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AIBU?

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To let 4 month old lie in til 10-11am?

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Goldfishshoals · 03/08/2017 11:51

We have a 4 month old baby - our first so we have no idea what we're doing!

Despite efforts to encourage her to sleep earlier in the evening, she just won't go to sleep and stay that way til 9-10pm. She then sleeps a good 12-13 hours with a couple of half-asleep feeds every 4-5 hours or so.

Husband thinks we should be waking her up in the morning, he thinks we will have problems with getting her up for school etc. in the future if we don't deal with this now, and that if we force her awake earlier she will start to sleep earlier.

I think we should be thanking our lucky stars that she sleeps so well, enjoy the fact that we can still have weekend lie ins (it's me not him that's going to have to get up if she starts waking earlier), and not stress ourselves out trying to change things. Aibu?

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Flyingovertheocean · 03/08/2017 22:16

Oh my god OP!!! I wish I had had this problem!!!! Let her sleep! Enjoy your lie ins!!!! :)

mintich · 03/08/2017 22:18

Sleeping patterns change, let her sleep!

AprilShowers16 · 03/08/2017 22:21

Our DS was exactly the same, wouldn't go to bed earlier than 10 but then slept in until 10-11 each morning, as you said it actually meant I got more sleep because I could lie in and he wasn't really any trouble in the evening so didn't mind him being awake. I think around 7-8 months we started working on gradually getting him to bed earlier. We didn't do much but gradually it just naturally seemed to change and now he goes to bed at 7.30 and wakes up around 7 (he's 13 months) Just go with it, it's the only time you'll ever be able to do it with your first so embrace the lazy mornings 😆

generallyabitgrumpy · 03/08/2017 22:47

Never wake a sleeping baby.

SistersOfPercy · 03/08/2017 23:03

DS is now 24, but from a few weeks old slept from 10pm to 9am without a feed at all. I was young and a bit naive and thought they all did this....ha!
Anyway, please reassure your DH that ds always got up on time and manages to get to work on time too

LongLiveTheChief · 03/08/2017 23:17

100% let her stay as she is! When my LO got to weaning at 6 months, her sleeping patterns went craaaazy and I would have done anything for this kinda lie in! X

my2bundles · 03/08/2017 23:18

My kids sleep patterns have changed many times. The sleep pattern of a 4 month old will change several times before they start school. Necexamplecat 4 months my son woke 5 times a nightvfor feeds, by 10 months he dept a solid 12 hours and by 3 he woke every morning at 3 am for the day. By school age he woke at 6 am, now age 9 he wakes at 7 am and 9 am during school holidays. Dint stress let your tiny baby sleep because by he time they are 3 you may long for those days.

honeylulu · 03/08/2017 23:29

It's fine if it suits your day and enables you to sleep.
No harm leaving it for now. You can gradually adjust later as needed.

It won't be a popular view on here but I actually don't agree with"never wake sleeping baby". We always woke ours from afternoon naps (otherwise they would never have been tired enough for bed when we wanted them to go, or would have missed daytime feeds and been awake and hungry in the night). Also had to wake baby in the morning to go on school run with older one, and a few months later for nursery as i was back at work.
Nothing wrong with a good routine (from about 6 weeks - pointless before). I swear it helped mine sleep through the night reliably - baby 1 from 10 weeks and baby 2 from 15 weeks.

Skylark678 · 03/08/2017 23:33

Enjoy the peaceful mornings while you can!

Bellabooboo · 03/08/2017 23:34

Depends! If you need the sleep let her lie in, if you'd rather have your evenings, get her up. At this age mine were 'up' at 7 and back down for an hour at 9. Then down again at 12.30 and then again at 3 for 30 mins just to take edge off. Worked well for mine but everyone's different.

Bellabooboo · 03/08/2017 23:35

Mine are into routine though I have to add. If I'm late getting them to nap they'll lie on the floor somewhere

HiJenny35 · 04/08/2017 10:46

My daughter would sleep till 11, she did this from the day she was born. It was just her routine. When she started school we got her up earlier and she fell asleep earlier. At the weekends she will still often have a later morning. Don't worry about it, it really isn't a biggie. My 8 month old is current still fast asleep.

ArcheryAnnie · 04/08/2017 12:34

He's bonkers, bless him. A baby at 4 months isn't having a "lie-in" - it's not a teenager. If it suits you to let her sleep, then let her sleep. If you want to go somewhere in the morning that necessitates having to gently wake her, then go for it.

If he thinks things she's doing now are any sort of pattern for her school years, then he's in for a bit of a shock.

dustarr73 · 04/08/2017 12:39

At 4 months if you need to wake her,do it tent.Chances are she'll go ba k asleep in her buggy.

Louiselouie0890 · 04/08/2017 13:19

Enjoy it while it lasts

NatalyaJ · 04/08/2017 14:05

My daughter had exactly the same routine at that age as you have explained OP. Slowly in her own time, as she got more active and daytime routine changed, bed time moved forward and waking up got earlier. She is now 5 and goes to sleep at 7 and wakes at 7. I would say it's absolutely fine, and I was always thankful for the chance of a lie in :)

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