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AIBU?

They didn't accept my bras...

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KnobZombie7 · 30/07/2017 22:39

Last week I decided to make use of an M and S gift card and upgrade existing bra 'collection'. On hearing about a local service that collects bras for women in war zones, I decided to donate six of my old ones and went into their shop to hand them over - all reasonable condition, clean, washed.

They said they were very much needed but I had to also give them a minimum £5 to pay for postage costs. I wasn't aware of this, my mother had donated some previously and didn't mention this, and I had no change on me at that time. Also, I don't have a huge amount of spare money at the moment.

I said that I could come back another day and donate (after pay day) but they said I would have to take the bras with me and couldn't leave them without a donation. So I left with my old bras and as I walked through the door heard, clearly, the woman say 'waste of time'. She was obviously BU!! The shop is quite a way away from where I live and decided to, on my way home, just drop them off at a charity shop instead.

Just wondering if this is the norm for some charities these days. Never encountered it before and find the whole idea of rejecting much needed donations rather odd and unreasonable.

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WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 22:41

She's not being unreasonable, you are. They rejected it because they'd have to pay to send them off, and you're supposed to help a charity not incur them costs.

YABVU.

dadadadathatslife · 30/07/2017 22:42

YANBU OP, I've never heard of donating to charity and having to pay for their postage costs

Perhaps we're out of touch?

KnobZombie7 · 30/07/2017 22:43

But they don't advertise the payment at all; they just have posters that say they very much need bras and where to take them to.

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IdentifiesAsASloth · 30/07/2017 22:43

If it's not advertised that you have to pay thenid be a bit stumped too.

fairypuff · 30/07/2017 22:44

I have never heard of having to pay postage before and I have personal experience of getting baby slings together to go to much needed areas of deprivation. No-one was asked for postage money.

bimbobaggins · 30/07/2017 22:44

I don't think you are bu at all. If I was donating to charity I'd probably donate cash or clothing I wouldn't expect to pay to donate my clothing. There was no need for the woman to be rude

peekyboo · 30/07/2017 22:44

Also it's assuming that everyone who donates can afford the postage. Some of us donate when we can but don't have spare money - sometimes the whole point of donating is to contribute when you can't give cash!!

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 22:44

Oh yes, they really should advertise the cost. But they're really not being unreasonable in wanting you to pay it.

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 30/07/2017 22:45

Yep never heard of that either

I wouldn't mind doing it obviously

Its just ive never heard of it

Is it £5 per bra or for as many bras as you want? If the latter surely they could have bundled it up with someone elses

Enchantedflamingo · 30/07/2017 22:45

Are you for real whattodo?

How strange OP - it seems very odd. I suppose things like operation Christmas child are similar but you'd think if they have a shop of their own they'd take them anyway?

KnobZombie7 · 30/07/2017 22:45

dada No, I've never encountered this either.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 Where do you live? Do charity shops near you also ask for postage costs as it's not something they have ever done where I live.

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dadadadathatslife · 30/07/2017 22:46

peekyboo makes a great point. What if you couldn't afford it?

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 22:46

I have never donated anything that needed posting; everything I have donated I have seen being sold in my local charity shop.

Slimthistime · 30/07/2017 22:46

Are they a registered charity? Sounds a bit dodgy to me.

RightOnTheEdge · 30/07/2017 22:47

That sounds really strange!
I thought they had collection bins to put them in.

KnobZombie7 · 30/07/2017 22:47

Oh well. I just thought it strange mainly because they wouldn't even accept the bras without accompanying monetary donation...
The charity shop was a regular charity shop, i.e. had lots of clothes, shoes, general stuff but also sent bras abroad.

Hey ho.

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KnobZombie7 · 30/07/2017 22:49

It was £5 flat rate. £5 minimum. Not £5 per bra - £30!! That would surely prevent many people form donating their bras!

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WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 22:49

It's not strange. They couldn't do anything with them unless they used their own money to pay for postage.

£5 may not sound like a lot but it all adds up if you're sending lots abroad.

CoughLaughFart · 30/07/2017 22:50

I would have smacked her one. Rude bitch.

WhatWould, you represent everything that is wrong with this site.

fairypuff · 30/07/2017 22:50

Not if they gather a lot together and send them with aid convoys which is the usual thing to do.

GinIsIn · 30/07/2017 22:51

When you said sending bras to women in war zones, I was imagining them being used as a trebuchet or something....

OP, some friends and I send school supplies to children in refugee camps. By far the biggest cost is transportation.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 22:51

CoughLaughFart 🤔🤔🤔

I would have smacked her one.

You would have physically assaulted a person, but I'm what's wrong with this site? Yeah, okay 😂

BusterGonad · 30/07/2017 22:52

WhatToDo you are funny!

TennisAtXmas · 30/07/2017 22:52

Are you sure they're actually a charity? We've had people round collecting old clothes, who were just re-selling them, but made it look a lot as if you were donating to charity.

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 30/07/2017 22:52

It was £5 flat rate. £5 minimum. Not £5 per bra - £30!! That would surely prevent many people form donating their bras!

Well yeah

So they could have parceled them up with someone elses bra and you could have popped back and donated another time

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