Shopping in a budget store for wine with a grown up child

[Jenny2710]

She is 24 Iam much older, verging on 60, big shop after a holiday, can't buy alcohol as she does not have id , my shop, my card, what is going on.? Has anyone else had had this? So confused? Annoyed!

Guess its down to each individual cashier to make the decision will be them in trouble for any mistakes.

That's exactly it. We all judge ages differently. That's why some people will get ID'd one day but not the next.

We then had a humdinger of a row because she wasn't over 25. I eventually won that battle as I was buying it, with my card, for me, and I had id. She had her id showing she was 21 thus proving that I wasn't going to force feed it to someone underage.

They've misinterpreted challenge 25 then, even if you were buying it for her it shouldn't have been an issue the second she showed ID. The reason you ask anyone who looks under 25 is because it's much easier for a teenager to look 18 than to look 25. People aged 18-25 are still perfectly entitled to buy providing they have ID.

@Maryz the 'nonsense' was in regards to the refusal to sell alcohol to a parent with a 10yo. Your DD at 21 really should know by now to take ID with her as the rule is 'Think 25' and she's likely to be asked.

Yes its true one cashiers opinions will differ to the next. It can also be really hard to judge the age of people some younger people nowadays look so much older than actual age. When i was 16 i looked about 12 haha nowadays the 16 year olds are heading for the 20 age bracket. Guess thats why it changes from 18 to 21 and now challenge 25 lol

garden is correct once id showing she was over 18 was provided there should of been no further issue.

Seems dumb especially as it's legal in England and Wales and in Scotland for a parent to give alcohol to a child aged 5-17. How the heck is the law supposed to distinguish between "buys on behalf of" a child versus buying to possibly give some to a child?

But if the cashier sells to a police sting then she's screwed harder than a cross-threaded wine cap, hence the stores being cautious to the point of ridiculous.

Remember legally the shop can refuse to serve you for any or no reason, excepting protected characteristics like race and disability.

Asia refused to leave my online delivery with my DD (17) - she had proof of age if asked but took it to a neighbour instead.

No alcohol in the delivery, or knives, or aerosol products or glue.

Just salad stuff and you know, food. I think there was a bottle of washing up liquid, but she was unlikely to touch that.

They have suddenly got very officious in my local Tesco - which I am now avoiding.

It's the same where I work (not Tesco). We've just had new training due to everything getting tighter and increased spot checks. The pressure is really on staff to ID.

Asda

Feel like a drink now

It's honestly pathetic that stores do this. A bit of common sense maybe is required. Maybe it is the type of people that give them a high vid and a clipboard and they think they have some power.

I had this when I was 29 and helping my mum with the Xmas shop in Tesco.

A trolley full of food plus one bottle of Bailey's.

Get to the checkout and we're both asked for ID. I didn't have anything on me. My mum explained I was her son and was 29, but to no avail - they said she could just be saying that and buying the drink for me. I was wearing an old coat and happened to have a long-expired student ID on me; might not be good as ID, but did show we had the same, very unusual surname. No good.

Asked if they would serve her if I left - no.
If she came back in an hour on her own - no.
The next day? - no.

Ended up having to go elsewhere.

Headofthehive55 I think Tesco have that policy too. Someone 18 or over must take the delivery, regardless of what's in it.

Yep. It started when my oldest was 11. Still going on nearly a decade later.

They don't do it when I'm with the toddler.

So presumably I look like someone who buys booze for tweens but not for infants. Which is nice

I just think that assuming a middle aged woman shopping with her teenagers is buying (relatively expensive) wine for them is just stupid*

I agree with this. Teenagers generally don't drink wine, esp a £10 bottle of merlot! As I said in pp though, it comes down to cashier to form an opinion and to judge the situation.

serfterf not all heroes wear capes 😂😂

When I was 20 I was with my mum and she was buying prosecco ( for my 21st 😡) - the cashier said ' hope all this is for you points to mum because I'm certainly not serving her nods to me and laughs' .... took great pleasure in whacking out my ID and buying the shop

uepe, I also asked the "can I come back" question.

I ended up saying "you mean you will never sell me any alcohol any more, ever, because you know I have children aged between 15 and 25?". The manager told me that wasn't relevant, but wouldn't tell me exactly when I could come back .

It would be for that day. If a sale has been refused due to ID not being provided you'd have not been served the rest of the day unless the ID had been seen, even if you went back later on in your own.

I compromise would be for said cashier to call a manage to make an informed decision, surely?

Not allowed to do that! Even a store manager cannot override the decision of the person on the till! As the responsibility is entirely on the person serving. If they make an error, it's the poor sod on the till that gets the sack/£5000 fine/jail time (which I think is up to 6months).

safari such a silly rule. I mean, how dangerous can food be to a teenager. You can join the army and get married but can't accept tomatoes in the doorstep.

Count yourself lucky - we're in a part of the US where they will id you if you look under 40!! Have no idea why...