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Doctors in one hour, what do I say?

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PumpernickleInaWarehouse · 10/08/2017 08:08

I have doctors in one hour that the midwife made me book, I strongly suspect I am suffering with PND quite badly, I spent the day yesterday hiding under the covers crying my eyes out and wishing I could run away from my life. I can't cope at all.
I've never been to this doctors before and I suddenly feel so nervous and like I don't know what to say to him....
What if he fobs me off or just says I have baby blues?
What if he goes the other way and reports me to social services?
I just wish this wasn't happening to me.
Im feeling utter hopelessness.

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Miserylovescompany2 · 10/08/2017 10:42

Well done for taking that first MASSIVE step - I hope your appointment went well - you won't be the first to feel this way - so please be kind to yourself

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 10/08/2017 10:43

Very best of luck with your appointment. We are all here to chat if you need us.

I haven't had PND but I have had clinical depression. Be kind to yourself. Accept that you are unwell and can't function as well as you would like. You are still a good person and a good parent. If you had a broken leg you wouldn't expect to carry on life as normal until your treatment was completed, well its the same with depression. Congratulate yourself for being able to do what you are able to do now and as you improve you can gradually do a bit more.

UnbornMortificado · 10/08/2017 10:45

Pumper it will get better, sometimes we just need a bit help to get past it.

Depression whatever form it takes is truly shit, well done for making that appointment.

puttingthegenieback · 10/08/2017 10:49

OP, I'm so glad you have kept the appointment. I too suffered with PND, and that first step, of actually going to the appointment and talking about what you are feeling, is a huge accomplishment. As you can see from the response to your thread, a huge number of us have been there as well and understand what you are going through. Thinking of you and hoping all goes well and that you will be feeling better soon.

UnbornMortificado · 10/08/2017 10:49

Oh as for SS I really wouldn't worry, I have had bi-polar for 12 years and have been hospitalised in the past. The only involvement I had with SS (not related to my MH) they were happy that I had support and was asking for and getting the help I needed. It was never really made a big issue of.

(Referral was a malicious report by an ex, nothing sinister)

IdoHaveAName · 10/08/2017 10:51

Wishing you all the luck in the world. I too have been in the misery and came out the other end. You'll be feeling better in no time.

Jux · 10/08/2017 11:02

I remember feeling like that, Pumpernickel. DD is 17, so I can tell you unequivocally that it DOES get better.

Doctors are kind and sympathetic people. Most - almost all - hcps are. They all want to make people better! Think of them as the nice warm bath your mum would draw for you when were a child, just come in from playing out all day, freezing cold and wet. Imagine them like that.

Rossigigi · 10/08/2017 11:17

I hope your appointment went well. I just wanted to add that I remember a friend on her first baby saying to me that she wished she could break her leg or something just so someone else couldn take over for a while. You are not alone sweetheart x

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PumpernickleInaWarehouse · 10/08/2017 11:20

I had my appointment.
It actually helped to just spill it all out to someone.
She was lovely! A locum, normal dr was not there today.
She has said I do infact have PND and a general anxiety disorder.
She has prescribed me cilatropam? To start and see how I go.
She was incredibly supportive and understanding and even shared some memories of when her kids were similar ages and sleep deprivatio. Etc...
She was adament that I need to lean on family now more than ever and should not feel a second of guilt about that as ' its what family is there for '
She has given me hope.
Along with you all.
I cannot express how much it meant to have your posts as I would not have gone without them.
I hope I recover from this

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KitKat1985 · 10/08/2017 11:24

I'm so pleased it well OP. You've made a massive first step today which shows how strong you are and how motivated you are to get through this, so I'm sure you will start to feel better soon. Just to say with all antidepressants they can take a couple of weeks to kick in, so don't give up on them too soon. xx

ImperialBlether · 10/08/2017 11:26

You will recover! You've done exactly the right thing and lucky you for seeing such a lovely helpful doctor. Take the meds and you will soon notice a difference - soon you won't need the meds, so don't worry about that.

I hope you feel better soon.

MaximaDeWit · 10/08/2017 11:41

Well done, OP! I am on citalopram and it's been fantastic for me - just helped take the edge off so I can deal with the day to day and take the steps to make myself better in the long run. So pleased you made it to the GP!

BitOutOfPractice · 10/08/2017 11:43

Oh that's a great update OP. You will recover and you will look back on today as the turning point I'm sure.

PovertyJetset · 10/08/2017 11:44

Brilliant news op you'll start to see the fog Lift soon

NellieBuff · 10/08/2017 11:47

TiredMumToTwo · 10/08/2017 11:48

Well done op, I'm 10 years on from where you are now & a whole world away so please know this will pass. I've had a number of friends who swear by citalopram so I hope it does the trick for you to get over this hump - stick with the meds, any side effects will wear off reasonably quickly.

IdoHaveAName · 10/08/2017 11:48

Very happy to hear your update. Your doctor sounds lovely. You've caught this early so you've saved yourself months of hardship. I'm not sure about citalopram as I don't think it's one I've been on, but generally they can take a few weeks to kick in (I'm sure your GP has already explained this to you), so be patient, you have it all in hand.
Thank God you feel better now. It's all going to go well now. Don't be worrying pet.

Rossigigi · 10/08/2017 11:53

Well done OP. This is the first day, the start, of getting yourself well again.X

Gizmo79 · 10/08/2017 11:58

So glad it went well.
I went to the gp when I was 6 months pregnant with DC3 who was unplanned and I had a lot of other stuff going on. Only realised I needed help when I was breaking down every day with the thought of going to work, as everyone wanted to talk about the pregnancy etc.
The gp was amazing, my ten minute appt went on for over an hour and he was so lovely. I'm also on citalopram, I still have bad days, but they aren't as bad.
Make sure you eat and drink, watch happy movies, send your other child to nursery if you can.
And let yourself cry, it's not weak, it can be very therapeutic.
I wish everyone was as honest in real life about how hard it all can be, we all pretend how great it all is, but it isn't always.
Xx

BanyanTree · 10/08/2017 12:00

You are strong and brave to be dealing with this and going to the Doctor. The first step you take into his office is the first step you take on your journey to feeling better. I promise you.

LadyNymeriaGhost · 10/08/2017 12:27

Well done,OP. I'm also on citalopram. I got some side effects for about a week at the start but I stuck with it and it has been so, so worth it. 6 weeks in now and I'm without the crippling anxiety that was wearing me down.
It's not a quick fix, which I know is probably what you want right now. But stick with it, keep talking, and soon things will start to look up. X

lilyboleyn · 10/08/2017 12:29

I'm so glad it went well OP. I've been thinking about you this morning. You can also self-refer to Mind, the mental health charity, who may be able to help with CBT or counselling.

ghostyslovesheets · 10/08/2017 13:14

fantastic OP so glad it went well x

NoddysBell · 10/08/2017 13:23

Well done, Pumpernickle. A few weeks after I started my medication it felt like the clouds parted and the sun shone again. I really hope it's the same for you.

McPie · 10/08/2017 13:48

So happy to read your update, it took me years to get help and when I did I had actually went for help to lose weight but the dr recognised that there was under lying issues and put me on citalopram too. I would recommend taking them in the evening as any side effects (I felt queasy) will not mess too much with day to day life.

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