Would this be really cheeky?

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Found out I'm expecting DC2. Already had lots of friends and family asking what we would like/need.

Last time we ended up with some lovely things and also some things we never found useful and some things we got in doubles or even triples!
Plus DC1 is a v awkward size so some clothes - what people buy the most - would sometimes sit in the drawer and take up room for a year or more until they fit properly. And if this DC is the same gender we have tons of clothes.

I have recently seen someone do it online and I thought it's not a bad idea but prepared to be corrected.

I'm thinking of starting a wish list and giving the link to the people who ask us what we'd like etc.
Thinking of doing it on Amazon and just things between £1-£45 everything from toys, bulk nappies to bath stuff etc and things we know we will use/need.
I'm quite happy to get anything and absolutely don't expect anything from people but like I've mentioned before some people have been asking what to get us.

AIBU? Would you see this as cheeky?

I think it's fine to have a wish list as long as you only give it to people who ask for it. Don't put the link in any mass emails or baby shower invites, etc. And I think nappies shouldn't be on there - people want to buy you nice gifts that you'll enjoy and remember, not nappies.

like a wedding list?

I think if someone asks and you verbally say 'oh, y'know what would be lovely - a new rattle (or whatever) for the baby, the ones we have are a bit scruffy' that would be fine. But to send them an Amazon wishlist imho is a bit cheeky. And definitely not nappies or bath stuff (unless you mean toys).

If I asked, it would be because I want to get you something you actually need. I wouldn't think a list was cheeky - as long as the cheapest thing on it wasn't about £50!

I think its a great idea but Im a practical sort. Id much rather give someone something they want.

@Areyoufree the most expensive item would be would be around £45 and people can always put together or buy the cheaper items.

@Shadow666 I'm practical like that too. But I'm worried about what people might think.

Also @snowgirl1 the only worry with saying that to people is getting tonnes of the same stuff and also some things are specific brands/models and it would feel weird saying "we want a X rattle in YZ" etc if that makes sense?
My MIL also has a terrible habit of buying knock offs, I once talked to her about some make up item I looked at/wanted from XYZ brand (about £10) and for my birthday she bought me a dupe/knock off for a £1 and she was all excited telling me how that's what I wanted. Tends to miss the point IYKWIM.

I think that's a great idea; if people ask then they're wanting to buy something useful

I would rather buy something needed and wanted than something that's going to clog the draws for a year. I also think your price range is reasonable too.

I think it's really rude but I hate wedding gift lists too.
I had this recently for a baby shower. Everyone had to message back and forth to say who was getting what, you could see exactly what everyone was spending, it became about one uping what others had spent with people saying 'oh I'll get X and y' etc. Why can't you just say to individual people that ask for example sleep suits in X size or bibs with arms without making an Amazon list and then keep a list yourself of what you've asked for so you don't ask for lists of duplicates.

I can't imagine this working for anyone I know. Lots of people don't want to buy from amazon. You might find you don't get so much for a second baby anyway!

If I asked a friend what they wanted I would expect a general answer to allow me to choose something myself eg buggy toy.

I would never buy someone nappies as a present.

Baby presents are supposed to be a bit fun and cute, like a toy bunny or a special book. Unless they are really skint it doesn't have to be something to be used immediately.

@Xmasbaby11 sorry if this sounds silly but what if it's specifics? E.g. I want a specific book by certain author to do with babies etc. Should I just say "oh I'd like a sleeping/feeding book" and hope they get that one?

I think the whole point of it is that we have a v.small house and v. limited storage and it would be great to be able to get practical things we know we want and will definitely use.
There's not much logistics to it as once the item is bought it disappears from the public list so can't be double bought and also other people (apart from us I assume) can't tell who bought what etc.

We did this when we were expecting and it worked really well. I only gave the link to people who asked for it so no one was offended.

I don't think it's rude at all....it's creative and waste-saving.
Nappies are so much cheaper on Amazon and you always need them , along with babybath, towels, fleece blankets etc.

My sister was given a nappy cake which was fab and had lots of newborn nappies in.
Vests always tend to shrink so I'd think about asking for multi packs of vests and baby grows in a few various sizes.

What's the point in someone buying you a lovely gift because they don't like the wish list idea but in actual fact, you shove it in the garage, never to be seen of again.

I do like lovely books for new babies too.....ones they'll grow up with. I tend to buy children's poem anthologies as christening/new baby gifts.
Shirley Hughes books and Mr Bear books by Debi Gliori for example, are fab to add to your Amazon list.

Already had lots of friends and family asking what we would like/need

There's your answer ^

Some people don't like lists, but there are lots of us out there who would FAR rather you received what you actually want / need, rather than randomly guessing and getting you something you don't want / need.

As others have said, just respond to people who ask. As long as you aren't randomly sendig it out to people you know, then no-one will have a problem with it.

I wouldn't expect someone to ask for something specific like a book. I've never known it to happen and almost all my friends have had babies in the last 7 years. It's unusual for anyone to ask someone what they want just for a new baby present.

I don't think it's cheeky. I'd quite like it if everyone did this (an online wish list) so I could pick something to get them if I'm struggling to come up with a gift idea.

However I'm the sort that doesn't like to ask for things, even when someone is standing there asking me what I want for my birthday/christmas I hate answering because I don't like seem as though I expect a certain amount from them. If I ask for something that's £5 will they think I think they are cheap? If I ask for something that's £30 will they think I'm greedy and grabby. But where does that line lie? For one person £30 is a low end gift to give, to another it's an expensive present.

A wish list with a range of prices is perfect IMO. Only downside is that it's on amazon, whilst they have a 'bought this gift elsewhere' button I'm not sure you can access the lists without an amazon account (don't most people have one anyway though?) and not everyone is computer literate. Maybe have a few back up ideas, eg I've got a list on amazon if you want to have a look, or I could do with x,y or z' with x, y & z being simple items that you can't have enough of.

Xmas we actually got a huge box of Pampers (200 nappies I think) when DC1 was born + a couple of bits of clothes from a couple. It was one of the best presents we got & it was really funny with them turning up with the box being like "you'll need these" . It's also useful and practical.

I don't mind keeping clothes for a bit until they grow into them but as I said with DC1 being an awkward size and people generally buying bigger clothes "for later" it's gotten a bit has as I still have MIL buying tshirts that (despite being marked as DC1s age group) I know he won't wear until at least next summer as he's an awkward one - I've told her his sizes too.
We don't have room for all these clothes and bits anymore.

XmasBaby11 - whyever not ? Often when people have their first baby, money is very tight (at beginning of careers / then taking many months off / etc) and something the parents can actually use, and save money not having to buy is MUCH more useful than a 23rd toy bunny. I have often made up a little gift bag of useful items as a baby present, and I very much appreciated those that were given to me.

I think its a good idea! Im currently pregnant with my first and got some lovely lil and big presents. But one person wanted to buy us a swing variation of a chair we had gotten from another family member! I felt so cheeky asking "would you be able to get us XYZ instead? its cheaper and we really do need it!" but i think people are happy knowing they;ve helped, flashy , cheap or anything :) x

Just seen the updates!

Since they've actually asked you what to get, I think it's fine to have a list. As you say, you don't have to give it to people, only if they ask.

I think a baby registry is a good idea. I wish people would do them more. I hate shelling out £20 on something, only to find that I'm not the first person to buy them a fucking Ewan the Sheep or whatever he's called

My cousin did this, had things like bulk packs of wipes, cot sheets etc. I thought it was great. Sadly she got nasty and attacked her mum and her fiance attacked her grandad and they blocked me as a friend as i have notbi g to do with my mums family and am close to her mum who isnt an actual relation but who is like a second mum to me, so i never bought anything off it as i dont think she changed her address either so prob have gone to her mums.

Sorry but I hate this. I think it's rude and cheeky. Fair enough if someone is stuck for ideas- give them a suggestion. But not a list!

I like shopping for a gift they'll use and keep (like a special baby blanket) rather than clothes or rattles.

They'll get 10 baby blankets though, and everyone I know immediately gets rid of about half of them and uses the rest to wipe up sick