To know that I couldn't be friends with this person.

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Hard hat on and ready for the flaming to commence

Now the fuss is that it is twattish in the extreme to publicly measure your worth by your ability to perform a bodily function that many women struggle with and it makes the support group seem unapproachable and judgemental.

Hmm I feel quite bad for the lady who owns that Skoda. I am fairly sure I know who she is and she doesn't deserve all the hate on this thread. She is actually a very lovely, kind woman who gives bags of time as a volunteer to support bf but is really not judgemental and will help people out with ff if they need it too. She is also no longer bf her son as he stopped of his own accord around 12mos and she can't have more children.

As pp have said, it's a sticker for a South Devon bf peer support group. I had one as they were given out at a social event for the group with some other freebies. I thought it was pretty wanky and binned it but some others jusy went "ooh free sticker" and stuck it on. We were all new mums and I don't think anyone thought they were making a big statement. Most members of Latch On I know are navy wives, TAs, a few schoolteachers, a nicu nurse - all really down to earth types.

Also how many of you walked around with your mat notes in a Bounty folder? Were you doing it to deliberately promoting the harassment of women on postnatal wards and the commercialisation of the NHS?

Or was it just some free shite you got that you used without thinking? I really think it's the latter going on here.

Sleep one day god that's a lot of effort for something to shit in!!!

Red - Maybe I'm just feeling argumentative, but I don't see that they are publicly measuring their worth - are they really being smug or just celebrating breastfeeding and promoting an organisation that they have perhaps found useful? I don't know - I do kind of get what you mean, but I just think some people's reactions are a bit strong/harsh.

Johnny I see what you are saying, and to a certain extent i agree. But i really think that whoever came up with the sticker should have put an awful lot more thought into what it was saying - above and beyond the literal printed words.

Especially as a representation of an organisation that is primarily dealing with women who are experiencing problems with breastfeeding.

As a woman who is in the catchment area for this organisation, and 'failed' to breastfeed, i am offended.

Utterly ludicrous! Breastapo gone mad...

Not read the whole tread, but oh my, er that's on a par with (tmi) "I gave birth vaginally" stuck on your rear windscreen

Now i read it as smug.

My DD is 8 months old and i could not directly bf, i tried to express but could not manage it past 4 weeks. It still upsets me a little but opening this thread and looking at that sticker (before i read any comments, just looking at the sticker) nearly brought me to tears, it makes me feel inadequate quite frankly. I don't like it, I'm not saying it's rational, but i cant help how i feel - and i would bet i am not the only one.

I don't think that is what the support group would have intended in a million years, but that doesn't mean it doesn't come across that way.

Red yeah I don't disagree which is why I chucked mine and the sticker designer certainly needs to have a word with themselves - but feel a bit uneasy that a volunteer has had photos of her car plastered on the net for mockery.

I will also say that one of the things I love about Plymouth is how a lot of stereotypically mc mummy things like slings, home births, cloth nappies are done here by wc mums, young mums, and women who peer support one another. I do think the community spirit here is great and I think this sticker is just intended to helo that, ill judged as it is.

l was once at traffic lights behind a people carrier with a sticker on the back window that said "BREASTFEEDING MUM ON BOARD"!
I've never seen one before or since. l sincerely hope she wasn't lobbing a boob out while driving....

Redsippycup same here. I had to give up breastfeeding after 6 torturous weeks of trying, with my HV forcing it down my throat that "breast is best" despite me being unable to produce enough milk to EVER satisfy DSs hunger. He was a very unhappy unsettled hungry baby that was losing weight instead of gaining.

"ALL women can breastfeed if they really want to!" she said. "Women have been breastfeeding since we were cavemen!"

I plunged into depression feeling like a failure and a terrible mother. I went to see my GP who put in a complaint to my HV team about her, stopped her visits on my behalf (as I thought it was a legal requirement I had to have a HV, but turned out I didn't) and told me to formula feed (tried combined bf/ff first but my boobs totally gave up just two weeks after starting combined, so he ended up exclusively ff... and became a happy healthy settled satisfied baby as a result!)

This kind of public smuggery would have stung like a bitch back then. In fact, it still stings

To be honest - that sticker alone wouldn't put me off being friends with someone, it's just a sticker and doesn't mean that the person is smug or judging you as someone who hasn't breastfed.

I would be more wary of someone with the fish symbol on the back of their care.

Yeah, no point in raising awareness or anything like that. Not like we have the lowest breastfeeding rate in the world

We don't have the lowest breastfeeding rate in the world because of lack of awareness. We have the lowest breastfeeding rates in the world because of lack of support, lack of competent information, and lack of investment in helping women to feed successfully. It makes me SO ANGRY, the notion that if we just made women feel even more guilty and depressed they might magically feed better.

We need investment in infant feeding support, not guilt trips.

Oh good lord. I haven't rtft, but honestly, it's a bloody jokey sticker. From a peer support group.

It might not be brilliantly judged, but seriously, you'd have thought from some of the responses on here it said something terrible.

Sad when people can't get past their own prejudices.

I bf my 2 dcs for years and was a bf helper but these signs make me want to 🤢. Incredibly smug. Lots of mums beat themselves up that they didn't manage to bf and these sentiments really don't help.

Notknownatthisaddress, seeing the picture you posted made me think of one famiy.
Now to make it clear, I've got two kids, both vaginal births, G&A only, bf-ed first til 2 years and second is now 19 months and won't give up the boob.
But that picture made me think of one family in my older DDs nursery class. They are, of course, vegan, and mum BFs younger kid (about 18 months), as soon as they sit down.
Went to birthday party, the (estimated) 18 month old was bf 3-4 times in space of 2 hours. Went to nursery leaving party that lasted an hour, the kid was bf twice. Just don't get it. I am obviously pro bf, having bf both of mine, but come on!
I see this mum having this sort of a sticker on her car. Then again, she is probably too environmentally friendly to have a car...

Hopefully not whilst driving?

Can you get one that says "kids all had bacon sarnies for breakfast - white bread, real butter"

Good grief. Both mine were breastfed. They are older now. Maybe I should get a sign saying 'teenagers who were breastfed on board.'

I'd vote for having a T-shirt printed & wear it whenever they're with you!

I'm glad I've read that it's an advert, but it's still a wanky sticker.
And I bf both mine until they were around 2.
I couldn't be friends with that person, but then I couldn't be friends with someone who had a "little prince/ss on board" sticker either - I find them ALL wanky.

I do like my "My other ride is a broomstick" sticker - but it's not on my car.

I can feel the heat rising in me with rage !! Complete tossers .......why, why, why...???

Is that sticker incase she's in a car accident and her boobs aren't in the car, the emergency services know to look for them?

Lol!

About the sticker - don't see the problem with it myself. Perhaps it's just a new mum excited about her baby?

One of my best friends has this sticker. I'd be a bit of a dick if I was to let that affect my friendship with her. I have to say though, if the sole purpose of this sticker if to promote the local latch on group then why have the details in small writing at the bottom underneath a statement that will get a lot of people's backs up?

The details of the service are not very memorable though. As a promotional campaign it seems pretty effective.