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Who was right/wrong here?

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WhoMovedMyPeas · 26/07/2017 17:11

Scenario

Indoor Hotel Pool
Summer holidays
Very quiet spell

Woman A and children around pool. She has laptop and is using it and watching the children

Woman B comes in with her children
They settle and the children start to jump into the pool which causes a few tiny splashes which land on the laptop.

Woman A asks the girls to move to the other side of the pool to jump. They stay and continue to jump splashing the laptop more. Woman A covers laptop with towel and asks woman B of her children can move.

Woman B tells woman A that it's not a brilliant place to take a laptop and suggests she should put it away as they're in a swimming pool.

Woman A tells woman B that there are no viewing areas other than the side of the pool.

Woman B tells her children to continue jumping and having fun and that woman A should be enjoying time in the pool not staring at a screen.

Woman A hears this and tells woman B to fuck off learn some manners and that she is working and looking after her children. [confused
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OP posts:

Bluntness100 · 26/07/2017 17:55

Personally if she has to work and wanted to take her kids to the pool, and security allowed her in with her laptop and there is no difference in jumping in from the other side, I'd have moved my kids to the other side and let her work.

I really don't see why she refused. What difference it made. Sometimes we all have to accommodate each other and a little consideration goes a long way.

The woman who was working you don't know her circumstances, maybe she promised the kids the pool then had to work and tried to kill two birds with the one stone. It wouldn't have been any issue for the other woman to ask her kids to move to the other side, so why refuse. To make her life harder and prove a point?

JAPAB · 26/07/2017 17:58

Perhaps they all did things that were either incorrect or impolite.

JoandMax · 26/07/2017 17:59

Well both were unreasonable really - a pool isn't exactly the most sensible place to take a laptop but maybe she had urgent work and childcare fallen through?? At least she was trying to make sure DC had a good time still.

It would of been nice if woman B had got her DC to move, I don't let my kids jump in near other people regardless of what they're doing.

Nowdecide · 26/07/2017 18:00

why couldn't woman A move?

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 26/07/2017 18:02

Woman B is being exceptionally unreasonable. In other words, she was being a cunt.

MonsterQueen · 26/07/2017 18:03

If you are not A or B then you must be security or the lifeguard.

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 26/07/2017 18:04

There was nobody else there

So how do you know all this... if there was nobody else around except A , B and their children?

Ceebs85 · 26/07/2017 18:04

Woman A it's fine to take your laptop to the pool but you should expect there's gonna be potential you might need to put it away. It's school holidays after all.

Woman A's reaction was completely OTT especially in front of children. Very aggressive however woman B was also being goady telling her kids to jump where they wanted within earshot....no need for that. Could have asked them to just jump and splash down one end of the pool.

coddiwomple · 26/07/2017 18:04

why couldn't woman A move?
Why should she? The B kids might follow her anyway, as their mother was encouraging them. Great parenting from woman B btw.

I think if a party of 15 kids had suddenly jumped in the pool, then fair enough, you have to expect to be splashed. When there's only one other family, its unnecessary, they are only being rude.

MonsterQueen · 26/07/2017 18:05

Were you skyping woman A?

Neoflex · 26/07/2017 18:06

Op are you the security guard? Or a ghost? Sounds like a riddle. Didnt you say there was nobody else at the pool? If woman A splashes woman British but nobody is there to hear it then did it really happen?

Joinourclub · 26/07/2017 18:06

Six of one.....

You can't safely supervise swimming kids whilst working on a laptop. Kids can drown silently in seconds.

If somebody asks you for help, and it takes virtually zero effort on your part, why on Earth would you not just do it? Some people really are spoiling for a fight.

bridgetreilly · 26/07/2017 18:07

Why should the kids have to move? They're entitled to use the whole pool or any bit of it. If you're on a laptop near a pool, that's your own stupid fault. I should think you were lucky only to get a few splashes.

limon · 26/07/2017 18:08

Woman A is a twat.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 26/07/2017 18:10

Well neither was really very considerate were they?

If I had been Woman A, I would have moved myself to the other side of the pool to avoid splashes.

If I had been Woman B, I would have told my children to jump in from the other side of the pool - unless there was a good reason why that would be less fun for them or less safe.

I find life requires a bit of give & take.

suzyx · 26/07/2017 18:11

If you don't want your laptop to get wet, don't take it to the swimming pool! She should have put it away when the other kids arrived. You can tell your own kids to be careful but not somebody else's!!

Penny4UrThoughts · 26/07/2017 18:16

If there was nobody else there, who told woman B to move...?

coddiwomple · 26/07/2017 18:18

If I picture a completely empty pool bare 1 family, I would absolutely tell off my kids if they were splashing them, that's unnecessary and rude. I would tell them not to bomb dive anyway, but it's more difficult not to splash anyone at all in a full pool.

Woman B is very rude and entitled, I would have be annoyed even without a laptop.

thecolonelbumminganugget · 26/07/2017 18:20

Woman B sounds like the tosspot here to me. I say that on the basis that woman A desperately needed to get some work done and wasn't catching up on Jeremy Kyle although even in the latter case you still move the kids but you just secretly roll your eyes as you do it. (seems I have put my judgey pants on today )

Motoko · 26/07/2017 18:21

As it was a hotel pool, presumably Woman A and her children were on holiday, so why would she be working?

Taking a laptop by the pool is daft in my opinion.

However, Woman B could have told her children to move to the other side. So I think they were both in the wrong.

ADishBestEatenCold · 26/07/2017 18:24

"I wasn't either of the women."

Do you work in the hotel, OP? Was it your job to adjudicate?

onceandneveragain · 26/07/2017 18:26

originally I thought woman A, because, yes, poolside=water=danger of laptop getting splashed, it's a risk she chose to take. However then I thought that if I was Woman A, using a phone/tablet/reading a library book (all of which are still susceptible to water damage but perhaps most acceptable to use on holiday around a pool) I would still think it reasonable not to get excessively splashed.

For the sake of keeping the peace if I were woman B I would have got the kids to use the other side of the pool if it didn't impede their enjoyment in anyway. Also she was being unnecessarily sarky. Woman could have been feeling unwell, obliged to work for a number of reasons, doesn't like swimming, anything - woman B isn't the boss of the pool with the right to say what others should/n't be doing on their holiday. At the end of the day, most people wouldn't exactly chose to be on their laptop working while on holiday if they didn't have to!

PuppyMonkey · 26/07/2017 18:28

I think OP must be one of the kids

AnnieAnoniMouse · 26/07/2017 18:28

Woman B was in the wrong.

It is really rude to splash people who are not swimming (for ANY reason) when you can do what you are doing (in this case jumping in) just as well at another point (in this case the other side).

The woman's lap top is a red herring. The children jumping in near her were initially inconsiderate (but hey, they're kids) then naughty to splash MORE when ASKED to move around the pool. The mother was inconsiderate & really rude.

VeryButchyRestingFace · 26/07/2017 18:30

I think OP must be one of the kids

She could be the 💻

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