AIBU?
Or is 'D'P an arse
CroissantwithCheese · 28/07/2017 21:36
I've written about him before, we have problems going back a while, but things have been better recently. Only now I'm going back to work seems his arseholeness is back. This morning I had a meeting at my new job. I told him last night I was a bit anxious in case I'd be late etc (first meeting at my new job). We all had a bad nights sleep because DD has a terrible cough. I got up and started getting ready this morning. I organized a babysitter to come and take her so he could go to work. Poor DD was tired and upset but I didn't have time to console her as much as I'd like. P lay in bed doing nothing, just letting DD cry, and letting me run around like a blue arsed fly trying to get me and DD both ready. At one point I asked him to get up and help, he said "I'll get up when I want". WTAF? Are you fucking 12?!
He texted a few times today as if nothing happened. I took DD to the doctor in case it was something serious, so he checked in on that. I told him I was picking up dinner, he said good idea. Then never came home. Still not home and no call or text. WIBU to just tell him to fuck off in the morning? Complete and utter selfish lazy bastard.
Sorry, I really need to vent and can't talk IRL.
ChickenBhuna · 28/07/2017 22:06
I feel your pain OP. I was married to an unsupportive hindrance like your (d)p.
He disappeared night fishing the day before I had a big uni exam once. He showed up ten minutes before I was due to leave in the morning - I'd been up with our poorly son all night.
He was always strangely absent when I had an exam or an early start.
Life is much easier without these creatures.
Riley23 · 28/07/2017 22:08
YANBU! Sounds like he thinks all the parenting is your responsibility? and being unreliable is one of the worst qualities you could get in a partner! To top it off he's not sorry and makes you feel like your stupid for even getting upset about it? I think an ultimatum would be your best option, either he grows up and becomes an actual partner or he can fuck off..!
CroissantwithCheese · 28/07/2017 22:20
He does think it's all my responsibility. He works all week though so poor him. I'm knackered, all the time. He doesn't seem to believe that not all men act this way! I'd love a resource to point him to (has to be reputable, written by experts, otherwise it's dismissed as bullshit) where he can see he's being a caveman and this isn't respectful or normal!
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