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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To think 2 DCs is just fab

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LovelyBath77 · 29/07/2017 15:09

I often see posts about people wanting more children, especially a third, 4th and so on. We have two and I can't have any more, but you know I think 2 is great. Two hands to hold theirs, a friend to play with, two is fine to leave with relatives where any more might be a handful. I just think it's a great number.

I have had odd comments such as people asking if I might 'try for a girl' as i have two boys, and as if people think I might not be happy with boys which is a shame as well. i even had one friend tell me she loves 'having her girls' as they can do things like go to cafes together and have their hair cut! Boys can enjoy cafes too, and my eldest liked going to the spa outdoor with me this summer.

But anyway this isn't really about that, more that 2 is a great number, and wanted to know if others felt the same or do most want to keep going!

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MrTrebus · 29/07/2017 15:12

I'm happy with just the one DD, you're happy with 2 DS and my friend is happy with 6 DC. Each to their own definitely.

baileysicecream · 29/07/2017 15:12

It's certainly the ethical choice, environmentally.

hana32 · 29/07/2017 15:16

I have one DC at the moment and would like a second. And I think I'll probably stop there too. My first is a boy and he is amazing, I wouldn't mind at all if my second was also a boy.

I can see the appeal of a big family, but I also think it's so important to be able to provide enough attention and resources (emotional, financial, etc) for each child, and once children start outnumbering parents it becomes much harder to do that. My DS has my undivided attention at the moment and I love giving him that. I think I would feel bad if he could only have say 1/5 of the attention he gets now!

MissAlabamaWhitman · 29/07/2017 15:17

I've got five but yes two was indeed fab.

As was three and four.

Five is pretty marvellous too and I dare say I'd probably think the same if I could conceive a sixth which I can't, which I'm sad about

HeyRoly · 29/07/2017 15:20

Two children is enough for me. They are blooming hard work. Two pregnancies was certainly enough!

Lowdoorinthewal1 · 29/07/2017 15:29

One is fab. Two adults to tag team. Enough money left over even after a set of school fees. Really close 'special' relationship with DC. Can devote as much time as necessary to DC's homework and chosen sport. Ethically responsible. Etc.etc.

Each to their own.

MrsOverTheRoad · 29/07/2017 15:32

I have two which I am satisfied with. It's enough. I would like about 9 in reality.

ConfusionIsNothingNew · 29/07/2017 15:39

1 is fab.

2 are fab.

3 are fab.

4 are fab.

5 are fab.

Etc etc etc.

None are fab if that's what you want.

Don't really see the point of your post tbh.

Crunchymum · 29/07/2017 15:40

Having an unplanned third here. Two was my optimum number but shit happens and I know we have enough love, time, patience and money for number 3.

Crunchymum · 29/07/2017 15:40

I want to add that nobody should ever have to justify the number of children they have.

itstoolateforthisbollox · 29/07/2017 15:42

What is the point of this post? You have the number of children you want. How nice for you.
Do you want people telling you how they don't have what they want, or do you want another barney about how those of us with more than 1.8 children are vile selfish eco-wreckers? Or that onlies are lonelies?

It's all nonsense.

trilbydoll · 29/07/2017 15:44

I have two fairly well behaved preschoolers, neither are bolters, they tend to stay pretty close to me. Yet in town I still seem to struggle to keep an eye on both of them, I always think if I had any more I would definitely lose one every time we left the house is it a skill you learn if you have more DC, or are some people born with it and I just wasn't?!

trilbydoll · 29/07/2017 15:44

SpiritedLondon · 29/07/2017 15:47

I only have 1 and I feel a bit sad about it - so thanks for rubbing it in a bit.

Ragwort · 29/07/2017 15:48

One is fab for me, personally I couldn't imagine having the emotional energy for more than one, but plenty of people do so I am probably in the minority (but perfectly happy to be ).

WhatEaglesWear · 29/07/2017 15:52

I have 2 dc one boy and one girl.
Never wanted children and then I had my 2 and would LOVE another one but my dh says we're too old. 38/43.

2 is a lovely number but my ideal would be 3.

MrsNeil · 29/07/2017 15:53

Another one who doesn't get the point of the post.

Holidayhooray · 29/07/2017 16:04

Own it spirited.
You have 1.
The world is not going to tip toe around you.

I have two. Single mum. Love fact they have each other.

Fact remains though, I would have loved a third. Coming from three I loved the gang mentality, especially now we are older and my siblings have been enormous support to me (we lost our parents in our twenties)

NicolasFlamel · 29/07/2017 16:08

bit of a shitty post to people who can't have any or only have one or have more the two so... shitty all round really. Anyone with more than two better start shoving them back up there I suppose!

SpiritedLondon · 29/07/2017 16:09

Well I'm certainly not sobbing looking at baby photos. I suppose I find it a bit self congratulatory and pointless.

SpiritedLondon · 29/07/2017 16:11

I pity the couples who can't get pregnant or suffer multiple miscarriages because the worlds " not going to tiptoe around them".

NooNooHead · 29/07/2017 16:21

I have a beautiful daughter and she is an only child - I would love a sibling for her but am going to accept it may take longer. We haven't been careful for 6 years yet when I did become pregnant this year, it ended as an ectopic.

I'm sad about not having any more but very grateful for the one I already have, of course. Those with a lot of children (4 or more), surely it is better to be grateful for the ones you have rather than add even not to your brood?! I'm not criticising here, just saying. The same could prob be said about anyone who is blessed with one child.

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LovelyBath77 · 29/07/2017 16:25

I'm sorry I didn't meant to upset people with my post.

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Lostwithinthehills · 29/07/2017 16:38

Own it spirited.
You have 1.
The world is not going to tip toe around you.
I have two. Single mum. Love fact they have each other.
Fact remains though, I would have loved a third. Coming from three I loved the gang mentality, especially now we are older and my siblings have been enormous support to me (we lost our parents in our twenties)

Well aren't you a treasure Holiday? You criticise Spirited for feeling sad because she only has one then boast about how great having two and being one of three is.

I would have loved a third you are fortunate enough to have two. Own it.

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LovelyBath77 · 29/07/2017 16:42

I think I meant more, It's OK to only want 2, not to keep having more.

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