To think 2 DCs is just fab

[LovelyBath77]

I often see posts about people wanting more children, especially a third, 4th and so on. We have two and I can't have any more, but you know I think 2 is great. Two hands to hold theirs, a friend to play with, two is fine to leave with relatives where any more might be a handful. I just think it's a great number.

I have had odd comments such as people asking if I might 'try for a girl' as i have two boys, and as if people think I might not be happy with boys which is a shame as well. i even had one friend tell me she loves 'having her girls' as they can do things like go to cafes together and have their hair cut! Boys can enjoy cafes too, and my eldest liked going to the spa outdoor with me this summer.

But anyway this isn't really about that, more that 2 is a great number, and wanted to know if others felt the same or do most want to keep going!

I think it's that instead of just saying that you are happy with your 2 so why do you need to justify that to others, your post reads that having 2 is the perfect number as a fact and that's that. Bound to rub up parents of 1, 3,4, 5+ etc up the wrong way and also those who can't have children or are struggling to conceive their second or those who are currently on their 3rd pregnancy etc... basically it's an inflammatory op in the way that you've phrased it and I didn't believe you didn't realise that it wouldn't cause a stir.

Yeah I'm afraid I agree. I have 2- but it was very hard won (ivf for ds1,very hard pregnancy for ds2 who was originally a twin and we had to terminate the second baby at 12 weeks on medical grounds).

My point is- it must be very hard if you can't have any, have 1 and struggle to have any more...etc etc.

The original post could be seen as bragging if u ask me. Children are not to be taken for granted and not everyone is lucky enough to get the number they want (or indeed any).

There are plenty of threads about having one child though, (as people often get grief about this) so should those people not post as they were lucky enough to have one?
Or threads about how annoying dcs can be?

It's all in the delivery.

Come across as "my perfect wonderful 2 children, I've got it right, be like me" and such, irks people.

I've got one, she's awesome and the thought of having another leaves us all cold, we're great as we are. But I wouldn't dream of saying to someone that my family is perfect (better than theirs) because we've ample time, money and attention for our girl. That would be rude and unnecessary - a bit like the OP's post.

I agree tbh but I have 2dc and therefore that's what I'm going to think! I have 2 girls and also think this is 'the best'. I would never say that to anyone though as it comes across badly.

2 is very common though isn't it, most people have two. So I'm surprised you feel you need to justify it.

I've got two - one of each sex. if I'm to be brutally honest I really wanted two girls (I had a girl first), but actually it has worked out better this way as there's less competition between them. They're both very similar academically, but in ever other way they couldn't be more different.
i may have been persuaded to have no.3 but ds was such hard work as a toddler, that by the time he started school (when it would've happened), I couldn't go through the early years again. I was grateful for what I had - and went back to work.
Also if I'd had no.3 and they had health issues I prob couldn't have coped. Both DD & ds had minor health issues as babies so I also felt I'd dodged a bullet as they were both fine in the end.