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To ask for stories of people you knew who turned out to be criminals?

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QuackPorridgeBacon · 28/07/2017 21:03

Ok so I knew this guy at school and also at a club type thing (think scouts but different). He always annoyed me, I hated having to take orders from him as he was 'higher up' I would argue and get told off.. anyway, I moved away and a few years later it's in the news that he has committed crimes against under aged girls, between the ages of 14 and 16. I was shocked but I always thought he was creepy.

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lololove · 28/07/2017 22:10

My first love (back then - feelings definitely changed now ;) !) has since been sent to prison for sleeping with two underage girls and getting one of them pregnant and has since had to sign the sex offenders register for the rest of his life.

During the time he was waiting trial (i didn't know about this then) he got back in touch and asked me to meet up with him to sleep with him behind his then partners (and mother of his child's) back - I didn't! That partner had about 5 other children and their son making 6 at the time - it makes me a feel a bit funny about his motives now.

Since then the last I heard of him was he was trying to chat up one of my friends who has four children - she's a social worker so took things further with the relevant people and heard nothing since for obvious reasons but just goes to show you never can tell.

Lizibet · 28/07/2017 22:10

Our last house was a cottage flat. We had a lovely old lady living underneath us and her adult nephew moved in with her.
For the entire year he lived there our normally very laid back back big dog despised him. If he tried to come in the gate when the dog was in the garden my dh had to physically lift the dig in the house to stop him attacking him.
It was almost definitely just because he always wore a hat and stank of beer but about a year later his aunt told us he'd been been arrested because he'd been involved with child pornography and I've always kind of wondered if the dog knew something was off about him.

Corcory · 28/07/2017 22:10

When my grandparents died we sold their house to a lovely couple with two young children. Two years later the husband murdered his wife. He was a rep. for agri. chemicals and had added some chemical to her tea every morning. She had gone to her G.P. not feeling well and had told him she thought her husband was trying to kill her!!

kitkatspiderrat · 28/07/2017 22:12

family member sent to prison for kidnap and gbh all related to drug deals. this was in his very early 20s, hes now 40s and a very successful business man, has 3 or so different type of all legit ventures and is heavily involved in charitys and has done his own versions of diy sos in his neighbourhood

other family member, creeped me out since a very young age but didnt know why, has now been charged and is awaiting trial for child sex offences. i 100000% believe he did them and more

HorridHenrietta23 · 28/07/2017 22:14

Respected youth club leader, worked as a counsellor, quite high up I believe. It was a running joke amongst the kids that you should always go and see him in pairs. But the adults thought the sun shone out of him. Turned out to have been molesting his teenage clients for years.
He only got a couple of years though as his clients were addicts so most of their evidence was considered unreliable.

HappyAxolotl · 28/07/2017 22:16

A girl I knew at school who was always a troubled soul but more self-destructive in her behaviour than bad to anyone else IYSWIM? We weren't close friends but were always nice to each other. Went to jail after her boyfriend of the week killed someone and she destroyed evidence and committed perjury.

Quite a few of the lasses in my year ended up on heroin via the older lads who used to drive to the school at home time and pick up the cool girls, who would come into school on Monday morning talking about clubs, parties, raves, E, sex, booze, flaunting the presents their "boyfriends" bought them... we all thought they were so cool and adult, how fucking naive were we all back in the day?!? Some horrific stories came out later but they'd all be too identifying.

ZingingCutie23 · 28/07/2017 22:17

I have two:

Two years ago a man from my (small) village went missing. He has never been found and police have started a murder investigation as they assume he is dead. Nice lad, I went to school with him and had a bit of a crush on him. Turns out he'd become quite the big time dealer and police think he was murdered over drug territory. It's a very sleepy village and It's quite shocking that someone was a drug king pin , let alone got murdered for it. They've never found his body - I see his sister often and It's destroyed his family.

There was a Welsh rock star imprisoned a few years ago for shocking crimes I can't even think about - really horrific stuff. After a gig when I was 18 I kissed him and was gutted that I didn't get taken back to the tour bus to sleep with him. Makes my skin crawl thinking about that now! This was around the time that they became famous, so a long time before he committed any crimes, but it still makes me shudder!

chips4teaplease · 28/07/2017 22:19

Former teacher here. I don't think it was my fault some ended up murderers, child rapists, you name it.

CoolCarrie · 28/07/2017 22:19

About 18 years ago a friend of mine worked in a bar in city centre. We used to go in and have a few drinks after work, ended up in the company with another guy who worked there as well. The other guy went on to murder someone, who turn out to be a nasty piece of work, cut up him up and bury him in a back garden in a posh part of town, it was all over the papers, very shocking especially as the victim was a convicted paedophile.

amermaideindesguise · 28/07/2017 22:20

my first boyfriend from years ago was a very brief relationship and we never actually dtd got convicted recently for underage sex and grooming a young boy i was totally shocked when i heard..

peppersaunt · 28/07/2017 22:20

One of my parents' oldest friends (and a mentor of mine) defrauded friends and clients (including my parents - they never got over the betrayal)

thefairyfellersmasterstroke · 28/07/2017 22:23

I was at college with a posh chap from an aristocratic family. Googled him years later when bored and discovered that he and two relatives had done time for defrauding an elderly relative of all her money and property, leaving her destitute. This was only discovered when they had all been accused of the murder of another relative, but only one of the others everntually stood trial, and got off due to lack of evidence.

I heard through the grapevine that someone has bought the film rights to the story, so that will be fun if it ever happens! Grin

Zubba · 28/07/2017 22:25

My 'lovely' middle aged, real family oriented & respected retail manager was forge-signing cash refunds, with our names (several shop floor staff) to herself. I don't know how they rumbled her, the first I knew was when she was frogmarched off the premises.
But it was for thousands and she only got a few hours community service.
She could have implemented quite a few of us and lost us our jobs! Sad

Pawsbutton · 28/07/2017 22:27

My sweet little cousin - he was four when my aunt adopted him and he was gorgeous. Big brown eyes, cheeky smile and dimples.

He has spent most of his adult life in prison for fraud and has a long and appalling record of emotionally abusing women and is a skilled and psychopathic conman.

differenteverytime · 28/07/2017 22:28

Vestal, no, Dad would say nothing about why he'd done it. IIRC I just thought he'd jumped to a ridiculous conclusion. It was the only adult man I was in the habit of seeing who wasn't someone's Dad or a teacher or something, so maybe (it was a while ago) I assumed it was because of that. I was too busy being angry to really think about it, and Dad had form for being a bit erratic at times.

Jivebunny89 · 28/07/2017 22:29

Yes, my husband's only long-term friend and best man at our wedding has since done time for a very specific crime. If I detailed, it would out who he was. Let's just say he was interested in children. And I don't look at my wedding photos in the same way any more.

Another fiance of a friend is currently in prison for raping a girl a long time ago.

These are the people I've known personally. My husband's estranged father is a convicted pedophile. After MIL kicked FIL out, she had two lodgers at separate times, to help pay the bills. They too were pedophiles. So every man my husband has had as a father figure would be happy to hurt a child to fulfil their own desires.

My first baby is on the way, and I don't know how to answer the inevitable "what happened to Grandad?". Because he's not dead, does see one of my child's cousins still, and happens to live two streets away.

BoysofMelody · 28/07/2017 22:31

My Doctor went to prison for embezzling the practice. He spent 18 months in an open prison and then went back to the practice as if nothing had happened.

Someone I went to school with had a fucking miserable childhood and was left to fend for himself from early childhood (locked out of the house by his mother all day, everyday with nothing to eat, no clean clothes) after we left school he got heavily into heroin and moved away to Shropshire, where 20 years later, he killed his neighbour for drug money. I don't excuse what he did, nor do I fully understand, but the poor fucker never stood a chance of a decent life.

RinonaWyder · 28/07/2017 22:31

A boy in my class, he was a troublemaker and a bully, the type you could tell was going to be in real bother one day. Multiple convictions for violence including stabbing someone with a steak knife and throwing concrete paving slabs at people. He was going to be done for attempted murder but the charge was reduced to assault to severe injury. He got two years for that.

A guy I used to work with was fired for not disclosing a previous conviction, I read in the paper last year he was done for possession of class A substances.

BetterEatCheese · 28/07/2017 22:34

A guy the year above me all through school was accused of sexual abuse of an underage girl, lost his teaching job, then killed his mum, chopped her up and hid her in the shed. Redecorated the living room to hide the mess from his brother who had been away. Shocking

Fruitcocktail6 · 28/07/2017 22:34

ZingingCutie23

Ian Watkins?

A friend of DPs had a threesome with him and her friend when they were 16 Sad.

Makes me feel rather sick.

HorridHenrietta23 · 28/07/2017 22:38

Oh and my lovely local vicar turned out to be guilty of massive fraud. I was just gutted as I looked up to him and he made a huge difference in my life.
He got a suspended sentence though, didn't actually go to prison.

FineOldCriminals · 28/07/2017 22:39

Lots of people know about the most recent one in my life:
my LL recently received a long sentence for dealing in weapons and drugs - I was in the process of moving out, but tenants in his other properties have received eviction notices as the houses are being sold under the Proceeds of Crime Act

I always thought he was dodgy - but assumed he was fiddling his taxes Grin

There's also our family GPs: one was warned in the Court of Protection that the only reason she wasn't being sent to prison was because it wasn't in her elderly mother's best interest. Loathed her since childhood - a totally vile woman ("what's the point of having an AIDS test if you've been raped? You won't know who gave it to you" etc) who has also engaged in drink-driving ever since she came to the area.

Another's son (also a GP) was convicted of possessing CSA images - the son has taken early retirement from his own GP surgery, but staggeringly, got neither prison time nor struck off. Despite having thousands of images in the most serious category Confused Father is very angry that his son has been caught - not that his son was looking at images of CSA. Son has always come over as a bit odd, but presumed that this was because he was shy or something. Father stank as a GP - incredibly arrogant - but I feel sorry for him as a very elderly man struggling at home with no family support.

However, none of my family or friends have ever received convictions (possibly never been caught...) - still remember, though, my best friend at primary school happily announcing that her uncle had been on the tv the night before, over her mother's best efforts to shut her up. Police Five Grin

FineOldCriminals · 28/07/2017 22:41

Horrid you're not on Merseyside, are you? (I appreciate it's possible that more than one man of the cloth has defrauded the church, though...)

LakieLady · 28/07/2017 22:43

I knew a guy who had a successful location catering business and a nice flat in quite a classy development. Some of my friends used to work for him. We were all gobsmacked when he was one of the people arrested for the Knightsbridge Safe Deposit robbery.

I also visited a client at his home, on my own, regularly for about 6 months. I was a bit freaked out when, a few months after I stopped working with him, the local paper carried an article about his conviction for raping 2 women. He got 15 years.

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