdog · 10/08/2017 22:31

Don't laugh, but I felt like that about titanic. It happened. Real people were trapped.

When that lady (in 3rd) class puts her children to bed as she knows they won't survive

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Scribblegirl · 10/08/2017 22:31

I like that thinking love Smile

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robinia · 10/08/2017 22:33

Yes. Felt rather shellshocked after seeing it. I think that's the point though. I'd worry for people that don't have that kind of response.

Trb17 · 10/08/2017 22:33

Yeah. Knowing it's fact is hard.

But knowing (watching a tale of) what the human spirit can accomplish is awe inspiring too Smile

geekone · 10/08/2017 22:34

I felt drained fir days. But it was an awesome movie Nolan is a genius

MaidOfStars · 10/08/2017 22:35

I haven't seen it yet. But I don't see how it will happen again?

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Scribblegirl · 10/08/2017 22:36

horridhenry good comparison actually - I can't watch titanic either. Weird as I love reading non fiction but maybe I just can't handle it portrayed on screen?

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horridhenrysdog · 10/08/2017 22:36

And I felt like it after 'I, Daniel Blake'. Bone aching poverty with difficulty at every turn.

I know it's not the same but it did rattle me thinking about real human 'suffering' in 2017 in the UK

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Scribblegirl · 10/08/2017 22:37

maid I meant more in the general sense of people losing their children to war. Sons, daughters dying on unknown beaches. The human condition hasn't solved the problems of conflict.

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Mrscropley · 10/08/2017 22:38

No way will I be able to watch it. .
As a dc I honestly believed stories of war were just that - stories, made up tales of heroism. .
When I got older to felt physically sick that people could actually kill each other. . Still makes me so sad I can't comprehend it. . I am 46 btw, not a youngster. . .

Just one of those things your head can't quite get around.

gingergenius · 11/08/2017 00:22

Cried for a full 30 mins after the film ended. Your pain is real x

user1497863568 · 11/08/2017 01:18

Yeah, they pretty much murdered Europe/West and then whinge about birthrates/need to import labour. They got their New World Order and riches of Croesus .... everyone else is still shellshocked.

HippyChickMama · 11/08/2017 01:22

I don't think I could watch it. I've been to Dunkirk and also stood on the Normandy beaches, absolutely heartbreaking.

Italiangreyhound · 11/08/2017 01:26

I 'watched' Saving Private Ryan from under a coat for the same reason.

ShoesHaveSouls · 11/08/2017 01:37

Haven't seen it yet, but I'll never forget the opening scene of Saving Private Ryan.

And I always think of my two DSs. It's horrendous.

lastuseraccount123 · 11/08/2017 01:52

my grandad was in dunkirk and was a mess later. According to my mother, he was bombed out of the first ship that rescued him, swam to the next one, got on, was bombed again, swam to a third one, that one got him back.

I really want to see this movie and at the same time I really don't.

LauderSyme · 11/08/2017 01:54

Not being a dick. Not super wanky. Not at all. Quite the opposite.
Thank God for people like you in this world or it would be so much shittier than it already is.
This thread has made me decide I'm not going to watch the film though I hear it is brilliant.
It sounds likely to break my heart and trample on the pieces.
I worry that I am wrong to self-censor in this way but I can't bear the sadness. It is too painful. I'm with you OP.

lastuseraccount123 · 11/08/2017 02:00

you are not being a dick. my family saw it, and they were silent after.

disneydatknee · 11/08/2017 02:01

Not at all. I've watched a few war films over the last few months and they really affected me. To the point where I really wanted to have a little chat, exchange of card and chocolates with the old boy that sits outside our local Sainsbury's collecting for the British legion!

waitingforthewaterwars2 · 11/08/2017 02:04

You are not being anything at all, other than compassionate, empathetic and everything humanity should be
You understand and recognise the horror of war, and tragic events and feel what our parents and their grandparents experienced. The world needs more people like you.
It is so important that we remember these atrocities so we can contribute to them never happening again.
I bawled in Dunkirk, I bawled walking through Changi where my great uncles were held prisoner, wept in Vietnam at the Museum of War and generally turn into a fountain whenever I attend ANZAC marches.
Lest we forget.

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