To let 4 month old lie in til 10-11am?

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We have a 4 month old baby - our first so we have no idea what we're doing!

Despite efforts to encourage her to sleep earlier in the evening, she just won't go to sleep and stay that way til 9-10pm. She then sleeps a good 12-13 hours with a couple of half-asleep feeds every 4-5 hours or so.

Husband thinks we should be waking her up in the morning, he thinks we will have problems with getting her up for school etc. in the future if we don't deal with this now, and that if we force her awake earlier she will start to sleep earlier.

I think we should be thanking our lucky stars that she sleeps so well, enjoy the fact that we can still have weekend lie ins (it's me not him that's going to have to get up if she starts waking earlier), and not stress ourselves out trying to change things. Aibu?

he thinks we will have problems with getting her up for school et

Seriously? He's bonkers! She's four months old, her sleep patterns will change a hundred times before she gets to school age.
If it works for you right now, go with it. If it doesn't, then change it. It really is that simple.

I would never wake a sleeping baby just run with it the pattern will change at some point

I think your dh has a point. My dd was similar but when we started waking her up earlier she did eventually start sleeping earlier too. It just took a while & there was a bit of a frantic hair pulling period where she was sleeping at 10 and waking up at 6 but that didn't last long.

My four month goes to bed with me between 21.00/22.00, but feeds every 2.5 hours and is up again at 06.30

I say let your baby sleep. I'm not sure if four months is a tad too young to introduce a ridged sleep routine, but that's just my preferred style of parenting.

Im also wildly jealous.

4 months old, sleeping well and he wants to change it because she might struggle with school in 4 years time.

Let sleeping babies lie.

She's tiny, go with it for now. Plenty of time to get a routine in place for school! DD had a similar routine at that age and naturally adjusted over a few months to align with the times dh and I kept.

he thinks we will have problems with getting her up for school et

I. Sorry that's the funniest thing I've read.Her sleep patterns will change.Plus enjoy the lie in they stop soon enough.

Enjoy it!

Sleeping patterns change all the time , babies are unaware of what time it is and don't conform to 'normal' time scales.

Your DH is getting a bit ahead of himself!!
Let your baby sleep as she wants to. She is only 4 months old! Plenty of time in years ahead for her to start waking up in time for school. Little babies often need lots of sleep! I have a baby of the same age who also goes down at about 9/10. He's usually up by 7, but if he slept til 10 1 would gladly let him!

Make the most of it op and don't let him wake the baby earlier!! The thing with babies and sleep is that everything is a phase. The next phase could well involve being wide awake at 4am every day!

Enjoy your lie in. Your dh is bonkers

Let him wake her - on a day when you're not there so he can deal with a fractious tired baby. I would hazard a guess that he wouldn't suggest it twice.

Bless him op.

Your baby is tiny and her sleep patterns will change many many times before school.

If you can't have a long lie when you're four months old, when can you have a long lie??

Next thing he'll be putting her out to work ("gotta earn your keep").

I would let her sleep, because 9 - 10pm isnt too late and you can probably still get some time to yourself in the evening. I had this with my baby except she was sleeping at 1am, but would sleep until about 11am. I changed it over time by only waking her up a tiny bit earlier each morning, like 10 minutes, and having a very calm evening from about 5 or 6pm. It took 2 weeks to move bedtime from 12-1am to 9pm.

More to the point how is she ever going to get up in time for work??

There are always night shifts I suppose.

I'd let her sleep! My LO is a bit younger than yours but doesn't sleep til 9/10pm (with a couple of naps during the day) and wakes every 4 hours for s sleepy feed during the night. She is usually up at 9am but gave us a "lie in" until 10 the other day and we were all much brighter for it.

It's a tiring stage when they're tiny. Any extra sleep is a bonus! ☺

He's nuts! Let her lie in. School is ages away!

the only child rearing rule I never broke was 'never wake a sleeping baby'

Your DH is utterly bonkers - believe me, a child's sleep pattern will change many times before she starts school.

Enjoy the lie ins whilst you can!!!

Babies this young you work around them so let her sleep. If you want to alter it a bit you could try but in small increments not making baby grouchy by waking her at 7 and entertaining her whilst she wants to sleep

Oh good grief! Let her sleep!

At 4 months she should still be in the same room as you for all sleep including naps (SIDS guidelines), so it's safer for her to go to bed when you do in the evening anyway.

Her sleeping pattern sounds utterly marvellous. Leave her be.

I agree with pings at 4 months they should be with you so it's not like you'll be getting an evening to yourself anyway so it seems pointless to get them to sleep earlier in the evening.

I'd say it depends if you prefer your evenings in peace or mornings - mine used to go to sleep at 7pm ish and then be up at 6am (throughout night as well of course!) ... I preferred a proper evening when I could wind down, so if you would prefer that you probably need to wake her up 30 mins before she usually wakes each day until you get to a time you prefer and hopefully the nights will follow accordingly