Anybody else on holiday with a miserable bastard husband?

[Nettletheelf]

I seem to have found myself on holiday with Victor Meldrew. Tell me that I'm not the only one.

On a hot Mediterranean island suggested by DH. We return to the UK tomorrow, after a week's holiday. Just him and me: DSD and DSS are too old to go on holiday with us.

I'm 45, he's 52. Both very fit and healthy. Happily married, except on this holiday, when I have been tempted to murder him!

His complaints during the week have included the following:

1. Too hot. We're in the fecking mediterranean in August. Of course it's sodding hot.

1a. Too hot to sleep well, thus making him "a bit grumpy".

1. Beach too sandy (I HAVE NOT MADE THIS UP). Sand too fine and gets stuck to things, causing dismay.

1. Beach, specifically sand, too hot to walk on.

1. Has been "too full" to properly enjoy dinners at range of lovely restaurants.

1. Claimed to be 'delirious with the heat' today after leaving air conditioned coach for two hours in historic town.

1. We went on an organised long walk through an area of outstanding natural beauty, just up his street, I thought. He was disappointed in it. The gorge was "too stony".

1. Following gorge walk, his legs were "a bit sore" when descending stairs.

1. Foreign chocolate not up to UK standards.

1. World heritage site "a bit boring" and "just a load of stones".

10. Doesn't like "being told things by people" i.e. tour guide with expert knowledge of ruins.

Etc etc. I'll spare you the rest.

Is this inevitable? Do they all turn into whinging bastards? We know loads of them, and I always thought DH compared well. He doesn't!

It's enough to put me off going on holiday with him again.

Do I need to put LIGHT HEARTED, LIGHT HEARTED to prevent people telling me that my marriage is over and I should leave him? I have, just in case.

Tell me that I'm not the only one!!

Thought it might be Crete!

We also landed 3 weeks ago in cloud and rain OP . We were told 'Oh, it rarely rains in the the summer. You've been unfortunate enough to arrive during what will probably be the only rain this summer.' Obviously not.

I though Knososs was great - if anything over rebuilt so less of a ruin than it might have been.

(But I do agree with your DH OP, that the sand certainly was hot!)

so glad it's not just my OH that's a moan arse 😂

tbh my OH is great on holiday he just won't come on them... we've been together 4 years and been on 2 weekends away! he's not coming this year with me and our 2 DDs because he won't put the dog in a kennel or trust anyone to look after his dog

I couldn't get past the beach being too sandy. Best laugh all day. He sounds very unreasonable but thanks for the laugh.

@MCamp10 that is hilarious!

The comparison to my recent holiday is uncanny.....but for me it didn't just stop there just add a 21 year old daughter and 15 year old teenager who have no tolerance at all for the whining and complaining. My role was very much a mediator between kids and father. I struggled with impartiality of course....bottom line last family holiday with Dad!!😬😬

LOL at 'causing dismay'.

Sometimes people feel insecure and ill at east when out of familiar surroundings and express it with negativity. Sounds like you have one of these. Try Skegness next time.

"ill at ease" not east!

If it's any consolation I usually want to stab my husband repeatedly during the first 24 hours of any holiday, especially if there is any driving from the airport involved because he "doesn't need directions", he knows where he's going as he has an "in-built sense of direction". Needless to say we have major domestics every time he gets lost! However, after the first two days I usually reach a 'steady state' of tolerance, he is more fortunate than he knows.......

However, after the first two days, I usually reach a 'steady state' of tolerance

So do I. It's usually down to the

This topic made me howl with laughter, and no, you're not alone!

My partner's ultimate grumpy moment this summer was when I looked back and realised he was standing in the shade, arms crossed, looking like thunder, while my children and I excitedly explored Pompeii.

I organised a second little holiday (in the UK) at the other end of the vacation, deliberately timed while he was away on a work trip - but tonight he announced the work trip's cancelled, so now we've got to lug him with us on that one too...he'll hate it, but he won't miss it.

Even on little day trips (e.g. to petting farms), he decides he's coming along, and then suddenly tells us to hurry up because we're late and he hasn't got all day.

My DH becomes hyperactive on holiday, and regards any day on which we have not undertaken a long hike or packed the family into the car for a long expedition as a day wasted. For me, our most successful holidays were on small islands where it was physically impossible for him to make us drive anywhere for any length of time, but I suspect for him they were the worst.

Just about to head off on a holiday of a lifetime to Disney World. Husband said to book it, so I did. Husband has not paid a penny towards it, and wanted to cancel at 10 weeks and one day before we were due to fly (balance payment due at 10 weeks) because he changed his mind. Daughter had already been told we were going, and was excited, and it would have meant a loss of deposit on holiday and park tickets, which I had bought at his request. So I had to come up with the money to pay the balances on a much lower income than his.
So, after working my a*se off, and getting some help from family, we are going.
But if he does his usual "I want to sleep until midday" crap during the 2 weeks, he may well end up buried under Cinderella's castle...!!!!

I have only been on holiday with my DH twice (we've only been together 4yrs and have done things like babies, weddings and house buying instead). Half of me thinks I should try third time lucky and the sensible half says never again on holiday. We have complaints of:

1: it's too hot- in Greece, in summer, on the beach.

2: the bags are too slow coming off the plane (yes it starts when we step off the plane 😆)

3: the menus are too long in restaurants

4: there's kids everywhere (at a hotel that advertises as child centred AND we have a child)

5: everywhere is full of tourists

6: the line to check in is too long (wait it starts before we get in the plane)

7: people annoy him

8: it's still too hot

9: parking is too expensive at the airport (😂 it really actually starts when we are booking the holiday)

10: my wife keeps coming at me with a pillow in the night and it's not my hypoallergenic one from home.

So no you're not alone. My DH is a miserable holiday too 😂 I've just found out he's going in a boys week away to Portugal next year and I'm already planning my relaxing week at home without him. Good luck to his friends!

I can't RTFT because of shite hotel wifi and no phone service - but just wanted to say - I FEEL YOU SISTAAA !!! I have actually cancelled our October holiday today because I can't do another week with the miserable wanker. I'd rather stay home and decorate !!!!!

One thing that I've gathered from MN is that lots of people seemingly live lives of quiet desperation, saddled with hopeless, selfish and/or miserable spouses.
As 'the kids' undoubtedly don't say any more: YOLO.

Laughing at husband who can't go on holiday because of the dog.

Mine says he can't leave the cat! Dd and I go on lots of luxury hols and he and the cat stay at home (happily)

faith your DH isn't paying for any of the holiday?
This thread is brilliant by the way, I think my DH is grumpier than most, I'm reassured I have a normal one.

My DH is 56. Very similar story when we go on holiday / meet new people / do something out of the ordinary. However on a serious note he was told some time ago that he had high blood pressure and really needed to relax a bit - might be worth pointing that out to your grump.

Me always me. This is my life

Actually, my DH is very cheerful on hols - he plans excursions, swims daily, is very chatty; fortunately, it doesn't last. 😜

Oh..... this is me and my DH. Except I'm the miserable one. I've got a really low tolerance for heat (my 50% British blood doesn't like anything over 28 degrees). I've also got a low tolerance for cold (my 50% Asian blood doesn't like temps of less than 22 degrees).
Poor DH. He's just as bad in other ways though!

The above poster really made me laugh. Where do you go on holiday?

Or do you stay behind and look after the cat/ dog/ family poltergeist?

I loved number 2 on your list. He's worth keeping just for the amusement factor ... though I'd "divorce" him for your next holiday and go with a friend instead, I think!