To despise 'mummy blogs'

[Kirstsworld]

I am pretty new to mumsnet and through reading comments on other posts I have become aware of these 'blogs' and decided to read a couple. My mistake!. I don't understand why they exist. I understand the pressures and difficulties of being a mother, and get the need to vent. For info I am SAHM also(still struggling with pnd through 9 months in nicu, death of both my parents, another 9 month stint in hospital and a diagnosis of asd and dyspraxia) but I am aghast reading some of the 'lighthearted' blogs. They honestly seem so bitter and twisted and just nothing more than an excuse to complain about being a mother.
I get that they are supposed to be funny but I can't help thinking of how the children will feel reading them when they are older.
There is no respect for the children's privacy, have seen pictures and videos shared, or any thought given to their feelings in the future... just seems to me a never ending list of 'mummies' who don't want to do anything their kids enjoy or want to do and who's only joy in life is drinking copious amounts of wine at 4pm after being pissed off at their kids all day...
Anyone able to explain the allure of these blogs??

[hereforthegin]

TheLegendOfBeans is that Mother and father of daughters? Just out of interest...

[TheLegendOfBeans]

As I work for MI5 I'd have to shoot you if I told you.

#notanad

[lookatyourwatchnow]

My friend has just started an instagram style one and it's cringey as fuck. All dyed spaghetti and puddle jumping - who gives a shit! It's not even an attempt at a humorous, self-deprecating one! Oh and her husband is an absolute cunt to her and she's miserable as anything but conveys a #yummymummy #hubby #mygorgeousfamily instagram life

[Nomdutilisateur]

Constance Hall has done well for herself.

[Nomdutilisateur]

I read this earlier. I had never heard of the mummy blogger before I read the article.
amp.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/aug/04/sharenting-parents-instagram-privacy-social-media

[LaArdilla]

For some women 'motherhood' becomes a replacement for their entire personality.

Yes, it's shit, try not to become it.

But, yeah, competitive positive mothering is crap, competitive crap mothering is also crap but probably also lying, so slightly worse than crap because who wants to make up stories about shit and fish fingers just to make friends?

[Kirstsworld]

@thelegendofbeans thanks I have been going to soft play etc a lot of the groups seem to be off st the moment while schools are on hols but I'm open to keep trying 👍
Like you I get that parenting is hilarious and frustrating and difficult it's more the minute details of theirs kids behaviours and the pics I don't get.. also there is one particular blog(which inspired my post) where the lady genuinely seems to be just hating every minute of parenting but I feel she thinks is she is funny and maybe I just don't get it x

[Kirstsworld]

@laardilla this is it... I just got the feeling that it was over the top negative trying to be funny but just... not really. Just sad x

[Lazyginger]

Someone close to me blogs. The blog is complete shit. It's embarrassing. Its not under a pseudonym either. One day in the future their son's will apply for jobs. And all the crap about them being naughty, shitting on the floor blah blah blah (these things happen) will be there for all to read on the web.

[Rufustherenegadereindeer1]

Friend of mine sells stuff

She puts a lot of stuff on her Facebook page about walks in the woods, hot chocolate and marshmallows, having wonderful children, fairy lights in the garden, lots of lovely photos

All exaggerated and staged

She says that her customers buy in to the lifestyle, if they buy her gear they can live like her if you see what i mean

[Dozyoldtwonk]

Now I want names so I can check them out… I've read some good ones but there are also some pretty shite ones out there (for all the reasons posted above). My biggest bugbear is the sponsored & #ad ones but I guess some of them make a living blogging so needs must

I must be in the minority as I don't like Hurrah for Gin and The Unmumsy Mum is one of the worst - I just don't get the humour (so I don't read or follow them).

[Riversleep]

I don't read any blogs, especially not mummy blogs because I can't read more than 2 words of most without cringing. I get the need to write things down and log things you think are cute/funny but why publish them for all to see? Why not just write a diary old ? Then it's done for you and maybe your children. Why do people need to tell the world about their perfect life/ fake slack parenting/ funny anecdotes? If you put yourself out there, then you will get criticism. Especially if you are one of a thousand 'mummies' saying the same 'hilarious'and 'original' things about your children and thinking you're Marian Keyes?

[GinAndToast]

I used to have to work with "mummy bloggers" professionally recently.

There is no originality.

They are all recycled rubbish.

If I had a pound for every blog I read that stated "the thing I have learnt since becoming a mummy" and the bloody baby is only a week or two old, I would be very rich.

I am very nice to them, professionally.

I'd never read them otherwise.

[Nomdutilisateur]

I have seen jesssfam on YouTube (she's American) she makes £££££££££ I think.

[mygorgeousmilo]

YANBU. The blog my friend started was so cringey, and just untrue and needy - I couldn't look her in the face sometimes just thinking about the claptrap she'd put on there. When she "sadly announced" the end of the fucking stupidblog, I was bloody delighted.

[bangingmyheadoffabrickwall]

I follow a few on FB - mainly due to the humour and one in particular lives close by.
There is one that I know of (was in a group with the mum) who is VERY up her own arse, actually implies it on her FB page, looks down her snooty nose at those who don't parent in the same way). THAT one I DON'T read.
It's like anything really; if you don't like it, don't read it. Just because you don't understand the reasoning or purpose behind it, doesn't mean it's the wrong thing to do.
Although I do agree about not putting details about your kids on these blogs as they then have no control over who sees them etc and as they become older, they may resent it.

[Eleventybillionfucks]

Two of the most gobsmaking ones ive come across in the news were
Daddyofive
Shaytards
Both very dysfunctional and thankfully removed from the internet
They were both like watching a car crash

[Plainlycrackers]

I'm with eleventybillion I don't read mummy blogs as a rule... except Peter and Jane... DH and I loves a bit of P&J #laughtertherapy 😂

[Eleventybillionfucks]

The thing with peter and jane is she's making fun of all the other bloggers by doing it. I always look forward to her fuck it all Fridays

[Plainlycrackers]

❤️JudgyDog

[MumIsRunningAMarathon]

eleventy and nom..... they are vloggers

A whole different world to bloggers

Daddyofive had his children removed.... deservedly so too

[Eleventybillionfucks]

Judgy dog is so amazing I've always wanted a border terrier

[Eleventybillionfucks]

Its all the same to me. Its all psrents2 exploiting their children and humiliating them in years to come by posting all these intimate moments and pictures online for all to see just so they can get some sort of gratification from it instead of getting gratification from raising their children.

[Eleventybillionfucks]

*parents

[Sleepthief84]

I quite enjoy Man vs Baby, which is a Daddy version but the same thing essentially. And reading The Unmumsy Mum helped me a lot when I was struggling with a high needs newborn. Gave me a giggle anyway. The rest of them are a bit cringe.