To think that MN should not post personal threads on Facebook?

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Yes I know, it is a public forum. I know things can be lifted from here by the daily mail. But it feels like a betrayal when MN lift personal threads by potentially vulnerable posters, where they can be viewed by a wider and less sympathetic audience. This has happened to me and thankfully I'm not vulnerable and I can take it. But this really isn't in the ethos of this site to take a personal post and expose it to a wider audience like this. I think it'll stop people sharing on here when they need support.

I know. But facebook feels very different. The posters are very different .

I agree OP, but it won't change.
This is why I never post here asking for serious advice or with a serious issue.

Yes passme. I didn't feel that many of the posters were mumsnetters to be honest. I feel comfortable here and I wouldn't even mind a flaming as posters here tend to be intelligent and measured. Not so on Facebook.

More threads on how people could be more robust and strong and stoic might be a good idea - how to build up yor internal resources so you can cope with whatever live throws at you and you don't become weak or upset by what others say. the psychological resources to take whatever life or the internet throws at you and still be happy. Threads like that would be a good idea. Making women strong.

Not everyone is strong and stoic though. I am pretty much like that now, but I have had times where I have been vulnerable. That isn't about me, but about too much shit happening that I had no control over.

I've recognised two people from posts that were published on the MN Facebook page. They were not threads that I would have normally read on the MN site and I do think that posting the threads on Facebook opens them up to a much bigger audience so to speak.

It has certainly put me off posting about things I previously would have done.

They would Lucy. But being vulnerable doesn't mean you can't also be strong. It's natural to be hurt at times. I'm more angry that adult women bully others.

Since penis beaker, I am very careful what I post on here.

You've already figured out that many of those that were negative to your situation were behaving like bullies. That's because they are bullies. Now join the dots. You know they're bullies, you know what bullies are so now you can logically disregard their opinions completely.

Stay strong. The world is full of people who get a kick out of belittling others or who think that by putting someone down it will somehow raise themselves up. We can't eliminate them but we can ignore them.

Maybe posters shouldn't post personal (identifiable) threads in the first place? It's all under the Mumsnet banner so anyone reading the Facebook posting could just as easily have read it on the website.

Where were people calling you spoilt? On FB or on MN?

I agree with you OP, they should no tbe posting personal threads, but they will carry on.

On Facebook ifyougodowntothewoods.
I know I shouldn't have posted it. It's not particularly identifiable but it's more that facebook is a different platform. My fault but maybe other posters will be aware now.

faron fuck them, honestly. They're morons. They don't know you and they probably just want a bitter old rant to the world. Please try and forget about them.

I will madmomma. I think I'm.a bit sensitive because I was bullied at school and this felt EXACTLY the same.

Yep.They're shits and it's just cowardly anonymous bullying.

Its not about identifiable posts though. It is about sensitive issues posted on facebook and not properly moderated.

Yes again, Lucy, you probably didn't mean it, but depression and anxiety are things you live with and manage. You don't always 'get over it ' and being psychologically robust is often about learning to manage during the vulnerable times. Most people are hurt when others are nasty to them.

I don't like the MN Facebook page, but if any of my friends like or comment on a post on there for some reason it comes up on my timeline. So it's definitely not just MN'ers who will see the post. And yes, it does seem to attract quite nasty comments at times.

OP, a while ago one of my threads was shared on the MN page. And multiple newspaper sites. The comments (which I shouldn't have read) were awful. Truly, truly nasty and shocking. I felt like absolute shit. There were no talk guidelines there to protect me! It's not nice and has taught me a valuable lesson. I no longer post anything that either I wouldn't want people I know to read or anything that would seriously affect my mood/emotions if the comments went the wrong way.

Hope you're OK

I remember your original post and also saw it on fb and the comments people put on. Whilst a lot were horrid there were some helpful comments and a few that agreed with you just thank the gods we get to use usernames and not our given names
Don't let negative get you down it's not wrong to feel how you do and some people are always looking to disagree with others.

As for mumsnet sharing in fb I do think it should be made clear this may happen - I remember another post they shared and the op asked them to take it down from fb (which they did) because it was too outing.

How to start an argument.....

1. post an opinion on fb
2. sit back and wait.

I agree, I think it is outrageous to post on Facebook. Facebook posts are cruel, and full of keyboard warriors with nobody there with banning power for those that go too far. It goes totally against the reason I post here. I think I will refrain from posting anything personal until mumsnet stop this. It opens up to an audience that we aren't posting to.

But it feels like a betrayal when MN lift personal threads by potentially vulnerable posters, where they can be viewed by a wider and less sympathetic audience.

This is frankly ridiculous. Did someone from MN hound you into sharing your 'personal' story or did you of your own volition set up an account and post to the forum which happens to be worldwide?
People post, inter alia, looking for support but MN is after all a business.
Same thing when threads are lifted by news sites - it is the risk you take when you sign-up and post.

People online can be twats. There were twats before the internet too. Don't let them get to you.

My feelings are my feelings. Please don't invalidate them by suggesting they are ridiculous. Emotions are not necessarily logical and I have already explained that I understand mumsnet's position on this. I was naive and feel other posters should be aware too.

Thank you though. I will try not to let them get to me.