To despise 'mummy blogs'

[Kirstsworld]

I am pretty new to mumsnet and through reading comments on other posts I have become aware of these 'blogs' and decided to read a couple. My mistake!. I don't understand why they exist. I understand the pressures and difficulties of being a mother, and get the need to vent. For info I am SAHM also(still struggling with pnd through 9 months in nicu, death of both my parents, another 9 month stint in hospital and a diagnosis of asd and dyspraxia) but I am aghast reading some of the 'lighthearted' blogs. They honestly seem so bitter and twisted and just nothing more than an excuse to complain about being a mother.
I get that they are supposed to be funny but I can't help thinking of how the children will feel reading them when they are older.
There is no respect for the children's privacy, have seen pictures and videos shared, or any thought given to their feelings in the future... just seems to me a never ending list of 'mummies' who don't want to do anything their kids enjoy or want to do and who's only joy in life is drinking copious amounts of wine at 4pm after being pissed off at their kids all day...
Anyone able to explain the allure of these blogs??

and yet here you are yourself.....complaining

Don't read them then.

Erm, don't read them?

Can't say I've ever read one or had the urge to.

As with the whole concept of blogging; there's millions of people with computers/internet, and no quality control.

They make me cringe my arse off so I avoid like the plague. My otherwise gorgeous and amazing friend has a 'mummy blog' and it is beyond embarrassing and to be honest, a huge load of bollocks. I know her and I know how her life is. She isn't permanently making homemade meals with home grown veg and finger painting even though she is #makingmemories #organicmummy #yummymummy #toddlerheaven

I'm genuinely not complaining, I honestly don't it... it seems the running theme through all the blogs is 'how bad it is having kids'. I may be missing the whole point?? Maybe the humour is too high brow for me? I just feel a bit down reading them and thinking these people really feel that way on a daily basis.

Different people feel different things. ¯\(ツ)/¯

Totally agree nauseatingly smug at best self absorbed claptrap at worst

you BELIEVE them??

My answer would depend on the blogs you've read.

I find some funny and reassuring. They tend to be the ones where the author clearly adores their children, despite the less glamourous side of parenting they are discussing. Their anecdotes at least demonstrate that they are making an effort.

Others just irritate me because they are never, ever positive. They just suggest that the author does the bare minimum for their children because they can't be bothered.

Seems like self indulgent twaddle to me to.

They are absolute shit and I strongly disagree with the photos they have of their children in school uniform and just way too much detail.

I totally agree. They are such self absorbed crap!

Which ones are you referring to?

There may be some good ones out there but I don't like the ones that seem to exist purely to give good reviews to whatever latest freebie they have acquired. Really what is the point?

I have utmost respect for my sons privacy. I dont blog anything too personal, its more of an outage for me. I dont post pics of him online. When he's old enough he can choose to do that himself. You are generalising and being unreasonable as a result.

I dont like the sun newspaper...guess what? I dont read it.

Meh. There are many, many blogs out there all with different perspectives, tone, experiences and so on. Some most are self absorbed twaddle but some are genuinely uplifting, inspiring and helpful. I practised hypnobirthing and wanted real life experiences of breastfeeding - the good and the bad - and blogs helped me far more than a book or just googling the topic in both cases.

They are not all the same. Don't read them if you don't like them.

Any chance of a link to one of these delights?

I think blogs are like fb, they exist for people who like talking about themselves

Oh, I like the stick drawings one. And some others I can't remember.

I think the genuinely funny ones become popular and the self indulgent crap is more easily ignored.

I don't get them either OP. It seems quite narcissistic to want to blog about yourself.

I choose to interpret them as- you are not alone. This is sometimes our reality. But if you actually delve a bit further, you will find the love and happiness there too. They just choose to be more honest about the shit days as well as the great days.

Don't read if you don't like it.

Sorry, to give some context.. we've recently moved and my dp works away 4 days out of 7 at the mo.. I joined mumsnet hoping to meet local mums etc but have been reading posts etc getting a bit more involved.. seeing some comments about blogs I thought maybe it would be relateable... please don't think I'm one of those 'Martyr' types who never moan. Omg. I DO!!! I will try to post the link to the last blog I read as it was really all based around the 'horrors' of the soft play and the boredom of motherhood etc etc. But it seems to be a running theme on the Ines I have been on 😬

I like some of them but what gets me are the posts about how they haven't got their baby body back and don't care/ don't have time to do hair/ make up anymore and don't have anything to wear..... accompanied by pictures of them in ironed clothes! With an amazing figure and perfect hair and make up!

I'm only a little jealous

@hellagoodhair yeah some things seem like stealth boasts