Okay I am currently pregnant I look after my daughter full time at home... my partner has a 3 year old son.
There is many things I am noticing that I'm not sure weather my step sons mum is doing or not for example ... his lower lip is beginning to get very saggy and cracked from where he sits with his mouth open ALL the time... so when ever my step son comes over I keep reminding him to close his mouth I just simply say "*name close your mouth darling" and he closes his mouth and put a sad face on. I tell him to close his mouth because in the future I don't want him to have not to sound rude but a big drop lip. I've told my partner he needs to speak to his sons mums about his lips and tell her to keep reminding him to close his mouth my partner ignored me.
He also throws stuff on the floor that he doesn't want for example food he will throw the little banana white strands onto the floor and i once told him to pick it up and throw it into the bin to teach him that's not good my partner told me to "leave him"
Also his teeth he has plaque on them so I've bought him a tooth brush and use my dd tooth paste and make him brush his teeth. I've also told partner to tell his mum to brush his teeth he ignored me.
Once my partner was feeding him and he didn't like the omelette he gave him he just spat it out all of himself and tried to hit the omelette out of my partners hand and my partner laughed and moved his hand so the omelette wouldn't go on the floor and my step son went to his moved hand and tried to hit it again and thought it was funny I stepped in and said U need to tell him he can not do that my partner ignored me.
My partner bought him 6pack of yogurt I said after dinner and my partner blatantly ignored opened one and then fed him the yogurt in my face... after dinner he let his son eat all 5in my face!!!
Also my partner hasn't been spending time with him my partner picks him up in the morning and comes home gives him to me and goes to work as a barber and I take the kids round to the barbers so his son can get his hair cut then after he cuts his hair we all go home and he takes him home no dinner with him nothing he only sees him when his hair is getting cut because he has palmed him off to me this has been happening for about 1 day every week for a month now my step sons mum doesn't even know I'm left with their son by myself. I know she wouldn't be happy.
I don't mind doing it but his son doesn't have manners I tell him to say thankyou he refuses to say it he doesn't cover his mouth when he coughs he is still in diapers and is doing full poos in them that I'm having to change and recently his son has been crying when his dad goes to work and my partner still leaves I really don't know where I stand here
I am seriously fed up of my partner making me feel like I have no say in what goes on in his sons life seriously I feel disrespected when things like this happen.
I don't know what to do with this situation my partner putting his son on me who seems to not been taught anything ... no manners no thankyou please coughs with no hands and poos and wees himself I feel out of control because I have been made to feel like he is not mine so I don't have a say but he's 3 come on ...
I just don't know what to do ?