To despise 'mummy blogs'

[Kirstsworld]

I am pretty new to mumsnet and through reading comments on other posts I have become aware of these 'blogs' and decided to read a couple. My mistake!. I don't understand why they exist. I understand the pressures and difficulties of being a mother, and get the need to vent. For info I am SAHM also(still struggling with pnd through 9 months in nicu, death of both my parents, another 9 month stint in hospital and a diagnosis of asd and dyspraxia) but I am aghast reading some of the 'lighthearted' blogs. They honestly seem so bitter and twisted and just nothing more than an excuse to complain about being a mother.
I get that they are supposed to be funny but I can't help thinking of how the children will feel reading them when they are older.
There is no respect for the children's privacy, have seen pictures and videos shared, or any thought given to their feelings in the future... just seems to me a never ending list of 'mummies' who don't want to do anything their kids enjoy or want to do and who's only joy in life is drinking copious amounts of wine at 4pm after being pissed off at their kids all day...
Anyone able to explain the allure of these blogs??

I don't understand why they exist

Because some people like to write blogs? Because writing keeps them feeling sane, it's a hobby, and it's nice to know that other mums have ups and downs too and stories to share to help each other.
You don't have to "get" it. Just don't read them if you don't like them, kind of if you don't like a certain type of magazine or book genre.
So yes, YABU.

This

'Totally agree nauseatingly smug at best self absorbed claptrap at worst'

Also people complaint about being a mum gets my back up as it was a hard road to get here...

Best not to link to any of them. A while ago a thread like this appeared, a blog (not a moany one more a 'look at my great life' one) got linked to and the Blogger got very upset with the comments and joined MN to say so. Then the thread was deleted, while it all continued on the bloggers social media.

oh do you mean the mumsnet bloggers op?

Any chance of a link to one of these delights?

Yeah, 'cos that'll go down just as well as it did on the last "I hate all bloggers" thread.
People piling in to make fun.

@ribenamonsoon has summed up my post perfectly and yes, sorry I am generalising and I don't have enough experience of reading these blogs to state what I have!! Obviously I've just stumbled across a few negative blog posts and I agree I did make a sweeping statement.

The only one I like and follow (on Facebook) is Hurrah for Gin (the stick drawings one). If you haven't read the Topsy and Tim one or the mums night out one, then you really don't know what you are missing. But I don't see that as such as her hating parenting and complaining about her kids, more the realistic side of parenting and that is isn't all finger painting and food cooked from scratch. The whole 'look at me, aren't I a wonderful earth mummy' type crap is tedious at best.

Step the FUCK away fro mummy blogs. I didn't get the memo to myself until DD was 6months old. Bloggers are not like "you and me". They're usually full of shit. And they'll curdle your brain to mush.

Re: meeting local mums...well it was netmums that helped me out haha! Sorry MNHQ

Just get on down to your local children's centre/buggyfit/rhyme time and meet people that way. Grounded me and kept my sanity at a time it could've fluttered away on the breeze.

Ps: confession time...there was a Melanie Phillips article about mummy bloggers a while back that she got VILIFIED for. I thought she was bang on the money.

@hudson10 I absolutely agree with your points, they are very well made. Each to their own. I just(from the limited number I sampled) felt it was overwhelmingly negative.. I get the ups and downs and potentially need to blog( I'm pretty much marooned here) I just think maybe the few I have read did have a general feel of complaining about how bad it was to be a mum rather than highlighting any ups or downs.

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Brilliant!

I totally agree. I don't understand the allure of these types of blogs. I started reading "the unmumsy mum" blog to see what the hype was about and immediately realised it wasn't for me. I do find it slightly odd that you would moan publicly about being a parent but at the same time I realise it's meant to be funny

I vaguely know someone who has this sort of blog. I also know it's a smoke and mirrors effort to pretend her life is lovely and amazing when it in fact, is not. I presume a fair few "mummy bloggers" are similar. If it makes them happy then fine, the people who know them will know most of it is a lie a touch fanciful in places.

There is one blog I do genuinely like, More than Toast. But that blogger was never about faking and has never seemed anything other than adoring of her children, if during the tough toddler tantrum times etc.

Ps I don't hate all bloggers!

Just picked up on the sponsored thread thing and I see that now too.. I have followed some lifestyle and health/wellness/beauty type blogs.
The particular blogs I have read(which I won't link) just mentioned their children by name, included descriptions of placed and situations they had been in and why they were draining etc.. and it wasn't just one it was a few!!!
Will check out hurrah for gin because I thoroughly agree with that sentiment 😊

I dislike them too. The only one I like is surviving a sleep thief but I think there's too many and if I'm honest I think it's creating a culture of parents bigging themselves up for being less than perfect mums. I understand nobody's perfect but should we be glorifying our 'faults'? I'm not so sure.

In theory I think its great that they exist and that they should be a great source of inspiration and advice to mums and new mums in particular and help mums who are looking to get some of their old life back.

In practice almost all of the ones I have ever read are a load of self-indulgent wank by (almost always) bored wealthy mums with more money than sense who have lost all their critical faculties since having kids and have convinced themselves that their humdrum observations about creating organic puree are of interest to the wider world. I have yet to read one which wasn't drivel.

I'm really not a fan. They're horribly self indulgent and read like diaries that people want to be told they're very clever for writing. I've come across a very small minority that actually have an interesting slant but the majority of blogs in general are just awful.

The Legend Hie thee to a hunnery!

Look, just don't read them, you know? They aren't compulsory reading.

Personally I love Hurrah for Gin, to the extent that I woke dh up one night because I was reading the soft play bit of her book with tears running down my face, and was shaking the bed in my efforts to repress my mirth. I also adore her Capable Louise (we all know one, surely). But if you don't like it, fair enough! We are all different.

Don't let these things push your blood pressure up, its really not worth it.

spudlet

I knowwwww

Going to check out hurrah for gin!! and take everyone's very good advice and steer clear of the negative seeming ones.. 😊.

I have a blog. It's kind of parenting and lifestyle. Makes me feel a bit rubbish reading this but then I suppose it's different strokes for different folks isn't it. You don't have to read them I suppose, just like I didn't have to read this thread! We all like different things and me blogging isn't hurting anybody.

Yanbu. They're either "look at my life" embellished yummy mummy blogs or the competitive rubbish parenting type ("look how rubbish I am or how much I hate parenting teehee). I don't get it.

So, of the two types of mommy blogs..

1. Oh look at what a perfect organic natural mother I am , my child eats goats milk cheese made by virgins under the full moon and his diapers are spun from gluten free fair trade hairs of a wild rabbit or whatever the F*#%
2. I'm an upper middle class soccer mom/SAHM who pretends to be a frazzled alcoholic for entertainment and "relatability". So the Jennifer Lawrence of mommy blogs. I assume you're referring to the latter only? Both are kind of gimmicky.

What I hate is the twitter accounts who posts totally fake stories of everything their kid says to entertain other adults. Like really , stop using your kids for twisted SM affirmation

I just think "calm down love your not the first mother thats ever existed you know" can't understand how they even have time for it myself. You know they have the kids sat in the corner munching wotsits in a state of neglect while they instagram pictures of their latest "hacks" or home decor

And don't go near Instagram either. There's a couple I follow(ed), both v successful and her working in the NHS with a lovely family that lived quite close to me etc etc then they started doing loads of sponsorship ad-type stuff and it just all seemed to go a bit "fake".

I wish they'd just stuck to the (quite amusing) basics without making every second post an #ad or #sponsorship

As you can tell by my username the only mummy blogger i find slighty amusing is peterandjane