That I just don't know what to do? I am completely at my wits end and worried about the state of my mental health to be honest. I have desperately wanted to breastfeed ds as I stopped with dd after 5 days when she lost too much weight and I panicked and switched to formula. I was heart broken at the time and feel it played a big part in post natal anxiety due to the guilt of feeling like I had not giving her the best start I could.
Ds is 6 weeks and ebf. I feed him ALL THE TIME but was feeling so happy to be breastfeeding and really loving the closeness and our bond. However he has still fallen two centiles from 50th to the 9th and only gained 5 ounces in 12 days. I have had lots of support and he was diagnosed with a posterior tongue tie.
We saw a private lactation consultant yesterday who advised his tie is unlikely to benefit from a snip and when she observed me feeding she felt improved technique and position would solve the issue.
Basically, he had a shallow latch and just fed from the nipple and was really struggling to feed efficiently. Lots of rapid sucks, not much swallowing. I hate that he has to work so hard.
The consultant got me to feed with a nappy under my boob, and self latching and it was amazing, he had a huge wide mouth for the first time and did long deep sucks and swallows. It felt so lovely and I left feeling mega positive.
However, since I got home I can't replicate it. He has gone back to the shallow latch. I have spent all day and night trying to get him to replicate that brilliant feed but failing. I called the consultant who just advised to keep practicing.
Yesterday evening I got pretty hysterical. Its all just too hard and I am so worried about his weight. If it was just a case of putting in the hours and feeling tired I could do it but I feel like I am starving my baby. The consultant advised he will find feeding challenging due to his tie and without being able to get that good deep latch, which we have tried everything to achieve over the last 6 weeks with loads of advice, he won't gain weight.
I don't feel like a failure necessarily, it's more a feeling of grief for the experience I have had glimpses of, the feeling of closeness and that I am able to provide him with everything he needs. I am torn between carrying on but feel the time and energy needed to just keep him at an acceptable weight gain is not sustainable requiring hours of pumping to build my supply. I am already feeling neglectful of my beautiful daughter and husband who is mega supportive. But the thought of giving up just feels wrong as well.
I swore when I was pregnant that I wouldn't do this to myself again and would give it a good go but not get hung up if things didnt work out. Yet here I am again, just so distraught at what is the best thing for Ds and my family.
I am honestly normally a really positive, laid back person which is also why the anxiety after my daughter and how I am coping now is such a shock. Any advice or shared experience would be amazing right now.
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lloveroftobleone · 25/07/2017 06:30
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