To say I can't do it anymore.

[Marshmallowpingpong]

I know that I will probably get flamed but here goes. I agreed to look after a neighbours daughter over summer holidays (teacher so off at the moment) and I have realised that I just can't do it anymore. I feel so stressed and ill. The little girl is autistic and I am just exhausted and it is such hard work. I was feeling stressed towards the end of term but agreed partly because I need the money but also because I thought I could manage it. At the moment I feel so bad/I'll I am even worried about being well enough for September. I haven't been paid anything yet despite giving them my bank details and seriously wonder if I will get paid at all. The stress is affecting my whole family- why didn't I realise how hard it would be??
What am I going to do?

What happened? Do you have her today?

I didn't see mum or dad yesterday afternoon - grandma took over from me. So it was all done by text - cowardly I know. Tried to persuade me to continue and promised to pay. I refused and did not go today. Still haven't been paid. I am out of the situation now and if necessary will just have to chalk it up to (hard earned) experience. My husband is furious and has threatened to go round there but I really don't want the situation to escalate any further. I almost just want to forget it all happened. I would say live and learn but unfortunately I never do! Anyone want any free childcare?

See, they 'promised to pay' - in an age of bank transfer withintwo hours they could have actually paid you. I think they were always planning either not to pay at all, or to delay it for as long as possible. You're well out of it.

Well done for not having the child today, and saying no. Pressure them for the payment.

Well done for not taking them today.
But yes - let your DH go round and get the money!! Did you have a contract?
Sod that. They still only 'promised' to pay. You're well out of that one

Your DH wants to go round? Let him! If they get off with this, they will just carry on treating people like this. Grrrrr

I agree - it is easy to transfer the money if you have it. If they can't pay for the work that I have already done then it is unlikely that they would pay for any further work. Glad I have cut my losses before I am further out of pocket.

Hope you've been paid by now op, if not let your husband go round and give them hell. You've nothing to lose.

I know it's too late now but my childminder asks for payment in advance, or she won't take the child. Hope you feel better soon OP.

I hope you get paid & well done for saying no from now on.