To ask which of my friends was wrong here?

[schoolgaterebel]

Who is wrong here?

Two friends, Anne & Sally (not their real names!) go shopping together.

Anne suggests they pop into a certain shop, she has had her eye on a certain dress and is hoping it'll go on sale soon (it costs £100).

Dress has still not been reduced but both ladies buy some earrings and Sally sees a scarf she likes (but doesn't buy it)

A couple of weeks later Sally is out with her DH and decides to pop back to buy the scarf, she notices the dress has been marked down to £80, phones Anne to ask if she would like her to buy it on her behalf (only 1 dress left, marked down, last chance to buy it etc)

Anne says no, £80 is still too much, she won't be buying the dress. Sally buys it for herself.

When Sally tells her she has bought the dress (and offered to lend it to her for her holiday) Anne is very upset and hurt, she says she didn't want it but didn't want Sally to have it either.

Sally is bewildered and doesn't believe she has done anything wrong.

(For the record, both ladies are very well off and could both easily afford the dress, Anne, on principle does not like to spend too much on clothes, but will spend on herself in other areas)

I am neither of these ladies

Anne is ridiculous

I think Sally needs her bumps feeling for asking Anne's approval to buy the dress.
I mean if Anne can't afford the dress. That's neither hers nor Sally's fault, but The argument is. What if the dress was never reduced further and it stayed at £80. Is the whole world expected not to shop. So as not to upset Anne.

Unless Sally has a habit of Single White Female-ing on Anne, then Anne is a sandwich short of a picnic.

I can't pretend I'd feel great about liking a dress but not being able to afford it and my mate, knowing that, buying it. I know you say she could afford it but I think there's a difference between 'having the right amount of money in your possession' and 'affording it' if you see what I mean.

Anne is being daft and Sally sounds very nice. She actually called her and offered to get it FOR Anne. Anne is a tight arse frugal and lost out. She needs to grow up.

Are Anne and Sally off school for 6 weeks?

My friends and I all live a particular shop. If we know the others have the same dress etc we double check before turning up at same dinner party etc. Unless it's just us on a casual night where 3 of us had the same top on! (Cos btw).

Anne is silly but we can't always help how we feel. Sally sounds kind and thoughtful. Anne needs to address her emotional overreaction to something so trivial.

If this was a bloke that Anne had fallen madly in love with, and I mean love not lust, and He didn't want to know her and He asked Sally out and She said yes and started rubbing salt in Anne's wounds by banging about how great their relationship is. I think everyone's sympathies would be with Anne, but Not over a bloody peice of material

Lord above......

Anne sounds about two and a half, poor cow.

Anne needs a grip! -It was already a 20% reduction, she can't have liked it that much if she still didn't buy it! Sally was nice to offer to buy it for her

Anne is BU and Sally was very kind to ring Anne to tell her it was reduced before buying it herself AND offering to lend it to her.

Anne is silly. Sally was very kind offering to get it and offering to lend it.

For a spam message, that made zero sense.

I'm someone that buys clothes based on (a) comfort and (b) warmth. Sometimes (b) goes first, but...

Anne is out of order.

Sally offered her first refusal. She declined. She can't get shirty because Sally bought the dress for herself (although, why did she? Do they have strikingly similar tastes).

If this is all they have to fret about hey are doing pretty well..

If this is all they have to fret about hey are doing pretty well..

I never really get the point of these posts...

What the hell is wrong with Sally wearing the dress Anne didn't want? Anne is a fuckwit.

Anne took the risk of waiting for the dress to be reduced further. It didn't pay off. Even if she was pissed off that Sally got it instead of her, what 40-something woman actually confronts their friend about something like this?

I would be friends with Sally. Anne can find her own friends.

She can't get shirty because Sally bought the dress for herself (although, why did she? Do they have strikingly similar tastes).

Two women liking the same dress is really not that weird.

Anne is being precious and needs to get a grip.

Maybe babyspider but if the dress was Anne's ex boyfriend and she said "I don't want him anymore but don't want anyone else to have him either" everyone would still sympathise with Sally.