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AIBU?

Or is 'D'P an arse

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CroissantwithCheese · 28/07/2017 21:36

I've written about him before, we have problems going back a while, but things have been better recently. Only now I'm going back to work seems his arseholeness is back. This morning I had a meeting at my new job. I told him last night I was a bit anxious in case I'd be late etc (first meeting at my new job). We all had a bad nights sleep because DD has a terrible cough. I got up and started getting ready this morning. I organized a babysitter to come and take her so he could go to work. Poor DD was tired and upset but I didn't have time to console her as much as I'd like. P lay in bed doing nothing, just letting DD cry, and letting me run around like a blue arsed fly trying to get me and DD both ready. At one point I asked him to get up and help, he said "I'll get up when I want". WTAF? Are you fucking 12?!

He texted a few times today as if nothing happened. I took DD to the doctor in case it was something serious, so he checked in on that. I told him I was picking up dinner, he said good idea. Then never came home. Still not home and no call or text. WIBU to just tell him to fuck off in the morning? Complete and utter selfish lazy bastard.

Sorry, I really need to vent and can't talk IRL.

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Squirmy65ghyg · 28/07/2017 21:40

Yanbu.

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Whisky2014 · 28/07/2017 21:43

Yanbu

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sofreakingtired · 28/07/2017 21:43

Yep, definitely a fuck off from me. Without a second thought. My DH wouldn't dare, on either count (even though I'm not really scary)

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AfunaMbatata · 28/07/2017 21:44

YANBU!!! What a fucking bum hole!

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PsychoPumpkin · 28/07/2017 21:45

YADNBU.

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Moanyoldcow · 28/07/2017 21:45

What do you get from this relationship?

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Foxysoxy01 · 28/07/2017 21:51

He's not adding anything to your life other than a piss poor attitude and his obvious complete contempt for you and your feelings.

You deserve better than that.

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CroissantwithCheese · 28/07/2017 21:55

Thanks. Yes I do deserve better. What i get from this relationship is regular disappointment.

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CroissantwithCheese · 28/07/2017 21:56

I don't get support, especially when he knows I need it the most.

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ClopySow · 28/07/2017 21:56

Yes, he is a fucking bum hole as previously stated.

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PuntasticUsername · 28/07/2017 21:56

"He texted a few times today as if nothing happened"

Is that him trying to gaslight you into believing there was nothing wrong with his behaviour earlier?

Yeah, fuck that, sounds as if he was well out of order. Don't let him off the hook that easy.

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CroissantwithCheese · 28/07/2017 21:57

He just came hole a few mins ago. I'm already in bed so we'll talk in the morning. Now I just need to channel this fucking anger.

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GeekyWombat · 28/07/2017 21:57

Has he actually asked you how things went with your meeting?

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Neverknowing · 28/07/2017 21:58

Where has he been? What is he doing?
He's a dick, hope you're okay. Also, well done on the new job.

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CroissantwithCheese · 28/07/2017 21:58

Puntastic, yes. That's what he always does! Then his shitty behavior should be accepted and forgotten. And if I bring it up there's an argument. I don't want any argument this time, just a clear message.

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PuntasticUsername · 28/07/2017 21:59

He sounds awful. You and your DD deserve better.

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CroissantwithCheese · 28/07/2017 22:00

No idea where he's been, I presume after work drinks. Yes he asked how it went at my meeting, in a "well glad it wasn't a complete waste of time then" way.

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CroissantwithCheese · 28/07/2017 22:01

He's not always awful, but he's pretty much always unreliable when I need him to be there. I never can trust if he'll do what he says he'll do. More often than not he won't.

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Leeds2 · 28/07/2017 22:02

You and your DD deserve much better.

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AimeeNoOneTheSamee · 28/07/2017 22:04

Yeah. He can fuck right off. Sounds to me like you're doing it all yourself anyway so may as well LTB! Hope you're ok. Well done on the new job.

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DirigiblePlums · 28/07/2017 22:06

Tell him to take his face for a shit.

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ChickenBhuna · 28/07/2017 22:06

I feel your pain OP. I was married to an unsupportive hindrance like your (d)p.

He disappeared night fishing the day before I had a big uni exam once. He showed up ten minutes before I was due to leave in the morning - I'd been up with our poorly son all night.

He was always strangely absent when I had an exam or an early start.

Life is much easier without these creatures.

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Riley23 · 28/07/2017 22:08

YANBU! Sounds like he thinks all the parenting is your responsibility? and being unreliable is one of the worst qualities you could get in a partner! To top it off he's not sorry and makes you feel like your stupid for even getting upset about it? I think an ultimatum would be your best option, either he grows up and becomes an actual partner or he can fuck off..!

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IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday · 28/07/2017 22:16

The worst thing is that you actually asked for help and he still did fuck all.

He's a nasty wanker, leave him.

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CroissantwithCheese · 28/07/2017 22:20

He does think it's all my responsibility. He works all week though so poor him. I'm knackered, all the time. He doesn't seem to believe that not all men act this way! I'd love a resource to point him to (has to be reputable, written by experts, otherwise it's dismissed as bullshit) where he can see he's being a caveman and this isn't respectful or normal!

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