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Shopping in a budget store for wine with a grown up child

156 replies

Jenny2710 · 04/08/2017 23:02

She is 24 Iam much older, verging on 60, big shop after a holiday, can't buy alcohol as she does not have id , my shop, my card, what is going on.? Has anyone else had had this? So confused? Annoyed!

OP posts:
DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 04/08/2017 23:05

What?Confused

OverTheHammer · 04/08/2017 23:05

What? Is it you who is too drunk to make sense or me that is too drunk to understand?

Original poster
Jenny2710 · 04/08/2017 23:07

Big shop meant a lot of food and some wine.

OP posts:
LaurieFairyCake · 04/08/2017 23:07

Yep - loads of people have had it

Any adult going through the checkout has to have id (not the law, just individual supermarket policy). It's totally stupid and assumes that you are going to give the person with no ID alcohol Hmm

Even if you are you're legally allowed obviously.

ScarletSienna · 04/08/2017 23:09

Anyone in the shopping 'party' looking younger than 25, needs ID (if asked) for any of the others to buy alcohol seems to be the way!

Betsy86 · 04/08/2017 23:10

Who was stood at the checkout paying? If she was the one paying (even with your card) and she was asked for i.d and didnt have any the transaction will not be allowed. You have to look over 25 or will be asked to provide i.d.

If you were at the checkout paying and dd was just with you then the shop is wrong. Unless she said something to you like buy this i dont have my i.d etc and they heard.

Hopey ramblings make sense lol x

nokidshere · 04/08/2017 23:12

It really pisses me off if I'm honest and it's the reason I send my teens to the car before i go to the checkout.

I'm 56 years old, if I want wine in the weekly shop I shouldn't need to prove I'm not buying it for them. Grrr

Betsy86 · 04/08/2017 23:12

The person purchasing the alcohol needs to have id if appears to be under 25, others in the group do not unless cashier has evidence they are purchasing it on behalf of younger looking people in the group.
Or how would any parent and teenage child get there shopping done folks.
As you were

nokidshere · 04/08/2017 23:15

It's happened more than once to me when shopping with my teens, hence sending them out of the shop!

LovelyOtherDinosaur · 04/08/2017 23:15

@Betsy86 actually the shop is correct. It doesn't matter who is paying, its who is standing at the till. If you have people with you and they are not over 18 with ID then the shop can't sell you alcohol. E.g you can't but a bottle of wine if your 10 yo kid is standing at the till with you. Crazy! It's all to do with you might be buying it for them etc.

nokidshere · 04/08/2017 23:16

Oh and I most certainly do not look under 50 - anyone who thinks I do needs their eyes testing and more training!!

nokidshere · 04/08/2017 23:17

@Betsy86 actually the shop is correct. It doesn't matter who is paying, its who is standing at the till. If you have people with you and they are not over 18 with ID then the shop can't sell you alcohol. E.g you can't but a bottle of wine if your 10 yo kid is standing at the till with you. Crazy! It's all to do with you might be buying it for them etc.

That is absolutely not true and a ridiculous scenario

crumbsinthecutlerydrawer · 04/08/2017 23:18

I got checkout trained earlier this year and was told it as Betsy86 says.

BigGreenOlives · 04/08/2017 23:18

I was with my teen yesterday & said to the lady that she hadn't id'd me. She said that as I've been shopping there for the 25 years she's worked there she's confident I'm an adult... something to be said for leading a predictable life Grin

LovelyOtherDinosaur · 04/08/2017 23:19

Most shops won't take the chance with their licence. A family member works for Tesco and that's this policy on the tills. They can't be sure you're not paying for it in their behalf so won't allow it. It might not be to the letter of the law, I'm not sure, but in Tesco anyway it's a gross misconduct and you can be sacked so no one takes the chance.

KoolKoala07 · 04/08/2017 23:19

Had this years ago. Me and ex with dsis who was quite young at the time. 11/12 ish iirc, Wouldn't sell to us. This was one branch of tesco, we just went the the Tesco express instead and had no trouble.

PsychoPumpkin · 04/08/2017 23:20

I have never had this & I've shopped with my children so many times with alcohol in the trolley. Must vary from shop to shop. Annoying for you though!!

Betsy86 · 04/08/2017 23:20

I am correct nokidshere it used to be i.d whole groups when the policy came in it changed quite a long time ago due to ridiculous scenarios and now its just the person purchasing the alcohol who needs i.d unless the shop has proof its for the others in the group.

Betsy86 · 04/08/2017 23:22

Thanku crumbsinthecutlerydrawer we are correct lol x

Itsnotwhatitseems · 04/08/2017 23:22

The absurd thing is, if you intended to purchase alcohol for a minor, you would simply ensure they waited outside while you purchase it...its such a ridiculous rule

nokidshere · 04/08/2017 23:23

crumbs I have been shopping with my children for the past 19 years in the same Tesco store and have bought wine at least weekly and sometimes more.

It's only in the past yr that I have ever been challenged

BreconBeBuggered · 04/08/2017 23:23

I know lots of checkout assistants will say they have to do this if it's the policy in their shop, but I've been shopping with my DC since the 90s (eldest is 23) and never seen them asked for ID when I'm buying alcohol.

Betsy86 · 04/08/2017 23:25

P.s sorry no kids here i named wring person still getting used to site lol x

Maryz · 04/08/2017 23:26

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MeltorPeltor · 04/08/2017 23:29

My two year old has never been asked for ID when I have wine in my shopping.

I don't tend to buy budget wine, maybe that's the flag? 12 bottles of Blue Nun 😂