To think that MN should not post personal threads on Facebook?

[Farontothemaddingcrowd]

Yes I know, it is a public forum. I know things can be lifted from here by the daily mail. But it feels like a betrayal when MN lift personal threads by potentially vulnerable posters, where they can be viewed by a wider and less sympathetic audience. This has happened to me and thankfully I'm not vulnerable and I can take it. But this really isn't in the ethos of this site to take a personal post and expose it to a wider audience like this. I think it'll stop people sharing on here when they need support.

They can do what they want

YABU

MN is a business. They have to make money and to do that they need to keep generating traffic.

What's the difference between here and Facebook? If it's so personal the OP has had no qualms about posting it on an international site read by literally millions.
Can't get worked up about the posts that get shared on Facebook.

YANBU.

I haven't posted a thread in a while, but if I did, I'd message MNHQ to respectfully request that my life or personal circumstances aren't made Facebook Fodder.
Some of the comments on the FB pages would get a poster banned off Mumsnet for their pure vicious nature. Exactly what people suffering DON'T want to read.
Other posts are identifying. I've not posted any identifying posts under this name, but others I have and then changed. If they went on FB I'd be outed in half an hour. It's massively unfair on possibly vulnerable posters to do that I think.

Facebook attracts a different poster entirely.

Unless you want MN to introduce a paywall, what else do you suggest?

I don't know. Probably not a good time to ask as I'm having a huge resurgence of anxiety based on the Facebook comments from my thread. I now feel incredibly isolated and as if it is wrong to feel low.

They don't care if your thread is sensitive. Any thread is fair game for clickbait.I'm always surprised by how much people share on here these days.

Sometimes I feel like it's done automatically.
Mumsnet FB can't be seen by everyone, still only mumsnetters isn't it?

They were piling in like bullies. It felt awful if I'm honest.

I think people need to realise that MN is a business and anything you write on here is open for the world to read.

I've seen so many people use this site like a diary and then get upset when what they've written is plastered across the Fail - yet it still keeps happening! Writing identifiable stuff on here is the same as getting a megaphone and yelling it across town - people will realise it's about you/them and it can (and often will) come back and bite you on the bum at some point.

By all means come here for help, but keep it anonymous. NC for the private stuff or change info when it doesn't affect your story, but don't post diagrams of your road and describe your neighbours to a T and then wonder why they know it's about them!

@Thornyprick anyone can see the MN Facebook page. It's not private, same as MN isn't private. Anyone in the world can see this site, it's not a diary.

Yeah, but you have to like the page, it wouldn't just randomly pop up

That's a bit shit really Faronto and I don't think you're wrong to feel low. I didn't know MN did this with the more personal stuff - thought it was just the Penis Beaker style threads and the broad tips/advice stuff.

I had no idea they did that! Interesting.

No thats true. I guess i just wish the world was a nicer place and people didn't feel the need to bully others in order to feel superior.

Do they use content from all boards e.g. 30 days only?

I would hope not Daisy.

Mumsnet will do whatever they need to do to get people visiting the site as that's how they make money. That's why they link the interesting threads. I personally think too many people see mumsnet as a 'safe space' when in reality it's a money making business with a huge amount of users.

True. I've been more than a little naive.

The holidays thread? I saw that. Not very nice comments but then there are lots of not very nice people out there, especially on the internet. Try not to take it personally.

If you don't want it to be public, don't stick it on the internet. You can't have partial secrecy.

It would be good if they had a pop-up when you start a thread that said 'this thread may be shared on facebook; published by newspapers eg the Daily Mail or/and used to advertise MN on Twitter'
In theory everyone knows MN isn't private but for a long time you could post without any of those provisos being needed. Not any more.

It's hard not to take it personally. This holiday I have marked exams, written an educational resource for publication, planned for next year, tutored students, managed a team of examiners and looked after three children pretty much singlehandedly. But apparently I'm spoilt and entitled because I sometimes feel exhausted.

I agree with you. The people who post on the Facebook threads are entirely different to actually on here. There is often a sense that they will be unkind because it's MN - I get the impression many don't use the site at all. There is a nasty judgement often.

There was a thread about tidy houses which became people sharing stories about parents as hoarders and the impact on childhood or mental health issues. It was a supportive and honest thread. Then it got posted on FB and attracted comments like "filthy slags. Clean your house" People reported it and MN took it down though.

If you wanted to post on FB then you would do that directly. I get the impression that some of the threads shared onFB are not read in their entirety by whoever shares them which then leads to issues