Go home or wait until the party is over?

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DH has just shouted and sworn at me all the way to his nephews birthday party. Every time we visit his family he gets really stressed and he's vile to me and I've had enough so I've dropped him and DD at the party and driven off. Not in a childish way, I genuinely do not want to spend the next few hours with him.

I also bought his DM and his nephews birthday presents and wrapped them without so much as a thank you.

I know he's expecting me to turn up and be all normal but I'm so sick of this. I'm now sat in Sainsbury's car park. I told him to take DD's car seat but he hasn't so I can't really go anywhere as we were meant to be staying at his Mum's tonight.

AIBU to contact him to say I'll hang around until the party is over and then I'm going to come and collect DD and take her home and he can do whatever he wants?

Well done OP, he was out of order and obviously either his mum is minimising his actions or hasn't heard the true story. Either way you're right to tell him that treating you that way is bang out of line. I hope things get better soon.

DH has just agreed that he has never ever learned to apologise properly or been held accountable for his actions. Yay!

Thank you all so much, I'm not a troll and this is my life and I'm so glad I have some support.

You helped me at a time when no one else in the world could possibly help. My own DM has since told me that she's proud of what I've done and that I'm setting a good example to DD. It was worth it.

Well done OP

Bravo OP

Thank you so much. I totally do not know what I would have done this weekend without you all. I'm not being soppy but there's no one here who will give me honest impartial advice and I love you for it. Thanks to everyone who bothered to comment.

I hope you get things sorted out. What the hell did he say to his mum that made her send those texts!?

Well that's sounding better.

Needs to stop whining to mummy-still, if she's going to agree with him all the time...

I think that my ex was like this-never took any responsibility.

He left me for someone else & his parents couldn't have given a fuck.

All I wanted was "sorry it didn't work & we don't agree with what he did". We had no kids so it's not as if any of us ever had to see each other again.

All I got was "well he obviously wasn't happy..."

His mother owes you a significant apology. It's totally unreasonable for her to send those texts and it's totally unreasonable for a grown man to go showing his mum your texts and try to get her on side. What is he 12? I'd have a major, major issue with any man and their mother who behaved as these two have is outrageous.

To tell you you don't have a strong enough relationship with the family, to tell you to see a doctor is quite shocking really. As his him texting with the immature " I've shown my mum our texts". Honestly, that's just awful.