DH has BO

[limon]

How would you broach this nicely?

He seems oblivious and takes umbridge when I say he needs a shower after exercise.

Hes quite punjent and often smells by the emd of the day

He does need to shower after exercise - most if not all adults do, even if we don't smell. What is his reason for not doing so?

Can you buy him some Mitchum?

He wouldnt use it if i did :(

He just doeant ever appear to have learned about bodily hygeine.

Thats really tough. Do you mean he doesn't use deodorant or he doesn't wash enough? What does he say when you talk to him about it?

He is your dh - no need to be that polite!!. Oh dearest h you need a shower or no goodnight kiss from me!!
My dh is but shower shy unless I am somewhat brutal. .
No way would I let anyone outside the home think he was minging!!

Tbh I would forget about nicely nicely.until you come tight out and say it he will probably just carry on.

"Dh you stink. Please shower and use some deodorant"

You can't take that the wrong way or misunderstand etc

Time for some tough love. Be blunt with him, tell him he stinks when he does.

So he doesn't even use deodorant? Why not?

I think the phrase "go and have a shower you reak " everytime he comes near could be quite effective , he sounds grim , i know a few people who dislike deodorants but take more showers to compensate

I would just tell him. I couldnt cuddle or anything else with dh if he stank.

Luckily my DH is quite paranoid about smelling (he's slightly larger) so asks me to tell him if he's ever wiffy.

I'd just say "you might want to put deodorant on" and that's it.

Is it a recent thing or has he never used deodorant or showered when sweaty. I don't think I could deal with someone who lacked respect for me so much that they didn't want to stink.

I just asked my partner if I had BO would he tell me. He said yes. I said "what would you say?" His response "you sttiiinnnkkk"!

You don't need to be nice (unless he has a medical condition he's, trying to but, struggling to control).

Just say, you stink, its disgusting either shower or get far enough away from me so I can't smell it.

He's your dh, if you can't be straight with him who can you be!

Does he wear fresh clothes every day? If not, it can make BO so much worse

He needs to sort his personal hygiene out and you don't need to be nice about it. He's an adult, he should know this stuff and do something about it. I wouldn't be sharing a bed with someone who smells.

I don't do politeness, the husband gets sent straight upstairs after his shift as soon as his unshoed feet hits my nose. It's inreasonable to expect other people to put up with your bodily smells.

Tell him to get the fuck in the shower. Seriously he should have learned all of this from his parents.

My OH went to sit in the lounge after he'd been gardening and was in dire need of a shower. I pointed out that he smelled and he said "I've been working" to which I replied, "and that stops you showering how exactly?" He got the hint and went straight up to shower. He's never done that since.

This was years ago, btw.

He just doeant ever appear to have learned about bodily hygeine.

Surely you must have noticed this before you agreed to marry him?

Buy dettol soap or black soap and a scrub brush. Leave it in the bathroom

Did you not notice this before you married him?

Yeah, you've tried nice. Try 'you stink' and go from there.It would be different if he was showering after exercise and using deodorant etc, but he isn't.

This is the type of thing that should be discussed before marriage. How does anyone walk up the aisle to someone they can't say, "you stink" to?

He takes umbrage if you tell him he needs a shower? I'm struggling to imagine what his argument is... what does he say in response?

Why are so many of you 'sending' men for a shower. He's an adult who's tired after working or working out, let him rest! If anyone told me to go for a shower when I'd just got in from work or the gym I wouldn't be happy. Whether I needed to or not.