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Original poster

To not want DH to go to to Thorpe Park because tbh im jealous?

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MummyMiddleton · 24/07/2017 16:37

I am almost 6 months pregnant (due Nov. 10)

DH and I have been invited to Thorpe Park next week. I have said there is no point in me going as I wont be able to do much apart from eat and sit on the fake beach. But DH still wants to go. I really want to be ok with him going but at the same time I am VERY VERY jealous. I love theme parks and thrill rides. I live for them. I cant wait to be able to go on them again and one day we can take Daniel too. I know pregnancy doesnt last forever and I would rather have our baby than a one day fun experience. But it still hurts to see other people having fun when you are not

Should I ask him nicely not to go or should I just bite my tounge and say fuck it? Its either I upset DH or I upset myself? Aibu?

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fruityb · 24/07/2017 20:05

My son is not easily distracted. If he wants me he won't be distracted, he wants me! There are two of us with DS but it doesn't make it any less easy. I'm sure when he's bigger it'll be easier to pursue our own things when he's around. But for now my playstation and crochet can wait. I don't read as much as I did because I can't bury myself in a book while Ds is around. But in all honesty why would I? I only get this time once, my books and games will still be there.

And trust me, when your own baby has been crying for ages playing peekaboo is the last thing you'll want to do. They don't care.

CheshireChat · 24/07/2017 20:06

Fellow Cheshire I live quite far from Cheshire, it's a reference to the Cheshire Cat actually Grin.

Ironically enough given the thread, I picked it because of American McGee's Alice (game)...

Thanks though, it's nice to know you can buy it.

Children need interaction, fruity is doing just that and it's selfish as fuck to just ignore them because you fancy doing something else.

Fruity It sounds like you're having a hard time, please ignore the OP troll. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to PM me or maybe start a thread.

Original poster
MummyMiddleton · 24/07/2017 20:08

fruityb

This is also a lifestyle for us. We are going to take him to convensions and dress him up and he is going to grow up around our culture. We alreay got him am enderman costume and hes not even born yet

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KitKat1985 · 24/07/2017 20:08

I never said you would die. But you are coming across as quite 'naïve' as to what having a baby is like. Of course I still sometimes watch TV or play a game or something as a mum, but the reality is the opportunities are few and far between now. Yes they are wonderful in many ways but they're also exhausting and need constant attention, and you are 'on call' 24/7 for all of their needs and wants without any respite. And since your DH will presumably have to carry on working fairly soon after the baby is born given that you both are self-employed and run your own business, it's going to be you on your own a lot of the time managing the baby, especially if you plan on breastfeeding.

Original poster
MummyMiddleton · 24/07/2017 20:09

CheshireCat

Like I said, we wont ignore him. We can take turns or do both. Or even get him involved when he is a bit bigger.

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ImAFurchester · 24/07/2017 20:09

PMSL at this thread

Sirzy · 24/07/2017 20:10

And what if he doesn't like it? Just because that is your plan doesn't mean he will agree

Original poster
MummyMiddleton · 24/07/2017 20:10

What does PSML mean?

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Toysaurus · 24/07/2017 20:10

Poor Danielson, being dressed as an Enderman and dragged around like a little toy for entertainment.

ImAFurchester · 24/07/2017 20:11

If a baby on a bus is crying, your natural reaction is to play peekaboo with it.

Next time my DS is kicking off on the bus I'll give you a call and invite you to come and play peekaboo with him and see what happens.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 24/07/2017 20:12

Well this thread is all kinds of strange Hmm

Original poster
MummyMiddleton · 24/07/2017 20:12

Sirzy

If you grow up around a certain culture you cant really disagree. Its like gypsies, thats all they know. Its a way of life. A child raised by gay parents wont grow up to be homophobic. A child raised by gamers wont hate gaming

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NicolasFlamel · 24/07/2017 20:12

I feel like Daniel is already sick of this shit.

Sirzy · 24/07/2017 20:13

Of course because children never rebel against things that are forced upon them do they? Hmm

Toysaurus · 24/07/2017 20:13

Did Confucius say that?

ImAFurchester · 24/07/2017 20:13

Actually I think you'll find a lot of kids naturally rebel against what their parents are into.

My parents are musicians and I was raised in a house full of music.

I'm not musical at all.

KitKat1985 · 24/07/2017 20:13

We are going to take him to convensions and dress him up and he is going to grow up around our culture. We alreay got him am enderman costume and hes not even born yet

So you managed to find the time to do this, and spend hours gaming, but have never managed to find an hour to read the leaflets the midwives gave you in nearly 6 months. I'm sorry but you need to grow up. There's nothing wrong with gaming, (I enjoy the odd game myself), but I know what my priorities are. And spending an hour reading some frankly, very basic, information on pregnancy in the past 6 months should have been a priority for you and your DH, not buying an enderman costume.

CheshireChat · 24/07/2017 20:14

Thing is kids need your full attention. Sure, you take it in turns/ kid sleeps/ is too young to care (we watched the Walking Dead with baby DS) and you can use that time however you like. But people are just trying to manage your expectations.

Xeneth88 · 24/07/2017 20:14

This is hilarious. Oh wow perfect pregnant, first time mums are. They know it all, like teenagers Grin.

fruityb · 24/07/2017 20:15

You're very kind @CheshireCat I love being a mum and my son is awesome but I have definitely found this much harder than I ever anticipated it would be! But I know that each day it gets that little bit easier. I just wish there were certain things he'd stop gravitating towards in the house that he shouldn't lol.

13Bastards · 24/07/2017 20:15

*Let me get this right...
*
You haven't done any research into pregnancy at all despite maintaining that Daniel is very loved and wanted.

But

You have invested in some shitty costume so you can drag the little thing round some convention?

Hmm
Original poster
MummyMiddleton · 24/07/2017 20:15

KitKat

We didnt go out of our way just to get the costume. We happened to be at Insomnia and picked it up.

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ImAFurchester · 24/07/2017 20:15

fruity I feel your pain Flowers

I have a 16mo. 99% of my life is spent chasing him away from various things he can't have.

cloudchasing · 24/07/2017 20:15

MummyMiddleton you are a genius Grin

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 24/07/2017 20:16

The best thing to do with kids is to distract them. Their attention is easily changed as they have very small attention spans anyway.

Yeah, good luck with that.

Maybe if you were supervising him properly and gave him something to do before you go your phone out he wouldnt be trying to eat them?

Says the person who is planning on 'gaming' or just easily distracting them with a toy. Hmm

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