Am I being oversensitive and U?

[Shelvesoutofbooks]

Would you be hurt if you found out someone who you considered a friend was describing you to others as overweight + hair colour?

Conversation went like this
A - Oh I see you've met shelves
B, C, D, - oh who? Few people with that name here
A - the overweight redhead

Now I'm 5'7 and 11.3 stone and I think I look pretty good. I feel hurt but feel that I am overreacting. I just think there were many other words that could've been used to describe me, and that overweight was unnecessary.

[Loopytiles]

Her own body / food issues affecting her behaviour, perhaps. Doesn't excuse it of course.

[GiBlues]

It doesn't matter if it's true or not, (which from what you've said about your height and weight I would say it isn't!) a "friend" should never describe you like that.

I'd have naff all to do with her after that. LTB

[Branleuse]

i think overweight sounds worse than calling someone big, and tbh, at 11 stone and 5ft 7 I wouldnt have thought it was a particularly good way to describe you anyway

[Shelvesoutofbooks]

Doubt DH was trying to stir shit 😂

To be honest, even if she said chubby/chunky or something among those lines would've been fine, but overweight seems like a personal dig as this woman is health obsessed and organic and all that while I eat healthy but not that healthy.

[mrsRosaPimento]

You're not overweight.

[livefornaps]

She's not your friend!

[Loopytiles]

Mean of her.

[marmaladeforme]

I heard a 'friend' of mine say exactly the same about me. I'd phoned her and she was talking about me as she answered the phone. I told her I'd heard her but she denied it.

[KimmySchmidt1]

My question is this: who is the scheming sh1t stirring bitch that told you about it? Hmmm? Are they really your friend?

[SapphireStrange]

Oh, strikeout fail.

[SapphireStrange]

Hair colour, fine (unless they said 'bad dye job' or something like my hair)

But 'overweight'? I'd NEVER describe a friend that way.

[livefornaps]

How do you know that that was how she described you?

Super mean and she's shown her true colours!!!

[Shelvesoutofbooks]

DH overhead her say it.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

At 5'7" I wouldn't consider 11.3 as being overweight.

But even if I was like a housed I wouldn't expect a friend to describe me like that!

[user1498911589]

Better the overweight redhead than the unpleasant bitch!

YANBU to be offended by your former friend.

[Gemini69]

not a friend sweetheart

[user1476869312]

'Overweight' is rude. If she was, for instance, describing you to someone and needed to make it clear that she meant you and not another, very skinny, redhead, she could have said 'the big/plump/curvy' redhead.

There are times when it's OK to use size as one of the two or three tags for describing a person quickly. If there's a lot with the same hair colour, and everyone's wearing the same uniform (so you can't say 'hair colour and wearing the green stripy jumper') but desribing someone as 'over weight' is critical of them.

[Leeds2]

Who told you about this conversation? Are you sure they are telling the truth?

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

Well she's shown how she really feels about you, hasn't she! judgemental.

I wouldn't stay friends with her. I wouldn't necessarily take her to task over it either, and I'd stay civil, but I'd also distance myself now.

[Phosphorus]

You might be right.

I'm in the green/healthy zone for BMI, but at 5 foot 2, and 9.5 stone, I definitely look overweight. I feel it too.

If someone described me as the 'chubby Irish one' I'd recognise myself.

[Finola1step]

Sometimes people slip up and show their true colours. One flippant remark can show what they are really like, deep down. This person is no friend of yours.

[DonaldStott]

Oh and your mate sounds unkind. The hair colour, not an issue. The overweight bit is mean.

[DonaldStott]

You are not overweight. Healthy bmi for 5ft 7 is anything up to 11st 6lb.

I am aiming for that weight at the mo. That is how I know.

[RhubardGin]

Wow what a bitch!

She isn't your friend OP

[Rainybo]

I'd rather be your friend than hers.

Chuck that one.