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AIBU expecting people to move?

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DobbyLovesSocks · 31/07/2017 21:44

Evening all. Quite expecting to be told I'm being U but here goes:
To celebrate 200 years sine Jane Austen died there have 24 'book benches' built and placed in various places that she lived and socialised in Hampshire (Basingstoke, Alton, Steventon etc). As its summer hols and they are only in place to end of August, myself and DS are making it our mission to see them all. There is an app you can download and 'log' each bench you find with rewards for certain ones you find and once you find a certain number.
Today we found one of the benches and wanted to take a photo; trouble is someone was already sat on it. Fair enough it is a bench. I asked the people sat on it if they would mind if I took a photo of DS on it (planning on doing album of all 24 benches). They said no problem and moved up to let DS sit down. I expected them to actually get up and off bench for a minute while I took the photo.

So AIBU to expect people to move for a moment?

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NevermindtheBollocks · 31/07/2017 21:46

Did they know the significance of the bench?

HooplaLoopla1 · 31/07/2017 21:46

Well yeah a bit, you could've just explained. They probably didn't realise you wanted them to totally get off the bench. I doubt they would've minded considering they was willing to move up.

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 31/07/2017 21:47

But you didn't ask them to get up

StickThatInYourPipe · 31/07/2017 21:48

Did they know the significance of the bench? It does t sound as if you actually asked them to get off the bench, just to move up a bit

PunnetSquare · 31/07/2017 21:51

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WhamBarsArentAsFizzyAsTheyWere · 31/07/2017 21:53

They did as you asked. They aren't mind readers.

fc301 · 31/07/2017 21:53

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ImperialBlether · 31/07/2017 21:54

What the hell does that mean, fc301?

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DobbyLovesSocks · 31/07/2017 21:56

The benches are quite unique, brightly painted, each with a theme of something to do with Jane's life so pretty distinctive.
No I didn't ask them to get up as thought that would be quite rude; if I was sat on one of them, and someone came along to take a photo etc I would get up and out of the way (mainly because I don't want to be in some random persons photo!)
To be fair at the time I was quite hot, juggling three shopping bags, hand bag and desperate for a drink

OP posts:
nodogsinthebedroom · 31/07/2017 21:57

I've think you are being a little bit u tbh.

If you'd have assured me to let your son sit down then I would have done so happily. If you'd asked me to stand up and move out of the way then I probably would have but I'd have been a bit narked (I'd probably have been sitting down to rest or maybe eat).

WineAndTiramisu · 31/07/2017 21:57

fc301 seems to think that only rich people like literature... Seems a rather odd opinion, but each to their own

InfiniteSheldon · 31/07/2017 21:58

I don't understand why you needed them to move. And yes yabu I think it's a lovely idea and would understand you wanting to take a pic but I can't see why moving up and making room for your ds isn't enough.

fc301 · 31/07/2017 21:59

I'm merely implying that this is a champagne problem to have. Sorry for any confusion.

CockacidalManiac · 31/07/2017 22:01

It's like 'attack of the arseholes' here recently. Posters coming on just to be unpleasant for no apparent reason.

TeachesOfPeaches · 31/07/2017 22:01

OP you are being extraordinarily precious.

fc301 · 31/07/2017 22:02

To be clear I am NOT implying that only rich people like literature.
I am saying that OPs problem is this : she didn't like to ask them to move but is now on MN bemoaning how unreasonable THEY were for not knowing she meant "shift your arses while I take a photo". As you were.

Original poster
DobbyLovesSocks · 31/07/2017 22:03

Thanks fc301. I shall have a stern word with myself while the butler tops up my champers.
First world problems - the best sort to have Wink

OP posts:
fc301 · 31/07/2017 22:03

And I'm not an arsehole. teachesofpeaches has put it better than I ever could.

fc301 · 31/07/2017 22:03

😘 OP

Alexandra87 · 31/07/2017 22:05

I would have moved completely off the bench simply because I wouldn't want to be in a random persons photo

Fairenuff · 31/07/2017 22:07

No I wouldn't have moved off the bench unless you asked me to.

Xeneth88 · 31/07/2017 22:08

Yabu. "Hey random human, any chance you could get up for a sec so I can take a pic of this bench, it's because of......... And we've been going round all of them" Random human gets up, no drama here, "thanks so much! Enjoy your day!"

Such a non issue.

5moreminutes · 31/07/2017 22:08

Yes, you are BU to expect them to move. If they moved out of excessive people pleasing niceness sods law is somebody else would sit down and they'd lose their bench, and probably wanted to sit and rest a while.

fc301 are you one of those "only life or death problems permitted" self appointed board police? People can post about anything - deeply important or utterly trivial, it's all allowed. There are regular dull posts about how to pronounce scone or how often to wash sheets Just read click away if something is to trivial to interest you, or tell the OP if you think they are being U ... no need to attack someone for having a "champaign" problem Hmm

SaturnUranus · 31/07/2017 22:09

YABU to expect people to be able to read your mind. If you wanted them to stand up, you should have said so.

Could you not have just waited for them to leave, if the bench was so important to you and DS? Confused