AIBU to be annoyed that friends haven't seen my baby

[mintich]

I had a baby 2 months ago and only one of my friends has actually come to see my baby.
In fact only 3 friends sent a card. My partners friends all sent cards and presents. Some friends have barely contacted me and others have arranged dates to see me but then they cancel.
I realise that even though it's a big event for me, it isn't for anyone else. But some acknowledgement other than a text would be nice! Would you be annoyed?

Perhaps you are right and 2 months isn't actually that long

It does seem like a long time in baby time, and when you're at home. Less so when you're busy with work.

BTW, Christenings or Naming Ceremonies are good to introdude the baby to friends too.

Also - If they are working & you're on Mat leave, does it make more sense for you to commute into London to see them? Are you comfortable taking your baby on the train?

I've realised I'm guilty of this. If a friend moves an hour away, unless they are a very close friend, I won't see them as often. I don't have a lot of spare time, so if we can't have a drink after work, or a local brunch on the weekend, it gets hard to fit them in.

The "different stage of life" rhetoric is so patronising!

Being voluntarily, willfully childfree and having a satisfying, all-consuming or otherwise, full-time career is not some adolescent phase that women go through before they've matured and accepted their inevitable and proper role as life-givers/ care-takers, you know! For some of us that is our chosen life and it is no less valid nor mature than yours!

That said, for you, OP. I'm sorry you're sad and disappointed by your friends' (lack of) reaction. It is hurtful when friends don't acknowledge/ take an interest in the things that matter in our lives.

Being voluntarily, willfully childfree and having a satisfying, all-consuming or otherwise, full-time career is not some adolescent phase that women go through before they've matured and accepted their inevitable and proper role as life-givers/ care-takers, you know! For some of us that is our chosen life and it is no less valid nor mature than yours!

Nobody said it was @FodieJoster

It's that attitude right there that creates division where there is none. Some people choose one path. Others another. Your post shows an unnecessary level of defensiveness that's hit a nerve (for me).

Lives change, it's a fact. You hope your chums will be there forever, sadly life doesn't always work like that.
Being at "different stages", on "different pages", however you call it is recognition that sometimes the ebb and flow of life can erode bonds that at one time would've seemed unbreakable.

It's not about superiority. It's just a damn shame.

Well said Legend!