SheWhoLivesHere Tue 08-Aug-17 17:22:32
I don't think the majority of people asking whether she kicked out at him are victim blaming, they're just trying to make sense of a very scary situation. If his actions were a retaliation it's still disgusting but makes a bit more sense.
If it is a completely random and unprovoked attack, well that's the most terrifying thing. Don't trash people for trying to make sense out of something so scary
It happens all the time, and that is why comments to the effect that the woman brought this on herself are rightly being excoriated here.
It really is scary to think that some men hate women so much that they will rape them or kill them or use superior strength and the advantage of complete surprise to push them into the path of a bus.
But they do all of that, and from time immemorial the way society has dealt with this dark aspect of men's behaviour has been to blame the victim for making each individual psycho do whatever it is that he has done to her.
Battered wives? Must have been crap in bed or a terrible cook or a 'shrew'.
Murdered wife and children? Poor man was crying out for help with his problems. Let's bury him alongside his victims (see for eg. Alan Hawe, Cavan, Ireland) because we are so sure she would have forgiven him.
Raped a woman? What was she wearing? Had she been drinking? Alcohol excuses men's actions and condemns women's.
Nobody wants to connect the dots. We would rather run a mile than admit there is a pattern. It's always some harmless man driven to a 'senseless' act by some thoughtless/calculating/slutty woman.
We do not shy away from seeing a pattern when it comes to what we accuse women of. This is the true measure of how powerful the male class is in our society.
People who contribute to the blaming of the victims deserve every bit of trashing they get. They are part of the problem here.