Annoyed that my DS caught a cold from his cousin

[Chewiecat]

My DS is sick .. mainly because we met his cousin last weekend and she was sick. DS is 5 months old..

I am just a bit annoyed because SIL & MIL didn't tell me before that DNiece was sick. Also they kept trying to touch and hug DS without washing their hands right after touching DNiece. The worst was when they came really close to DS and she sneezed on him. Then my mil says it's good for him to build up his immunity

I haven't said anything to them because what can you say? It would have been good for them to give me a heads up that DNiece was sick so I can choose not to go meet them.

I know I can't wrap him in cotton wool forever but I'm just a bit annoyed. I respect other people's children enough to not bring him to meet other people when he is sick.

He's just been screaming and crying his head off with a fever and snotty nose.. I feel so bad for the poor baby

Sigh, just wanted to rant, that is all

It's crap when a baby has a cold, miserable for them and stressful for you. I wouldn't meet up with a 5mo baby with a cold. Hell, I declined meeting up with a 9yo girl when my own 9yo had a cold!

Is he your first?

This really wouldn't bother me in the slughtest. Its a bit annoying when a baby gas a cold but not a big deal.

It's really not the end of the world. Babies can catch 8-12 colds in their first year. Wait until he goes to nursery / school, he'll have a runny nose every other week! Stock up on calpol, and a little olbas oil in an oil burner is great for blocked noses.

Wouldn't bother me at all! You really can't protect him from every illness

It's crap and I do feel for you (if it can be avoided, it should be), however babies pick up more colds than the average person and generally it's good to build up a resistance to them, bar other medical issues.

My partner is the most germy person I know. Working with kids and having a low resistance to viruses means he's snotty every 4-6 weeks without fail (and drives me nuts). Our child rarely picks them up anymore, in fact we're both (adults) sneezing and coughing this week while he's full of beans. So picking up germs in the first few months can have a silver lining. Hope he's feeling better soon!

Yeah he's my first so maybe that's why I'm so crazy overprotective

Sigh..hope he will get better soon

sorry but your being ridiculous.

It is rubbish when babies arent well i get that but in the long run honestly its better for his immune system.

Get some snuffle bubs, asda baby vapour bath and calpol he will be fine.

His your first it's normal to feel like this
However, as a poster said they get so many colds in their first year, just as one clears another comes along. It's tough but yab a bit u

Plus having a cold isn't really 'sick'. I wouldn't think twice about it.

chewiecat as a mother of two, I will say this as nicely as possible but you are being a tad PFB about this.

It's a cold. If you went out in the pram to the shops, a walk or the park, how do you know that a person passing hasn't got a cold?

Colds are one of the most contagious illnesses on the planet. You cannot avoid them whatsoever unless you barricade yourself in an sealed, air locked room!

It's a cold. Everyone is miserable. It's a bit annoying but one side of your post is coming across as being more annoyance for you than for your DS.

I am going to say it but; get a grip. It's a cold, not the plague. i would be a bit if someone cancelled a play date because one of my kids had a cold.

Seriously, if you ever have more kids in a few years time you wouldn't give a bleeding toss whether a play date had a cold.

I feel your pain. It never seems to have occurred to DSis to keep her coldy child away from anyone, be it tiny babies or ailing elderly relatives. Or herself, for that matter. Deeply irritating.

Are you American OP?

I kept thinking you meant he has a sickness bug

Is he your first?

My LO got a cold at 2 weeks old off her cousin. That was horrendous because she couldn't have anything apart from the nasal spray. She has another cold now at 4 months and it's no where near as bad as I can actually help her with various medications. It's horrible watching them suffer isn't it

As yucky and unpleasant as colds are for babies (especially if they are too young for pain relief) it really is good for his immune system. If you are planning on having him in daycare at any stage be prepared for him to catch everything that's going until his immune system catches up.

It's a cold, shit happens. Unless he's immuno-compromised yabu.

Totally normal and I felt the same with mine.

Still do ( and they're six and three)

Gets worse as they get older and go to School ( that's when twattish parents irritate you on a regular basis by bringing in their precious unwell child to School which results in your child catching whatever little snowflake has).

It's so fucking selfish but that's a whole different thread.

Hope your little one feels better

DS is your first so we cut you a little slack, but... YABU! Can't stop living in order to try and avoid colds. 5mo isn't newborn, and he's going to get cold after cold from somewhere.

But like I said, a little slack needs to be cut for a first-time mum

Having a mild cold isn't being sick. If you have a second child will you wash your hands after touching older child before touching baby? Children can get lots of colds.
What until nursery or school! Worms and nits and vomiting and all the joys to come!

I did think it's a little patronising when someone asks if it's your first child, as though everything you do or feel it's an overreaction or you're just being overprotective.

OP, I would feel the same (and I have more than one child too). Him having a cold now isn't going to prevent him catching another x number of months down the line. Yes, catching a cold is a fact of life, unfortunately, but this particular illness he's experiencing right now wasn't inevitable. It was entirely avoidable. This is a 5 month old baby who suddenly feels incredibly poorly and doen't understand what's happening to them. It's horrible feeling so ill. Why anyone would want to, or feel it's ok you, deliberately subject a tiny baby to that beggars belief!

OP, you are neither being unreasonable nor overprotective! You just don't want to see your baby suffering. That's completely normal.

I hope he feels better soon.

I'd text them next time you're due to meet, and say just checking no one has a cold/virus that can be passed on. When my DD was born (3 weeks early), we'd been home a few days when our NDN popped in with her 2 boys. Both had streaming colds and were touching DD....I was trying to not to panic, and be polite but I actually bathed her as soon as they'd gone. 48 hours later, she had a fever, snuffly nose...... by that night she was unable to feed and was limp so we had to phone an ambulance. She'd got bronchiolitis, and ended up in hospital being tube fed and oxygenated for 5 days, dropped nearly a lb in weight and took months to recover. She was also my rainbow baby after losing her brother to stillbirth. It was not the way I'd imagined having a newborn in the house again .
Just for those who think it's good for your baby to get a cold .

Yanbu I hate it when that happens. My 4 year old has 4 or 5 general anaesthetics a year and if he has a cold they can't do it. My 6 year old has asthma and reflux and both are made worse when he gets a cold. I wish people would be more careful about who they are sharing their germs with.

It's a bit shit but he's 5 months old and quite robust enough to deal with a cold. My MIL visited my newborn when she was 3 days and gave her a cold (after swearing blind her sneezing was allergies). I was not pleased to say the least. She later admitted to DH she knew she had a cold but said it was allergies so I wouldn't 'ban' her from visiting.

Very inconsiderate of your family members. It is not their call as to whether it's ok to put your LO st risk of catching something. Babies are at risk of infection from random situations and "planned" introduction of germs is unreasonable and inconsiderate.
Hope your LO feels better soon OP