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Who was right/wrong here?

109 replies

WhoMovedMyPeas · 26/07/2017 17:11

Scenario

Indoor Hotel Pool
Summer holidays
Very quiet spell

Woman A and children around pool. She has laptop and is using it and watching the children

Woman B comes in with her children
They settle and the children start to jump into the pool which causes a few tiny splashes which land on the laptop.

Woman A asks the girls to move to the other side of the pool to jump. They stay and continue to jump splashing the laptop more. Woman A covers laptop with towel and asks woman B of her children can move.

Woman B tells woman A that it's not a brilliant place to take a laptop and suggests she should put it away as they're in a swimming pool.

Woman A tells woman B that there are no viewing areas other than the side of the pool.

Woman B tells her children to continue jumping and having fun and that woman A should be enjoying time in the pool not staring at a screen.

Woman A hears this and tells woman B to fuck off learn some manners and that she is working and looking after her children. [confused
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OP posts:
Questioningeverything · 26/07/2017 17:23

You've posted this twice. I stand by what I said on the other post. Pools are not an appropriate place for laptops.

VeryButchyRestingFace · 26/07/2017 17:23

Woman A is unreasonable.

But, but, but if Woman A didn't have the laptop, and was simply asking the children not to jump in right beside her and splash her, I tend to think they should comply.

I generally think it's good manners to try and avoid jumping in right beside people and splashing them.

But maybe I'm just harking back to when I was a child, where if a strange adult asked/told me to do something, it would have been met with immediate compliance (unless the request was palpably outrageous).

AmysTiara · 26/07/2017 17:23

Woman A was being daft. You can't sit by a pool with a laptop and then moan it's got wet.

Sprinklestar · 26/07/2017 17:23

Security told old woman B as she and her kids were using the pool as it was intended to be used?

Personally I'd have complained about A. She could have had a camera on the laptop for all anyone knows. There's a reason phones/cameras aren't allowed at pools. Why should a laptop be any different?

What happened next, OP?

Toysaurus · 26/07/2017 17:24

I'm astounded someone took their laptop to a place guaranteed to create water splashes then got a cob on about it. What a silly cow.

VeryButchyRestingFace · 26/07/2017 17:25

You're woman A aren't you.

Je pense qu'elle est femme B.

rainbowpie · 26/07/2017 17:25

Woman A is a knob.

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 26/07/2017 17:25

To be honest they both could have done better IMO.

Woman A obviously trying to watch kids and get work done-poolside is not the ideal place for it but sometimes you try and fit it all in. Summer holidays can be a juggling act.

Woman B comes across as entitled to me. If my DC were jumping in a very quiet pool and splashing anyone I would have had them move down-even if there was no laptop involved.

Think if scenario was as described- once I was asked nicely I would have had my DC move.

Emmeline123 · 26/07/2017 17:25

It's abundantly obvious to me that OP is Woman B. I think that Woman B was rude to demand that Woman A get off her laptop and not to tell her kids to stop splashing (assuming that there was nothing particularly special about the part of the pool directly beside Woman A - it is stated that the pool was very quiet - why was it necessary to go to that part of the pool and splash there?).

Woman A was there first. Woman A is entitled to be on her laptop and is under no obligation to relax and have fun just because that's what Woman B thinks is appropriate. Woman B is teaching inconsiderateness to Children B.

VeryButchyRestingFace · 26/07/2017 17:27

I'm astounded someone took their laptop to a place guaranteed to create water splashes then got a cob on about it. What a silly cow

Hey, I took my iPhone into a sauna once. Grin

🎶 Someone left the 🎂 out in the ☔️ 🎶

Bizzysocks · 26/07/2017 17:31

I you take the laptop out of the equation, if I was B I would ask my kids to jump in elsewhere it doesn't sound like that wasn't possible. Why cause a drama.

A was multi tasking working and keeping the kids happy, sounds hard enough with out B being an arse for no reason.

coddiwomple · 26/07/2017 17:34

Woman B was rude, why couldn't she ask her kids to move? Adults are entitled to be around the pool without being splashed by children, laptop or no laptop. When it gets busy, it's more tricky, but with only 2 families, come on. It's just being unpleasant for the sake of it.

So what if woman A had some work to do, and did it whilst her kids had fun? Sounds better to me than keeping them locked at home all day. Woman B commenting doesn't sound great, she should start teaching her kids some manners before judging others.

Original poster
WhoMovedMyPeas · 26/07/2017 17:34

I wasn't either of the women.

OP posts:
Lucysky2017 · 26/07/2017 17:36

If you are the only person there with your quiet children laptop by pool is fine. If noisy jumping thugs turn up most of us just concede and move. As she didn't woman B should have just gone along with what A said. No one needs to jump in anyway.

misshelena · 26/07/2017 17:37

30 meter pool is a big pool. Woman B was wrong then -- she should have told her kids to move to the other side. Wouldn't have diminished the fun factor for kids in a pool that size.

newmumwithquestions · 26/07/2017 17:38

Woman B.

Woman A is a bit silly to take a laptop near a pool but was there first. Also we know nothing about what woman A was doing on the laptop. Maybe she was messaging her terminally ill mother? Maybe her front door key had randomly jammed and she was trying to contact someone to help. Maybe she was let down by childcare at the last moment and was trying to cover work essentials as she couldn't take a day off.

Craigie · 26/07/2017 17:42

Woman A is an asshole.

user1498911589 · 26/07/2017 17:43

Woman A is totally ridiculous.

BertrandRussell · 26/07/2017 17:43

Laptop or no laptop, you shouldn't do things that splash people who don't want to be splashed. Particularly if it's easy peasey not to.

MyRedPepper · 26/07/2017 17:48

I would expect some splashes around a pool so I can see the oint of woman B.
However, I also do think that woman B could have been kind and careful about not annoying woman A and aks her dcs to splash a bit further away. Manners and all that.

SpartacusSaiman · 26/07/2017 17:48

If you are neither woman, yoi dint really know the details. Or were you observing?

Jaxhog · 26/07/2017 17:50

How can you supervise your DCs if you're using a laptop?

Besides, a laptop and a swimming pool just don't go together. Wait until a drunken oaf does a bomb in the pool right next to her. A tidal wave of water will make her put the laptop away.

dadshere · 26/07/2017 17:51

It is a pool, splashes will happen. If you don't want to get splashed, don't sit by a pool. If the children are doing it on purpose, that is another thing though

TheSnowFairy · 26/07/2017 17:54

If you aren't Woman A or B, then how do you know it was only tiny splashes on Woman A's laptop?

sparechange · 26/07/2017 17:55

Woman B
The children could have jumped anywhere else and both sets of people could be happy
Insisting they stayed at the exact spot that would inconvenience Woman A is just being nasty and antagonistic