To ask which of my friends was wrong here?

[schoolgaterebel]

Who is wrong here?

Two friends, Anne & Sally (not their real names!) go shopping together.

Anne suggests they pop into a certain shop, she has had her eye on a certain dress and is hoping it'll go on sale soon (it costs £100).

Dress has still not been reduced but both ladies buy some earrings and Sally sees a scarf she likes (but doesn't buy it)

A couple of weeks later Sally is out with her DH and decides to pop back to buy the scarf, she notices the dress has been marked down to £80, phones Anne to ask if she would like her to buy it on her behalf (only 1 dress left, marked down, last chance to buy it etc)

Anne says no, £80 is still too much, she won't be buying the dress. Sally buys it for herself.

When Sally tells her she has bought the dress (and offered to lend it to her for her holiday) Anne is very upset and hurt, she says she didn't want it but didn't want Sally to have it either.

Sally is bewildered and doesn't believe she has done anything wrong.

(For the record, both ladies are very well off and could both easily afford the dress, Anne, on principle does not like to spend too much on clothes, but will spend on herself in other areas)

I am neither of these ladies

[pigeondujour]

But surely you'd feel it was nice that you had a friend who phoned you to let you know the dress had been reduced and offered to buy it for you there and then on your behalf as there was only one left and when you said no, that you still couldn't afford it at that price, later offered to borrow you the dress to take with you on your holiday?

Yeah, to be fair, I absolutely would.