Am I being oversensitive and U?
Shelvesoutofbooks · 25/07/2017 15:22
Would you be hurt if you found out someone who you considered a friend was describing you to others as overweight + hair colour?
Conversation went like this
A - Oh I see you've met shelves
B, C, D, - oh who? Few people with that name here
A - the overweight redhead
Now I'm 5'7 and 11.3 stone and I think I look pretty good. I feel hurt but feel that I am overreacting. I just think there were many other words that could've been used to describe me, and that overweight was unnecessary.
Pengggwn · 25/07/2017 15:23
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user1476869312 · 25/07/2017 15:59
'Overweight' is rude. If she was, for instance, describing you to someone and needed to make it clear that she meant you and not another, very skinny, redhead, she could have said 'the big/plump/curvy' redhead.
There are times when it's OK to use size as one of the two or three tags for describing a person quickly. If there's a lot with the same hair colour, and everyone's wearing the same uniform (so you can't say 'hair colour and wearing the green stripy jumper') but desribing someone as 'over weight' is critical of them.
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